http://www.hemingways.org/GIDinfo/therapy.htm
This makes a good read Miranda. If you think I have insulted you you are wrong. As for a liar? No I have not called you a liar.
My concerns and others here are about the speed this has happened , it does make unbelievable reading but on the "medical side" If you read through the link above you will see why this is unbelievable. A corparation like Kaiser should know better , however much "Anyone" wants or needs to transition there are far to many other things to take into account , speeding up the process will not help it "Could" end in disaster.
You do really both need to take care and caution .
Good luck , Julia .
Anyone here can put the blame on me as much as they wish I really do not give a sh*t about blame. One thing I do care about is people. Some of us here have been through hell to get to where we are now. All we do is try to give others our experiences that we have gone through in the hope it can give some insight into what can go right or wrong. Having that insight can at times give others foresight. Forsight is one thing you do really need doing this. You cannot see into the future but you can avoid the pot holes.
Yes I care! So shoot me .
Julia .
American Psychiatric Association .
Section: Diagnosis Gender Dysphoria updated April 2014.
The American Psychiatric Association permits a diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria if the criteria in the diagnostic and statistical Manual of Mental Disorders are met. The DSM-5 moved this diagnosis out of the sexual disorders and into a catogory of its own.
The DSM-5 states that at least two of the criteria for Gender Dysphoria must be experienced for at least "Six Months" duration in adolecents or adults for diagnosis. The diagnosis was renamed from "Gender Itentity Disorder" to "Gender Dysphoria" after criticisms that the former term was stigmatizing. Subtyping by sexual orientation was deleted. The diagnosis for children was seperated from that for adults. The creation of a specific diagnosis for children reflects the supposedly lesser ability of children to have insight into what they are experiencing , or ability to express it in the event that they have insight.
The International Classification of deseases (ICD-10) List three diagnostic criteria for "Transsexualism" (F64.0) Uncertainty about gender identity which causes anxiety or stress is diagnosed as sexual maturation disorder , according to the ICD-10.
Now reading the above not all of this applies to adults but the part that is of interest is
"Must be experienced for at least six months" That means in adults. It also means a six month involvement by a medical professional from the way I read the "Whole" of the process (And I did)
This was taken from The American Psychiatric Association , it is only a section and the whole topic is covered there. I am no expert and never pretend to be but the one thing I did learn to do before I was kicked out of school at 12 years old was learn to read. I learnt what was fact or fiction too.
I would like to think that the author of the above knows what they are talking about for this to be published by The American Psychiatric Association. I understand you have different laws and regulations in different states but , I will never understand why it is called The United States! You very clearly are not united as every state has a different law or rule. This came from a search for California but that does not mean it applies there "But it should".
Lucy has stated above that she actually has no problem with your therapists approach! Myself and most would dismiss that attitude . To me it is a selfish thing to state not knowing you or your full medical history.
Take care.
I do not think anybody was alluding that the couple concerned were not genuine. it was the rushed way their case was handled by proffesionals, I am a sceptic about so called proffesionals, from personal experience, and a quick buck springs to mind.
People come to this site for lots of different reasons, some leave not finding what they are looking for, others looking for answers and information, some get answers they do not want to hear. other hear only what suites their own agenda. We give personal opinions or what we know based on fact, but I do not think anyone can fault us on the fact we get concerned and care
Shall I tell you my opinion if anyone here has not yet got it?.
Before I do it is my opinion that your comment was selfish Lucy! Agian it is my opinion.
So you think it is fine for a gender therapist to , without witnessing a persons behaviour to diagnose Gender Dysphoria in one appointment? Six months is a guide line. If every medical practitioner took the easy way out and just said "Yes you have Gender Dysphoria" after one appointment then there would be a lot of screwed up people in this world! Sh*t theres enough now.
The TG Bible as you call it is a guide line. If any person can walk in on a first appointment and say I am trans and they just take their word for it that is a recipe for disaster . There has to be some kind of guide line to work to and without one everyone will be taking out lawsuits everywhere. You have to admit if child says they can't go to school because their tummy hurts there would not be many children in school if their word was taken. Same goes for adults wanting a day or two of work.
