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    • June 6, 2017 9:56 PM BST
    • Oooh.  Pretty.  But probably out of my budget.  Damn.  Envy is a terrible thing.  



    • May 30, 2017 4:24 AM BST
    • It was reported that Coach is buying Kate Spade for $2.4 billion. Perhap in the future you will say "My handbag is by "Coach Spade, and that is why it resembles a football." (smile) xoxo

    • May 30, 2017 1:59 AM BST
    • I own handbags by Kate Spade and Coach among others...(smile)


    • May 29, 2017 6:36 PM BST
    • #GotCoach  #GotKateSpade  (smile)


    • May 29, 2017 3:06 PM BST
    • Yeah I come with a lot of baggage.

    • May 29, 2017 3:06 PM BST
    • Yeah I come with a lot of baggage.

    • May 29, 2017 2:44 PM BST
    • Phew!!!  *giggles*...about those handbags????  


    • May 28, 2017 8:51 PM BST
    • Overall questionnaires are good for finding out what you want, or expect.  This is quite different from what you actually believe.  The thing is, the person filling out the questionnaire can usually figure out what it is about and then go about giving you the answer that they think you want.  This can work, if you allow for it.


      Take the infamous COGIATI for example.  This test has some very dodgy, generalised assumptions.  These are basically that men are good at maths, while women are not, but are equally good at literature and communication.  Since women are socially better than men, the assumptions go, it follows that women should be more clued up when given a social situation.  So very general assumptions that most people feel to be true.  It is also about as subtle, almost exactly like a brick isn't.  So the person filling out the quiz knows what the quiz is asking and what the results should mean.  So you would think that this would negate the results?  But if the person influences the results to give an answer for their ideal gender, it actually tells you a great deal.  If you were male in both mind and body, you would spot the flaws and go out of your way to "Butch" up the answers.  However, if you felt that you were more female in mind than body, you might either consiously or subconsiously influence the answers more in line with your target gender.  So it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, even though it is actually very crude as a questionaire, you have still gained a valuable insite into the answers that the person wants and not, necessarily what gender their mind actually is.


      So some value can be gained from even the worst questionnaire.  However, it is all down to interpretation and this can be flawed unless you have qualatiitive data to back it up.  You might use other peoples stats as well, for comparison.


      Anyway.  Enough stats waffle.



    • May 28, 2017 12:28 AM BST
    • "The assumption that you have perfect questionnaire design is a floored concept." true!  Garbage in, garbage out...surveys can be skewed to produce results slanted in the direction you're hypothesizing!  And too many variables extends the sample size needed to get proper true ratios worth using.

      One on one interviews with open ended questions seem to be a better way to dig deep to true feelings and meaningful information...might not fit the direction the interviewer wants to take it, but a good interviewer ought to figure out that quickly and change their questions on the fly...doing it that way is a lot harder and far more time onsuming though...

      Traci xoxo

    • May 27, 2017 10:38 PM BST
    • I think that surveys are good from an accademic point of view, since you can usually graph the data and come up with stats.  So lots of quantanive is good for making a point.  However, the qualatitive quotes are a pain to corelate, but in my view essential.  How can you find any sort of conclusions with just data.  The assumption that you have perfect questionnaire design is a floored concept.  Several sources are essential and actually asking somebody how they feel, or what their experiences are is a lot better than just jugling stats.


      Well, thats my view anyway.



    • May 13, 2017 2:11 PM BST
    • (grin)

      Blanchard is like Satan to the trans world!!!


    • May 13, 2017 1:56 PM BST
    • Baileys book was based on Blanchards work and other morons.    Blanchard then recanted some of his outrageous statements after

      universal uproar from the trans comunity and proper experts.   Tracie has been reading my threads xxXxxx

    • May 12, 2017 11:36 PM BST
    • ...and then there's the Blanchard followers!!!


    • May 12, 2017 12:28 PM BST
    • While'st I might have sounded a bit harsh, we get lots of people only join to post their own links to their own surveys.    My pont being if people doing resesearch post their questions and theories on this site, read some of our informative forums, we can have discussions, you can learn from us, I have spent years researching this condition fom a biological spectrum, also spending years studying laws in the UK that affect transgender people directly,  I am now a post graduate law student.   There are no easy yes no answers or even one word answers to any question relating to trans issues.    Many questions have many answers.     We all on this site need to be appreciative of people willing to learn and support us, people who have a genuine empathy with transgendered people.

