The Occasional Crossdresser 6

• Posted by Kati Davies March 25, 2013 #  #Dressing  #marriage  ##acceptance  2,537 views
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  Hi All,

   

  So sorry this has been over a year in the writing, but the next stage of my story is here.

   

  As I have explained in my earlier blogs, Mrs T and I hit a bit of an armageddon a few months back when I thought it was all over as I simply couldn't ignore Kati any longer. 13 years of a very happy marriage was great for both of us, but the suppression was slowly killing me. We talked stiltedly and decided that we ought to have a proper evening where we talked about the whole issue properly. This resulted in a massive awakening for both of us, and it turned out that a; I wasn't going to spring a transition onto my wife, and b; she wasn't really too bothered about my dressing.

   

  Moving on a year, we are still not terribly comfortable talking about my alternative personality, but I do press the issue and we do talk rationally about it.

   

  We recently went to a hotel where we talked long and openly about it, ending in me showing Mrs T a picture of me as Kati (although wearing an old discarded dress of hers, and not, as I had planned, wearing clothes that were nothing to do with our relationship.) This seemed to go very well, and we ended the evening intimately with both of us wearing some amount of clothing normally assigned to women.

  The next few days, however, were difficult and ended in Mrs T getting quite emotional and me realising that we had gone way too far way too fast. My desire to be me totally, overtook our desire to be a normal couple.

   

  For now, we have taken a step back, but I am hopeful for the future.

   

  With extra small steps, using Mrs T as a guide, we will get to somewhere where we are both happy and accepting.

  It is difficult for me, as I have seen the light at the end of the tunnel, but it is also difficult for Mrs T as she wants the tunnel not to end. In fact, she would prefer there were no tunnel to begin with, but is dealing with the fact that she will be in it for the forseeable future.

  I wish the tunnel were never even built and that both ends flowed seamlessly into each other.

   

  It's a difficult time, but I know I am blessed with a loving wife who really does want to understand better. I am doing everything I can to help her, but must always remember that pushing her forward will only make us move backwards.

   

  Tough old life, but I wouldn't change it for the world.

  Lots of love and hugs to you all.

   

  Kati xxx