In cases like this going on here it was that one appointment that got some of us here concerned. A comment was made yesterday in jest about a drive through sex change and a big Mac to go was the next thing that popped up on my screen or something to that effect.
It is not okay for people with the power to do so mess up another persons life. There has been no talk here of any previous conversation involving gender issues , one appointment and diagnosis made. Without making this any longer than I need to , it is medical malpractice if it ends in disaster.
Play your cards right Miranda you could be the next Erin Brockovich.
Julia.
Miranda.
With all due respect the answer has to be NO. A hundred things or reasons could have been given or used not just Gender Dysphoria.
Julia .
I am adding this: Transgender? A word , a word that covers many types of people. TS/CD/TV Ect. The medical practitioner has to be sure which one they are. Beleive me there are many people who do not even know themselves.
Who is Erin Brockovich? Type into youtube for the trailer .
Dare I answer this?
You probably had suspicions, but its a fact women marry men for a variety of reasons, protection, support both finacially and as a role model, father figure for their children, a sense of humour, honesty, integrity. kindness and understanding, a lover in a male role. Lies and deceit are all part of the problem of a gender disorder, the fear of letting down the partner, parent, family. alienating them and friends. fear of rejection. You have to ask yourself if you knew on the first date, would you have gone on with a relationship with someone that was going to end up as a woman, I don't think so. Not unless you had lesbian tendancies. Saying that, personally I think its who you fall in love with. Love conquers all? not in most cases in my personal experience. Ask yourself what will happen if you eventually find you miss the physical part of love making. feeling secure in the arms of a strong MAN.
What will happen as things progress if he starts to change his sexual orientation and leans towards a relationship with a man? its possible and natural for a transexual to want to be desired as a woman. All these things should have been gone into with the therapist especially when married with children. Thats why I think things are being rushed, its fantastic and admirable that you are staying with your partner, but these are things that might crop up, you will have thoughts and desires of your own.
Lucy I know you are perfect but I am not. As this has been made about you I may as well join in. The day I told my doctor about me was the last day I lived my life pretending to be male . I was refered to a local NHS therapist (as all should be) . I visited that therapist for as far as I can recall 6 times , it may have been 8 , one hour each time. I still have a copy of the letter he sent to my GP.
It says , I am discharging Julia from my care and refering her to The London Gender Clinic. She is comfortable and confident and convincing in her gender role and I have no need to see her again.
He told me he knew from my first appointment on my last visit . But , was he going to take the risk? No he done it how it should be done. Yes I was diagnosed too on my first appointment in London but , I did not just walk in and get a diagnosis , I had been living my life as female for about 7 to 9 months before that happened seeing my doctor weekly and the therapist every 3 weeks , never as a male .
Now this is going to sound like the start of a Tommy Cooper joke.
A man walks into the therapists , the therapist says take a seat how can I help you? . Well its like this I think I maybe or am a woman , Oh thats okay I will diagnose you as being Gender dysphoric. Next patient Miss Smith this ones done .
If you think thats the way it should be then it is not , and you should know better than to keep banging on about it being Okay because it is not.
Up untill last year I had been working along side organisations who asked me to help them. I met some of the most screwed up individuals I have come accross. Most did not know if they were fecking Rosie or Jim , one time they would turn up attempting to look like a woman and the next as a man , it done my head in. Trying to get it through their heads that wearing a dress does not make you a woman was worse than hard work , it was hard work.
I asked Crissie today and I hope she does not mind me saying this , would this website be better off without me? Her reply was Noooooooooo. Why did I ask her? Because I am wondering why I am here. With so many know it alls around who needs me?. Yes I admit I can be a pain in the arse at times but , this is all about care and beleive it or not I do care but this place can get by fine without my upfront honesty.
I have a few things to sort out about the security in the elite members forums and then I think I am done here.
Whether I hang around here or not I am not responding to you again. If you read through this thread you will see I am not alone in my concerns. I was actually the first one to point out concerns of the speed the diagnosis came. This is not about You and it is not about myself , it is others lives and other members are going to get confused over this. Future members will too , stop making it sound like a walk in the park just because it was for you.