      But some people do come here looking for answers and they have preconceived ideas ignore or twist what we say to suit their own ideas.   A typical example is a book called ''The man who would be Queen'' by micheal J  Bailey. who after years of so called research expounded the theory that transgenderism was based soley on ones sexual orientation.

    • May 12, 2017 11:05 AM BST
    • Hi Cristine,


      Apologies for any offence caused. 

      I do understand it can be annoying to constantly be asked to take part in things, and as a person who struggles with their own gender identity I am not a huge fan of surveys because they can be so impersonal, however, as a researcher I understand how important they can be.

      I do absolutely intend to do further work for this project which will be much more 1-2-1, meaningful and personal. The survey is only the beginning phase of the project. I would absolutely be interested in having open conversations about some of the issues I am trying to research.

      Again, apologies for any annoyance caused. 

    • May 10, 2017 6:22 PM BST
    • While it is appreciated that people want to learn, understand and support us.

      If people doing studies/surveys want answers, have the decency to take time out to post questions in OUR forums, I am sure you will get more answers, more information and a better understanding of issues, problems whatever. I realy cannot be arsed trolling through countless links to fill in these things on other sites. We would then debate the answers you get, furthering your quest for knowledge.

    • May 9, 2017 5:49 PM BST
    • Hey everyone,


      Thank you to all who took part in the survey.


      I am now up and running with the final completed survey and do need around 400 responses. Anyone who has the time and opprtunity to complete the survey or share among friends, it would be really appreciated.




    • February 2, 2017 2:17 PM GMT
    • Hi everyone,


      My name is Ben and I am currently completing my PhD at Kingston University. Gender expression, trans issues, equality issues are all issues close to my heart and have always been at the forefront of my research.

      I am currently doing some research into low level, everyday experiences of abuse and hate crime targeting the trans community.

      I am in the middle of piloting a survey and would appreciate any responses by anyone who has the time and this may be of interest too. There is a question at the end asking for feedback on the survey.

      It should take around 20 minutes to complete and you can withdraw at any time. The link is below and thank you in advance for anyone who has the time to complete the survey.

    • May 14, 2017 10:13 PM BST
    • Try this link instead:




    • April 7, 2017 9:36 PM BST
    • Hi,


      I am currently studying for a qualification in education and, as a part of my main project I would like some input from the tg population with regard to a quiz that I have developed:



      I am interested to see if any particular data drops out of this from tg participants.  Please note -  This is not a COGIATI style test and is simply looking at education.





    • April 10, 2017 9:46 PM BST
    • There is also a Transvestite childrens TV series called Shezow.  A boy puts on a magic ring and transforms into a female superheroine.  Its a bit of a giggle, but goes a long way to show how peoples perceptions of gender are changing.



    • April 10, 2017 9:41 PM BST
    • The US figures are 48%.  This is quite high, but remember that religion is quite a major part of life over there.  Add to this the general American conservativism and there is a lot of social and religious presure placed on anybody who does not fit in with this strict picture of American youth.  In the UK, from what I have been able to find, I believe that the figure is closer to 28%.  This would seem to be quite high, but not really considering that many young people find it hard during teenage years.  Tryting to find out who you are and being allowed to be that person is traumatic for many.  This is especially true for transgender teens.


      My own teanage years were not bed of roses and I tried a mixture of alcohol and sleeping pills to solve my problems.  Furtunately I puked before I could do too much damage (I never was a great drinker).  Just as well or we would be doing this via ouiji board.  The main thing that I remember was that I felt alien and alone and just generally in pain.  My main motivation was that I wanted the pain to stop and could not face the prospect of another 50 or so years feeling like that.  


      That was a long time ago and I can say that I am happy that I was able to pull myself together.  However, painfull memories, even now, so I will shut up about it.  But if anybody wants to talk about their own issues, PM me.



    • March 16, 2017 3:10 PM GMT
    • Big uproar in the press and media about the budget and raising the self employed persons Nat Insurance levy from 9% to 11%.

      So what!,    The advantages of being self employed..   A self employed person has no direct employer to top up their NI contributions, which indirectly reflects on the wages/salary they are paid as opposed to someone on PAYE, (pay as you earn)

      Self employed people have all sorts of tax relief that people on PAYE don't get.   PAYE people cannot claim expenses, for travel to work, clothes for work, dry cleaning, percentages of their utilites for operating a business from home.   Mobile phones costs, road tax and insurance for vehicles used during the course of their business, maintenance costs.    My travel Card costs me £1,892 per anum, Tax deductable, big chunk for those who work for companies on PAYE.   I also have a private pension plan and accident cover, also tax deductable, those on PAYE now the government has a policy that emplyees have to pay in the employer pays in, so this also reflects on wages salaries on offer.

