"Before someone can seek the courage to transition they need to come to terms with the disjunction between the reality of their own life and the external, arbitrary life that has been created for them by others." quote - mine.
Not only is the identification and acknowledgement by an individual as transsexual paramount to embarking on transition unencumbered and supported, but it is also tantamount to productive and harmonious societies. No person is an island. Indeed, in the Daily Mail article Jane Fae broaches this issue of comfort.
Mostly its about comfort. The same sort of being comfortable in your skin that drives women –some men, too – to fix things they hate about themselves.
In my little insignificant world, the question of personal comfort involves feelings of cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is the very real psychological disjunct between what a person knows they should do and what they are able to do. Clearly, there are personal and external obstacles to the things people know or desire to do. To me, how and when we remove those obstacles, for ourselves and for others, is the challenge we should all set ourselves.
I think a new paradigm in transitioning is being heralded in by young transsexuals and the developments made around identifying them. The changes to society that are needed in order to accept and receive these young people cannot be done in isolation, and so it will, in turn, transform our own communities if not the World. I will be watching this site, https://www.facebook.com/ImTransAndProud kindly posted by Joanne Lee, with great interest and sincerity. Surely, this facebook page gives witness to transsexuality as a solution rather than the creation, reinforcement and perpetuation of a problem. Personally, I would prefer to be reading 'good news' stories about transitioning instead of the constant whining and whinging about how society has not bowed down to serve us, that I too often have to endure. We are not here to be seved, but to serve. We can help ourselves by helping others. Indeed, Jane Fae shows this service with her article and she cites a similar assertion.
And joy – sheer joy! -- at understanding finally what the problem was and that there were ways to fix it.
Notwithstanding, Jane Fae also scoots over the problems of both the passive and active opposition, resistance and violence towards the Transsexual Cause.
Middle-aged, not the most adventurous of women, the level of violence I experience day-to -day is nothing to what some of the younger trans community put up with. ... Because of the mindless hatred that is out there can pounce in an instant, turning your day to dire, or your life – if you are really unlucky – into just another statistic.
Statistically, Transsexuals occupy 1% of the current census. But so do bikers and nobody gives them much of a hard time. lol! Nevertheless, our authorities in this country have been moving towards outlawing 'bike gangs' for more than a decade. How can you outlaw, 'outlaws'? But my point is that while our Government is making it harder for bikers to form gangs, a lot of work is also going into the assistance, facilitation and development required for the acceptance and reception of people within the full transgender spectrum. Indeed, several politicians in our Federal Government are openly Gay and some of those even have partners.
So, what is the way forward? To me, its already in the Gender Society Charter – positive and supportive. I will be looking for others who can be upbeat in the face of adversity and appreciative of different points of view. Perhaps now, a final word of gratitude from, and to, Jane Fae.
For being trans is not choice, not aspiration, not a goal. For some, it may be personal tragedy: for others salvation. In the end, though, it is about comfort – and finding ways to live with oneself.
In service to all Trans-folk.