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  • http://lecanadian.com/201[...]-gay-2/

    If anyone in our Community lacks accurate sources of information on their proclivities, it is admirers. This article, the first full-article I have seen in the media, does a pretty good job of providing basic information about generally misunderstood sexuality.

    "Just because society likes to label people with straight, gay or bisexual doesn’t mean everyone fits into those categories. In the Transgender Dating world those terms don’t always match up to reality." - Jack Rush.

    Read the complete article at the link above.
    "A live lived in fear is a life half-lived." - Native American proverb. "Inside every man is a woman who was drowned in testosterone before birth". - Wendy Jeanette Larsen "It is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you're not." - Andre Gide (French writer)
      July 27, 2010 9:29 AM BST
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  • Hi Wendy .
    Interesting artical! "but" being transsexual is a tough one where relationships are concerned , through my own experiences most so called admirers are turned on by "a penis" most discribe it as the best of both worlds .

    Before i was booted off a website for being honest i was hounded by men wanting to meet me ( most married ) i think the worst one was one who told me to hurry up and make my mind up as if you have your opp i won,t be interested! so he wanted my thingy what i don,t want , i had no intention of meeting any of them as most are just bored with there wives and trying to find something different , i sent one of them over 200 miles to meet me last xmas eve , he had told his wife he was going to find her an extra xmas present and as i sent him to a place i had never bloody heard of he seemed a bit pissed with me after xmas cos he ran out of petrol and everywhere was closed .

    There are a lot of screwed up men out there with there brains about a metre from there feet , i was even offered £100 for one of them to stand in front of me and basicly play with himself , i had to explain i am not broke and even if i was your asking the wrong person .
    I would say the most truthfull part of the artical is " transsexuals are more feminine than gender born females" but there are feminine females around if they look .

    All the best Julia x .
      July 27, 2010 10:35 AM BST
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  • My only criticism would be that he is talking about pre-ops, but I suppose that if the lads can cope with that then they'll have no problems at all with post-ops.

    Lynn H.
    "It ain't what you do,it's the way that you do it............and that's what gets results!"
      July 27, 2010 10:37 AM BST
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    Well Wendy,
    As the head of the news part of our community site, you always seem to be able to find articles that are interesting and imformative.
    I have read the article and would have to say that it is written in an open and warming way that it can demonstrate further the different types of people who take an active interest in t-girls for a suitable partner. Yes it is mainly mentioning pre-ops but then it does mention that most of the girls will have a desire to complete their journey and have srs.

    I am open about who I am and yes I have dated t-girls and yes they were pre-op but that was because we met at a stage of their journey where surgery had not taken place yet. Do I think of myself as gay or bi?......No I do not because why would I want to label myself...In the end we are people whether it is male, female or tg, It does not change the personality of you on the inside, you will still have that sense of humor and other quirks that make you an individual.......

    Yes there will always be negative comments because mainly you do hear of the idiots who do not know how to treat another person as the person they are and not some kind of fetish object or carnel desire avenue of relief to prove to themselves something.

    My final words here are that we as a community need to look past the typical sterotypes and embrace the fact that we are sisters and brothers on a journey of discovery and along the way we can show others that we are normal people too and can hold our heads high and proud, knowing that we will be accepted for being us
    Not to borrow the strength of another, nor to rely on one's own strength; to cut off past and future thoughts, and not to live within the everyday mind... then the Great Way is right before your eyes. - Yamamoto Tsunetomo
      July 27, 2010 8:32 PM BST
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  • Wendy,
    My BF is completely straight (no jokes please) and had never been with a guy, or transgendered person in his life.
    We met through his sister who is a friend of mine.. it was at a New Years Eve party.
    The two of us have been together for almost 7 months now...and it just keeps getting better!!!

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    "and my needs entwined, like ribbons of light...and I came through the doorway, some where... in the night"
    <p>Doanna Highland</p>
      July 28, 2010 4:41 AM BST
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  • Ok lets look at it this way! . I am female but have male genitals , i don,t want them and never have wanted them , its like having an irritating wart but worse , over the years i have had contact (BY EMAIL) with literaly 100s of blokes on various websites and every one of them told me of there wishes to suck it and swallow , so why would any of them not be classed as gay or bi? if they were more interested in me being female surely they would at least mention my breasts "at least they are a sexual female part of me".

    Another part of this is the fact that blokes are ashamed to be seen out with transsexuals , i Know i am nothing special to look at but i have had offers of romantic walks along the beach' walks in the park' even a walk along the thames "but only at night" , if any man wants to take me anywhere he would have to go when i wanted to not him! and have you noticed the above activitys are free? its called cum and run .
    Men are a waste of space .

    Julia xx .
      July 28, 2010 5:36 PM BST
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  • Hi Wendy,

    Not sure my experience is relevant to the topic (but when has that ever stopped me...)