      I do accounts for quite a few self employed tradesmen, they claim for washing and replacing their work clothes, boots shoes, tools, even a business suit to go and see clients, all stuff people on PAYE have to pay for after tax.   Overall the self employed will pay the same as NI as those on PAYE, they will get the same state pension, Medical and if they don't earn enough they will still get income support.   SO STOP WHINGING, not forgetting the odd unacountable cash jobs. get an accountant, Oh! thats also a tax deductable item.


    • March 1, 2017 7:12 PM GMT
    • Hi all, 

      ok. so firstly let me be clear, i am not transgender, but i am somewhat familiar with the feelings that the transgender population have since i am somewhat alike, unlike feeling like a female traped in a male body, i strongly feel like a 2-4 year old child stuck inside a 40 year olds body. Now before anyone jumps to conclusions and shouts AB (Adult baby) i will say the following, based on the consensis that is an "adult baby" NO.

      let me explain.

      The main prospect to AB's is a sexual attraction to diapers, this means that the term AB is classed as a fetish. 

      what makes me different is.

      i have no sexual drive, None what so ever, i cannot abide sexual intercourse, nor do i conform to any form of personal satisfaction. as such i do not fall into the same catagory as AB's.

      i have been having therapy for the last year, and appear to suffer from some sort of DID, (Dissasociate identity disorder) although, the official diagnosis is long away.

      Anyway, i though i would come on here and ask a question.

      i have been wondering, what transgenders would say to taking care of someone like myself, in a way adopting (not quite) and becomming parents. I know that the option is aviallbe to adopt children, but the criterea is extremely difficult, and wondered since you are aware of the feelings that are associated with this, that you would understand more.

      just a question..



    • January 27, 2017 9:59 AM GMT
    • Being new and noticing this thread is fairly old I'll assume most of the replies from members are over and done with.
      I am from Bristol and here things are very well sorted !
      There is always something to do any day, anytime, 365/24/7 ! So if your ever in the area give me a shout and I'll be happy to help !
      Bristol is a very vibrant and active city. There are help and meeting events for the very newest and shyest person to the very most "Out there !" people !

    • January 17, 2017 9:58 PM GMT
    • We are looking for LGBT+ volunteers over the age of 16 for a research study on bullying and well-being. The study will involve one online survey (which includes questions which ask about your sexuality and gender identity).You are under no obligation to reply to this advertisement or the online survey. However if you choose to, participation in this research is voluntary and you may withdraw at anytime. The study is approved by King’s College London Psychiatry, Nursing and Midwifery Research Ethics Subcommittee reference HR-16/17-3969.

      We are conducting a research study looking at the link between experiences of bullying and psychological well-being in LGBT+ people. Your participation will increase our knowledge about mental health issues affecting the LGBT community. You will be asked to complete a set of questionnaires about your gender identity, sexual identity, age, gender expression, bullying experiences, outness and well-being levels. Overall, this study should last no longer than 20 minutes.

      For more details please contact Grace Robinson ( or Thivija Sabanathan (

    • January 11, 2017 1:11 PM GMT
    • Hi all, 


      I hope you don't mind me posting, I'm currently in my final year of a psychology with child developoment degree. I am trying to write my dissertation piece on gender identity disorder and would love to get in touch with people who may consider taking part, it would involve; completing a questionnaire and taking part in an interview lasting roughly one hour. Any involvement would be completely confidential. I hope to hear from some of you regarding taking part, I can give you further information if you think you might be interested.


    • December 4, 2016 5:11 PM GMT
    • The last few days, the papers have been full of the 'worst sex scandal ever, worse than Saville''   Firstly it was reported that Saville abused underage children, people that were confined to their beds in a hospital when he was a volounteer helper.   Disgusting, debased, horrific, the latest is about a football scout, (seems everybody knew at the time) who abused young apprentice players, presuming that all these talented young players were of a consenting age, while not condoning the behaviour, the position of advantage, I wonder how many of these so called young apprentices were overcome by the urge to be famous players earning mega bucks, at the time thought giving a few BJ.s whatever would help their careers along, we hear the same with aspiring actresses, singers, performers. (casting couch springs to mind) I am not saying people that have come forward neccessarily fit the profile, BUT if everybody knew, perhaps it was some sort of recognised behaviour, you scratch my back and I will scratch yours.  

