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A warning: My GRS story

  • My name is Robin. I came to GS about four years ago looking for confirmation that there were other people like me. I started HRT at 58 years, then GRS at 61. It is now nine months later. Before one can undergo GRS, you have to live FT as a woman, and undergo regular evaluation by a gender therapist. All of this went very well; my depression became much less debilitating, my mood was good, I was happy! I found employment at a well known women's retailer, I was known to be TG, but it did not matter to most other staff. But I couldn't wait to get rid of that thing. My letter was sent to a surgeon I chose and a date set. Excited was not the word. Anyway everything went very well, and I returned to work, really a changed person. Changed in more confident, and that I belonged with the other women. But that is all changing. i see women in their 30's and 40's and I am never going to look like that. I never had that experience growing up. Before everyone at work found out I was TS, I was "included" in more "women's talk" but not anymore. Everyone is friendly, they just have not found a common ground in me to relate to. So talk always concerns work. But getting back to comparing myself to other women, I just wish I had the opportunity to do GRS earlier. An acquaintance of mine, who started HRT at 22 years looks beautiful, and she will have the advantage of a nearly full life as female. I am having serious second thoughts about my decision to have GRS. Sometimes I consider transitioning back because I just do not match up well next to the women I wanted to be like. That was a mistake to expect that, that I would have a nice curve to my body. It's impossible with our large rib cage, unless surgery is done. So be very careful and realistic about your transition at such an advanced age. If under 25-26, try for it, your body may have an easier time readjusting to hormones. At 60, you are just too much of a "man" to get optimum results. You may, like me, be disappointed.

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  • Traci Lee O'Gara and Briana Q like this
  • Traci Lee O'Gara
    Traci Lee O'Gara Pt2 Try to carry yourself with all the dignity and self assuredness any other person our age ought to. Be confident in yourself and embrace the good that you are! you are beautiful, inside and out!
    Traci xoxo
    December 1, 2015 - 1 likes this
  • Hannah Ceridwen Eluned Cavendish-Grosvenor
    Hannah Ceridwen Eluned Cavendish-Grosvenor Traci has touched on all the important points: I used to say at work to the staff that 'in the work-place' about 4% love you 'to bits', 4% dislike you intensely and 92% are totally indifferent to you. You are indeed you, both inside and outside, and peopl...  more
    December 1, 2015 - 2 like this
  • robin w
    robin w Thank you friends, I know you want the best for me. What I mentioned, but didn't follow up on is my depression. It, as my psych MD warned, he said (before GRS) he was just afraid it might come back. He was correct. I always found fault with myself, a un-s...  more
    December 1, 2015 - 1 likes this
  • Traci Lee O'Gara
    Traci Lee O'Gara I have never had to deal with depression, so perhaps it is wrong for me to comment on your unique situation. That said, the day I just began to accept me as me and learned to love that person was the day I became truly liberated from my past. Everything...  more
    December 2, 2015