    More that 35 years ago my partner was a post-op TS. As a TG I may not qualify as a "man". And to be honest, we really never "dated" before we got together. We were living in the same large house with a few others when we became a couple.

    She was post-op when I met her (I have often wondered If she was pre-op, would I have been interested? Don't honestly know - I did have concerns that I might have been gay when we first got together, but that didn't last very long.)

    Some have suggested that I had a fetish for a TS lover, but we broke up (for reasons I've discussed here in the past) and while I've had quite a few TS (pre- and post-op) friends I've have never had the same feelings as I had with her, I don't think so.

    Don't think you can generalize about human relationships - just too many factors come into play (lots of which those in the relationship are unaware of.)

    Best,
    Melody



    <p><span style="color: #800080;">Girls will be boys and boys will be girls It's a mixed up muddled up shook up world except for Lola Lo-lo-lo-lo Lola</span> - Ray Davies, The Kinks</p> <p><span style="color: #3366ff;">(S)he's a walking contradiction, partly truth and partly fiction</span> - Kris Kristofferson</p>
      July 30, 2010 2:16 AM BST
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  • the problem with that articles is the constant mixing up of TS and TG as though they mean the same thing when they decidely do not.
      August 1, 2010 1:23 PM BST
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  • the problem with that articles is the constant mixing up of TS and TG as though they mean the same thing when they decidely do not.
      August 1, 2010 1:23 PM BST
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  • Its a well written article to help people find a better education but once it is realised that there is nothing wrong with being gay then the subject becomes mute. I'm happy to be gay. In fact I try to be as gay as much as I can. I also try and be straight as often as I can too! :)

    I would say that if the article was solely about males preferring post-op transgendered women then it is not gay. I consider males who prefer pre-op transgendered women because of what is between their legs to be gay.

    I've heard a lot of admirers say they are not gay because they cant see themselves with "a man" but want to experience male genitalia in bed with a transgendered woman. Putting a pink ribbon on something doesn’t change what it is. I have a good number of gay male friends who enjoy dressing up in women’s clothing for sexual gratification and they view all of their partners as gay and they are very comfortable with who they are. In fact some of them are stunning and I feel slightly jealous.

    If the admirers who say "they aren’t gay because it's all about the person and not what they have downstairs", why do so many lose interest once their woman is post-op?

    Psychologically, I think guys prefer to see themselves as not gay. It just shows how deep the stigma of being gay is for some people. That said I think it is important to respect the gender of a transgendered person so any guy interested in a transgendered woman isnt gay as long as he isnt after whats between the legs.

    Love
    Penny
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    Just an ordinary girl finding her way in this strange life. - What will it take to get everyone to realise that everyone else is also a human being that deserves just as much respect? - How does someone tell their doctor they have hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia? - When I was a student I specialised in Alcopology. It always starts with Alco and always ends with pology. - Waiter! There's a hare in my rabbit pie!
      August 1, 2010 4:02 PM BST
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  • I think admirers are as diverse as any other section of the population, some closeted gays, some genuine, who realy don't care if a girl is post- op or pre-op being attracted to a personality or some other trait, then there are those, that just like somthing different. I have had lots of come ons here in chat and messages on my mail box, most of them lose interest when they find out I'm willy-less.
    Cristine Jennifer Shye.  B/L.  B/Acc
      August 4, 2010 8:38 PM BST
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  • Hi, this is my view only so please don't flame me as I don't mean the following in an offensive way/manner.

    As a male who finds pre/post op heading towards full gender reassignment attractive I don't consider myself gay as I consider the person to be female.
      December 27, 2010 9:14 AM GMT
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  • Tina was female upstairs but male downstairs when I met her. Still haven'y lost interest in her. As for being gay, I wasn't interested in what was between her legs.

      January 16, 2011 9:42 PM GMT
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  • Rose whats with the TG and TS, bit.

    Transgender
    A person who's gender identity or gender expression does not match their anatomy or conform to social and cultural expectations. Transgender or "trans" is an umbrella term inclusive of all gender non-conforming children, youth and adults. The opposite of cisgender.

    transsexual
    A person who's distress over the incongruence between their gender identity and physical anatomy is strong enough to lead them to seek hormonal and/or physical changes to their body in order to bring their gender identity and anatomy into alignment.