      I do not condone the behaviour of those in a 'trusted position' being able to demand sexual favours, or any sort of favours. from those who are dependant on advancement in any position.   BUT I am sure it happens in all walks of life, from entertainment, politics, sport even in comerce and industry.    Those accepting the favours are just as bad as those demanding them, then suddenly it's news.   I wonder how many 15 year old girls, dress up like 23 year olds, go to night clubs with forged ID's to pull famous football stars, pop stars, then complain later.   Been there and done that, unfortunately, whatever, never pulled anyone famous to my knowledge..   I certainly would not have the audacity, to make a claim later on in my life.    If you plant a seed, you are basically responsible for what grows.

    • November 28, 2016 2:27 PM GMT
    • Hello everyone,


      I'm writing to you all to ask if you would please take a look and share my GoFundMe campaign.

      I'm trying to raise money for my younger sibling, Sarina, to transition.


      I would be ever so grateful if you would perhaps just have a look.


      Please, help me help her. I love her more than words can say and I want her to be happy.


      This is the link:


      Thank you.


      Anna x


    • November 17, 2016 12:14 PM GMT
    • Hellooooo :)

      I'm part of a group which is trying increase support for gender diversity by developing an app to make access to gender neutral toilets easier

      We have conducted loads of research to inform our ideas but are in desperate need of some good feedback

      It would be really helpful if anyone could have a look and give us some feedback on it

    • November 17, 2016 12:14 PM GMT
    • Hellooooo :)

      I'm part of a group which is trying increase support for gender diversity by developing an app to make access to gender neutral toilets easier

      We have conducted loads of research to inform our ideas but are in desperate need of some good feedback

      It would be really helpful if anyone could have a look and give us some feedback on it

    • September 27, 2016 8:24 PM BST
    • Snap! What's your daily target? I've got to the point where I can consistently exceed 10k steps, but I'm not seeing any weight loss yet. Not sure that I want to up the target with winter approaching ☔️

    • September 26, 2016 4:08 PM BST
    • Thanks Wendy.  I can't live without my Fitbit now.  It's taken over my life completely!

    • September 26, 2016 10:13 AM BST
    • New map for walking while using Tube

      Transport for London (TfL) has just released an official Tube map showing the number of steps between stations in zones one and two, so you can plan how to sneak in some extra steps each day.

    • September 27, 2016 12:04 AM BST
    • In line with the GRA in the UK, a pre op without a Gender Recognition Certificate cannot use common changing rooms or open shower facilitie


      Seems there is a thread missing in the law forum. Let me expand on my statement above, Transexuals not in reciept of a GRC and or pre-op shall not use common/open changing, shower facilities or dormitories, to avoid ofending other users or invite derogatory rhetoric upon themselves or invite threatening or abusive behaviour to themselves, think about it many swiming changing rooms and shower facilities would have mothers and young children present.


      Many people just read the 'press for change' web site and the 'gires' web site, where they advocate a change in the law, and take it as a fact.   It is a right that transgender people who are undergoing supervised transition can ask for a seperate facility to be made available


    • August 29, 2016 4:19 PM BST
    • Hi all. I've just signed up in the hope that someone out there might be able to help me get back in contact with my sister. I lost touch with her several years ago (despite asking her to stay in touch!) and the email address I have for her is no longer valid but I really do want to know she's OK. Born Peter Fifield but now known as Jade, the last time I heard from her she was DJing in London (and elsewhere) and also helping/advising others with make-up. Any pointers to her would be really appreciated, or point her in the direction of this post if you know her but are worried about passing on her details? Many thanks, John.

    • June 22, 2016 9:02 PM BST
    • Jane county did it in the eighties 

    • June 22, 2016 8:57 PM BST
    • Thank you Lucy


    • June 22, 2016 8:48 PM BST
    • Just smile and be yourself, Bea.


    • June 22, 2016 8:42 PM BST
    • I have my first appointment next week any tips 

    • April 20, 2016 7:44 AM BST
    • Some replies to my post of TWO years ago.  Thanks for those inputs. Obviously things have moved on considerably. The answer was of course obvious but I was confused at the time by them.  Basically they handled me incorrectly. 


      So I am no longer seeing anyone at the GIC and doing it all privately including using a trans aware GP.  I still do not agree with the GIC methods. But I realised I do not actually need them to tell me who I am.  I have never wavered from that course.


