My name is Robin. I came to GS about four years ago looking for confirmation that there were other people like me. I started HRT at 58 years, then GRS at 61. It is now nine months later.
Before one can undergo GRS, you have to live FT as a woman, and undergo regular evaluation by a gender therapist. All of this went very well; my depression became much less debilitating, my mood was good, I was happy! I found employment at a well known women's retailer, I was known to be TG, but it did not matter to most other staff. But I couldn't wait to get rid of that thing. My letter was sent to a surgeon I chose and a date set. Excited was not the word. Anyway everything went very well, and I returned to work, really a changed person. Changed in more confident, and that I belonged with the other women.
But that is all changing. i see women in their 30's and 40's and I am never going to look like that. I never had that experience growing up. Before everyone at work found out I was TS, I was "included" in more "women's talk" but not anymore. Everyone is friendly, they just have not found a common ground in me to relate to. So talk always concerns work.
But getting back to comparing myself to other women, I just wish I had the opportunity to do GRS earlier. An acquaintance of mine, who started HRT at 22 years looks beautiful, and she will have the advantage of a nearly full life as female.
I am having serious second thoughts about my decision to have GRS. Sometimes I consider transitioning back because I just do not match up well next to the women I wanted to be like. That was a mistake to expect that, that I would have a nice curve to my body. It's impossible with our large rib cage, unless surgery is done. So be very careful and realistic about your transition at such an advanced age. If under 25-26, try for it, your body may have an easier time readjusting to hormones. At 60, you are just too much of a "man" to get optimum results. You may, like me, be disappointed.