    An extract from the Synopsis of the Etiology of Gender

    rofessor Louis Gooren, MD, PhD. (The Netherlands)
    Professor Richard Green, MD, JD, FRCPsych. (UK)
    Dr Lynne Jones, MP, PhD. (UK)
    Dr Frank Kruijver, MD. (The Netherlands)*
    Dr Joyce Martin, MRCGP, MB, ChB, D.Obst.RCOG. (UK)*
    Dr Zoe-Jane Playdon, BA(Hons), PGCE, MA, MEd, PhD, DBA, FRSA. (UK)*
    Mr David Ralph, MBBS, BSc, FRCS, MS. (UK)
    Mrs Terry Reed, JP, BA(Hons), MCSP, SRP, Grad Dip Phys. (UK)*
    Dr Russell Reid, MB, ChB, FRCPsych. (UK)*
    Professor William Reiner, MD. (USA)
    Mr M. Royle, MBBS, FRCS (Urol) (UK)
    Professor Dick Swaab , MD, PhD. (The Netherlands)
    Mr Timothy Terry, BSc, MB, BS, LRCP, FRCS (Urol), MS (UK)
    Mr Philip Thomas MBBS, FRCS (Urol). (UK)
    Professor James Walker, MD, FRCP, FRCOG. (UK)
    Dr Philip Wilson, DPhil MRCP MRCPCH FRCGP. (UK)
    Dr Kevan Wylie, MB, MmedSc, MD, FRCPsych, DSM. (UK)

    The fact that transexual is missused and thought of to denote a porn star is wrong.





    Cristine Jennifer Shye.  B/L.  B/Acc
      January 16, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
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  • Hi Cristine,

    To put it a bit more simply:

    All TS are TG, but not all TG are TS.

    Best,
    Mellie
    <p><span style="color: #800080;">Girls will be boys and boys will be girls It's a mixed up muddled up shook up world except for Lola Lo-lo-lo-lo Lola</span> - Ray Davies, The Kinks</p> <p><span style="color: #3366ff;">(S)he's a walking contradiction, partly truth and partly fiction</span> - Kris Kristofferson</p>
      January 16, 2011 10:50 PM GMT
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    Ok, Can we keep this on topic please people

    Thank you please.......
    Not to borrow the strength of another, nor to rely on one's own strength; to cut off past and future thoughts, and not to live within the everyday mind... then the Great Way is right before your eyes. - Yamamoto Tsunetomo
      January 16, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
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  • I chuckle to myself because I have a number of male friends who say they will break in my new virgina for me, as if they are doing me a favour! lol
    Just an ordinary girl finding her way in this strange life. - What will it take to get everyone to realise that everyone else is also a human being that deserves just as much respect? - How does someone tell their doctor they have hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia? - When I was a student I specialised in Alcopology. It always starts with Alco and always ends with pology. - Waiter! There's a hare in my rabbit pie!
      January 17, 2011 5:38 PM GMT
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  • My experience convinces me that gay men are not, as a rule, remotely attracted to transgendered women. Ipso facto, this indicates that men who are attracted to transgendered women are not gay in the commonly understood sense of the word.
      January 18, 2011 6:51 AM GMT
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  • Rachael, I agree with the sentence that men who date transsexual women are not gay. However, I do have a very big problem with a lot of men who chat me up and are gay, which contradicts your postulation that gay men are not interested in transsexual women. I can only put it down to the men who chat me up as being ignorant regarding my plight of being a transgendered woman. I am regularly chatted up by men who ask what my male name is and they expect to be entertained by a gay experience such as sucking my c0ck. It’s quite frustrating and I usually answer these questions and proposals with a very big sigh. I try my best to respect everyone but I find it most difficult to respect people to fail to respect me.

    It must be very difficult for genuine admirers who date transsexual women considering the prolific sexual abuse given to us by generally ignorant people.

    Love
    Penny
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    Just an ordinary girl finding her way in this strange life. - What will it take to get everyone to realise that everyone else is also a human being that deserves just as much respect? - How does someone tell their doctor they have hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia? - When I was a student I specialised in Alcopology. It always starts with Alco and always ends with pology. - Waiter! There's a hare in my rabbit pie!
      January 18, 2011 11:07 AM GMT
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  • Penny, thank you for your reply. I take your point about the assumptions some people make and act upon when they encounter a transgendered woman, which as you say amounts to disrespect.
      January 19, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
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  • 734
    I see myself very much as a straight female. Whilst I have absolutely no problem with people being gay, I simply have no interest in gay men / clubs / scene etc. So, straight men only for me. Please form an orderly queue ...
    www.raekelcou.com
      January 19, 2011 6:47 PM GMT
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  • An orderly queue? I think that just being a little too choosey!! lol :)

    My sophistication shines through once again...
    Just an ordinary girl finding her way in this strange life. - What will it take to get everyone to realise that everyone else is also a human being that deserves just as much respect? - How does someone tell their doctor they have hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia? - When I was a student I specialised in Alcopology. It always starts with Alco and always ends with pology. - Waiter! There's a hare in my rabbit pie!
      January 22, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
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  • 734
    Haha! Good point Penny. Could be why my queue remains empty ... xx
    www.raekelcou.com
      January 22, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
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  • ...and mine
      February 5, 2011 10:07 PM GMT
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  • 734
    Is that an offer?
    www.raekelcou.com
      February 6, 2011 8:02 PM GMT
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