To you I am saying goodbye.
Take care , Julia .
Linda T said:
The thing is girls, either you KNOW who you are before you go to your first appointment (like Lucy, and I know I will be the same) OR, you go because you are confused and need the appointments to help "work out who you are" which is much more difficult, and would require longer! Me....I don't have any issues with who I am...I am relaxed, not troubled and fully accepting of this!
Linda T said:
It's just that if we have a difference of opinion, it's NOT a reason to "make it personal" after all, if we were in a room debating this we wouldn't do that. It would be an adult discussion, with ALL views taken into account and discussed....wouldn't it?
This is going to be my last post on this topic and maybe on this website. Firstly giving up smoking. I presume you have been advised to quit because of the hormones but , that may not be the reason. If it is then you have to ask yourself which is more important? I was a smoker previous to taking my hormones and the choice was easy.
On a lighter note just do not put the thing in your mouth , try the bin. Some people ask me how to lose weight! I say the same do not put the food in your mouth. You have the ability to control your arm that moves things towards your mouth.
When people are under stress that can be hard to do so you have to find a way to take your mind away from the stress. I can go without food for days but that maybe down to being starved as a child by my Mother. Due to recent health issues I now have had to learn to eat again.
I am going to take this moment to say my part in this thread has been about care , I do not use the word selfish lightly, I am shocked to see that someone in this has finally thanked another member , a thank you costs nothing. There are some "SELFLESS" people on this website , Crissie is just one of those as it is very rarely about her , it is about others and this website.
Good luck with the giving up smoking , giving things up is hard as I am finding out right now with this website but , as I said to you which is more important? Now I have to decide what is important .
Take care , Julia.
About smoking...
When dinosuars roamed the earth and I was younger, smoking was considered the "norm" (whatever that is) at that time. During WWII and Korea GIs would receive cigarettes as part of their C rations (food packets in the field). I remember hearing commercials on the radio and later on TV (yes, I am THAT old) where physicians would recommend a certain brand of cigarette as being better! I wanted to be cool when I was in my teens so i started. Wise choice? Not by a long shot but the research that shows the harm of cigarette smoking was not available in 1966. Smoking was much more "in your face" back then. Everywhere you looked cigarettes were being advertised. Print, Radio, Billboards, everyhwere. It wasn't until the late 1970s or early 1980s that they banned cigarette advertising in most forms of the media of the day. So I smoked for 20 years. Nicotine is a very tough habit to kick. The only thing i can compare it to would be heroin or cocaine, it is that addictive. I just quit cold turkey one day and i still don't know how i managed it. I DO know that my wife said i was a real as*hole to be around for several weeks. I can say that there are physical as well as psychological withdrawal effects with quitting. I've known people that have been trying for years to quit and for many varied reasons can't. Notice how i didn't put won't here. Please do not read into any of this rambling that i am being judgemental of anyone in any way. The way that smokers quit is as diverse as the people themselves. Some people swear by Chantix or Wellbutrin as a supplement to quitting. Other smokers swear by the nicotine gum or the patch systems, etc. Lately, a lot of people have used the E cigarettes as a way of quitting. I only know what worked for me and that in retrospect was a terrible thing to inflict on the people in my life at that point. I wish I had know another way of doing back then but i didn't. Nicotine patches hadn't been invented yet neither had the gum. I DO know one thing for certain though. Even after almost 30 years of not smoking, every now and then I'll pass a smoker and it smells wonderful. I also know that if i had one cigarette I'd be back to smoking routinely in a matter of weeks. But that's just me. Addictive personality? Probably. I'll let you know what my psychiatrist says next month. Miranda and Anthony (Elizabeth) I wish you success in your quest. If anyone is really bored you can probably find a lot of those old cigarette commercials on your tube or the like.
I wish i could quit food the way i quit smoking that would be a true cause for celebration.
As always, I wish you both the best. Hold on to one another and let us know how we can help.
xoxo
marissa