      I never stopped what I was doing but I, like others of the 1960s/70s, have a passivity and deference to people in authority like medics, lawyers etc.  I always thought doctors knew what they were doing and their opinions had to be right. In the face of strong opinions from people, I tend to clam up. I find it hard to think on the fly. Now I know differently about myself and I know how fallible they are!  From chats on Facebook I know others are also unhappy with their treatment by GICs.  


      But things are changing...


      This idea of self-declaration of gender currently doing the rounds via MP Maria Miller which to me, means the GIC is more marginalised and at least we have the nascent beginnings of acceptance of trans people.  We're more visible for sure.  I expect self-declaration will lead to the next thing, medical treatment on demand as a routine.

    • April 19, 2016 9:47 PM BST
    • Sorry Crissie I was doing 10 jobs at the same time in my response above. You do have a worthwhie life now and I am sure you are happy and content. Yes we could do without the hurt but for some of us I believe it makes us better human beings in the end. It makes us more understanding and caring and as you well know there are not enough who do understand or care but you do , that makes you special in my eyes. You have not turned out bitter as some do and I am proud to call you my friend and you should be proud of what you have achieved.


      Back to work now. Take care , Julia xxx

    • April 19, 2016 8:47 PM BST
    • True Crissie but when the gender clinic are trying to get into someones head they ask what could be called silly questions but they have obvious answers.

      They know what the answer should be to any question they ask , they are not a trick questions but there is only one choice out of the two and by asking questions such as above they can figure out the gender your mind thinks as.


      I was never asked that question but was asked random questions thrown into conversation once they have you in what they consider to be a comfort zone.

      Sadly there was never a question asking would you had rather had been born normal per se and that is because the answer is to obvious.


      Julia xx

    • April 19, 2016 8:17 PM BST
    • Surely if one had a magic wand, the sensible ones would whish to be normal per se, I would have missed all the hurt and angst, but being 'normal' would I have  a contented and happy worthwhile life, now.   If one could see into the future, one could win the lottery every week.   It's a chicken and egg question there is no answer.

    • April 19, 2016 8:01 PM BST
    • There is only one answer to the 2 questions above. Think about it.

    • April 19, 2016 10:30 AM BST
    • Hi Julia,Nichola,

                            Its interesting Julia comments about 1% being Transgendered.I made a blog post "silly numbers ,UK Transgendered" which relates the numbers to the health service provision for UK.Summarising Officially the BBC and NHS put a figure of 1 in 10,000 as being transgendered based on about 6.5thousand currently living inthe UK,population roughly 65million,who have officially registered themselves as Transgendered by making a definite registering to a government Department that name change ,Passport change,driving licence change to indicate a definite personal action to change their Birth gender.

        So currently the UK NHS provision for 1 in 10,000.which is a long way from 1 in 100.Personally I get the impression that 1 in 1000, will be affected by significant gender dysphoria in their lives.

      As julia points out and I am also aware many GICs have a problem with non attendence, and its quite likely that there are some non attendances by people with a genuine problem.

      Overall the Government and NHS are playing bad side ,nice side between them to deal with the discrepancy in numbers and resourcing. Best bet for me was to get a good relationship with NHS ,and if you can identify people in the  NHS who do private work, so you can progrees this and not feel you have been left out.There are some really excellent people in the UK in the NHS and medical profession who understand transgendered people and can help.


    • April 18, 2016 8:19 PM BST
    • Nichola the NHS website can be very helpfull if you look in the right places. One thing you should never do is believe everything you read on the internet from random websites. The reason you can believe me is because what I have told you to do is how I was prescribed hormones 6 months before my first appointment at the gender clinic , also people on here will tell you I would not lie to you or anyone else.


      If you are a smoker you will have to stop smoking for 3 months before you can be prescribed any hormones , and they will test you to make sure you have stopped.


      Take care , Julia

    • April 18, 2016 8:07 PM BST
    • thanks Julia - i will try that - I don't want to have to go down the road of buying stuff from Ebay whioh might be a cure for Horse flu or weed killer. I hear of others having had all sorts over the past months  (hormones and physh tests etc) yet I am still waiting for an initial appointment. The NHS site is useless - so little info on there.  Honestly it warns that we will have to sit to pee after having my willy cut off. As if I don't know that - it dioes not tell me that I needn't have great holes carved me if I don't want to. I found that out from a friend who was about to have exactly what I want while she was making a pot of tea.