"...when you do it daily, it becomes such a part of normal life that there is no 'going out dressed' anymore."is not quite true--though there is a lot of truth to it. It becomes "normal" because when you do it so often it becomes the routine.
I think we all start out, scared. I watched the women in the shopping malls and learned what they wear, how they carried themselves etc,,,,,,,,I try to dress to blend in, not stand out. I have been read of course, but most times I have no idea as I do not look around to see who is looking at me...Just act like you are supposed to be there. I am always watching for fem manerisms, where they carry their arms, how they walk, Each time i go out it is easier and now never an issue at all. Just have to check makeup all the time
I cannot say I have had a bad experience, but hey this is Canada!
Lately I have been returning from the USA into Canada as Brenda, without proper ID and still no issues.
Hugs Brenda
Fiona Lochaber said:
I think the best tip I could give is to not think. Stop thinking about being fem & just do it already.
I used to give myself away because I would think about how I would say something before I said and practice it my head and then muck it up when I went to talk. Sure practice and learn everything you can, but once you walk out the door, just relax and concentrate on doing what ever it is your planning to do, even if its just "gee this is good coffee" or "mmmm cute shoes". I know my voice will never let me down (I practised all the time, then got a job in a call centre where I was ONLY a voice)....... unless I think about it. Still to this day, my voice never sounds right if I'm thinking of how I need to sound.
We know we're women so why think about it to much? Most people are too concearned with whats going on in their heads to worry about you. Relax and you will blend :)
very very great post!