Transition Update, July 5, 2015

• Posted by Daphne Anne Farr July 5, 2015 855 views
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  Gee, it's been almost 2 months since I've written my last update. I guess time does fly when you're having fun. I've certainly been having fun, or at least interesting times. I'm getting out "en femme" much more often, and so far I have not had any problems with that. I have two cis-female friends that have been a great help in this. I still don't have the confidence to go out to a bar or restaurant solo, but give me some time.

  
  

  Last Saturday, I went bowling with my two cis-female friends, and another friend of theirs. I didn't bowl, just watched them. We then went out for dinner at a really great Mexican restaurant. The food was fantastic. My friend Susan took the opportunity to introduce me to a lot of her friends there. It's great to be treated as a lady. I love being called "Ma'am." My friends then wanted to go to a bar where I am well known in my "male" identity. I didn't feel comfortable about that, both figuratively and literally -- my corset was digging into my sides, and the wig was getting oppressively hot on my head, so I bid a fond adieu and headed home.

  
  

  I got home, took off my femme clothes and makeup, just threw on a pair of jeans and my "boy" shirt, and was totally bored. So back into the car and up to the bar where my friends were. I had a great time seeing people I haven't seen since I quit drinking 2 1/2 years ago. More than a few asked me when Daphne was gonna stop by. I was astonished that so many people know of my transition. I was assured by all that I would be welcome there en femme or en homme. That makes me feel good.

  
  

  On Monday, I went to my weekly group session at the VA Hospital. I always attend those meetings en femme. A group of us always hang around in the parking lot afterwards to chat. We decided to do Chinese food and we went to the King's Buffet on Bandera Rd. What a feast we had there. The three of us trans-women were treated like the ladies we are. "Yes, Ma'am" "Thank you, Ma'am." It definitely did wonders for my psyche.

  
  

  I've come to the decision that I need to "out" myself to my family and to all my friends. My plan is to first talk to my brother and then to each of my kids. I'll do that in person. Then I'll talk to some long-time friends on the phone. Once all that is done, I'll post on my "male" Facebook page. I'm planning on posting a blog explaining my reasons, etc, and attach a link to YouTube to a video presenting Daphne to the world. I should have this done by the middle of next month.

  
  

  Well that's about it for this installment. I'll try to be more punctual in the future.