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Ok so I didn't know if I should post this in hormones or general chat but I wanted to talk about sexuality and how HRT impacts it. I know this is a touchy subject for a lot of girls. Since I am starting HRT this February this is something I have been thinking about for a long time and may I say had some trepidation with in the past. I've of course been studying the many aspects of HRT , preparing myself for what to expect in all facets of things, including some loss of libido and skrinkage issues. I want to be honest here and say that my sexuality has been quite important to me in life.
I am aware on HRT that mental aspects of eroticism will change and the physical issues too but I have no other experiences of sexuality to go off of in life up this point except through my brain and my penis. This is where I have my questions/thoughts. Is it really so bad for some TG women to be ok with their penis. I know some girls find it quite distressing and erections to some are a bane of existance. Some TS as I understand are really not even interested in sex and may fall into the asexual category. Many posts I've read on certain sites and forums even have opinions you shouldn't transition if you enjoy your penis.
For me, I never have had the desire (yet.. things could change I know) to go through complete SRS not to mention the cost factor which is way beyond my means in any forseeable future. Still all the other aspects about transition and HRT , breasts , mental and appearance mean the world to me. I have had GID many many years now. I hope this subject isn't too taboo. It is important to me. I've made up my mind about how I feel and I plan to be ok with the willy staying a part of me,at least for now and at this point even hope I continue to have some type of sexual pleasures in my life. Is this so wrong, is it bad? I was just curious about how others feel on this subject here. Any and all viewpoints are welcome.
xxx Jessica
Interesting, Obviously hormones will eventually affect your male libido and performance, Sexual orientation is not determined by gender change, The persons gender you eventually form relationships with or remain with, might just depend on who you fall in love with. A person should not put so much importance on social expectations and conditioning, as in ''your a woman now, you should find yourself a man''
Its debatable wether the actual taking of female hormones will eventially change your sexual preferences. This could be down to the aformentioned social pressures and conditioning that a person is brought up with, a deep rooted sense of sex with men is unacceptable, or that you just want a female partner, perhaps your experience of male peers has had some affect on you.
Generally its the consensus of many highly regarded gender therapists that forming a relationship with a man is percectly natural, your a woman think like a woman, present as one, which logically would make you heterosexual.
My girl friend is a pre-op transexual and at the moment she is perfectly happy as she is.
Either way or both, its an individual thing, ......
Lots of GG's (ovarians) have tiny breasts and lots have large breasts.
Some love sex and some dislike sex.
Some enjoy sexuality and some don't.
Some fit in somewhere between in each of these three areas.
Guess what!....we are more like GG's than we think!
Doanna
Exactly right Lucy, Sometimes we have to make do and enjoy the freedom and thrill that driving a beat up old metro gives us until we get that new motor we have always wanted. Sometimes going back to driving that old metro, just for the fond memories and pleasure it gave us at the time. lol.
This has become a pretty interesting thread! Trans women run the gamut. I had ideas of this already but it is good to actually hear input here. I've always been bi. Interestingly, when I have settled into a committed monogamous relationship my bi feelings become dormant. It is all quite fluid depending on what circumstances I have found myself in. I'm single though these days so the fluidity is back. It can be quite dizzying lol. Another observation.. does it seem to anyone else there is a school of psychiatrists out there that seem to want us to be asexual. I get this feeling society or the establishment sometimes seems threatened by sexuality of trans people and feel more comfortable when it is voided. Just generally speaking overall..like I have talked to ts girls who had to reherse their responses toward the asexual realm when asked about their sexuality to gender therapists in order to go on mones.
the psychiatrists want us to be asexual as to have us admit that we want vaginas to have sex with men like normal women makes them face their own hidden homosexual /homophobic impulses. so having us appear as asexual is actually a ego-protective reflex by shrinks.
