Transexual With Young Children

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    Hi 

     

    Ive Recently just signed up to become a member and this is my first Blog, Ive tried doing some reasearch and lot of googling but not getting the answers i need. 

     

    Ive Just Turned 30, Lived in Denial for Most of life, hoping it was just cross dressing, and even supressed by feeling and urges for at least 4 years. 

     

    But it all bulit up this year and exploded. ive come clean to my partner, who thought i was just a cross dresser and told her it goes much deeper. unfortantly im not lucky to have a supporting partner, who can appcept this?  I bet a  lot of women couldnt, which i understand, but doesnt help me. 

     

    Being in denial i thought having children would cure my feelings, i know its very selfish of me, but at the time, that was not my intensions. 

     

    My Daughters are 4 and 5 years of age and i love them more than anything.  (i ways say i wish i started transitioning earlyer, but im glad i did not as i would not have my girls) 

     

    My Partner has told me its crule and unfair to my daughters if i decide to go a head and transition she has also told me they would pciked on and bullied at school and would take them away from me, as i would be a freak and a pervert.. 

     

    I have this whole lot of extra bagage, i dont need right now,  but i can not carry on living a lie any more, ive deiced to carry on with my transition, behind my partners back, she has not left me any choice in the matter - i tried to be honest (just say i can spend more time with my children)

     

    Ive Been to see my GP which has know idea about it all, who then refereded me to a counsiling assement, which was 2 weeks ago, who has now refered me to a specialst psychiatrist which im waiting for First Appointment - Which will not come soon enough. 

     

    Say are there any other Transexuals Male to Femal who have young children who could share some thoughts what they would go through? is it possible to keep a family unit togther? 

     

    also interested in some information on my next steps with the psychiatrist, ive read you to see them at least 2 or 3 times before start HRT 

     

    Any way, i hope you enjoy reading my first blog 

     

    Danielle

2 comments
  • Shirley Arriey Hi Danielle I used to know a Post Op TS who had young children. From what I remember they were divorced but she still saw her kids and they got on well except that occasionally they still called her "Daddy". I suspect your partner feels like she's been...  more
  • Devon Marie Gillmour Echos most of what ive gone through, i do have a supportive partner and my family are still together. you have a difficult task ahead gaining the support or even acceptance of your partner, however your children will be much more accepting but they will...  more