I hope that we Trans people can become friends, support and be of use to you, and give you some idea of why we are driven to take this path.
Ours is a lonely life; but, we associate in the UK with the understanding and ( generally ) kind Lesbian, Gay and cross-dressing community for sympathy, support and company. It is not enjoyable sitting in a bar, club or restaurant alone.
I suppose that as a person who has no interest in men whatsoever, and enjoys the company of women, that National Statistics classify me as a Lesbian - well they have to 'label' you as something; and, they can call me whatever they like, just as long as they don't call me "early", and as long as it does not increase my Tax-liability !
I have some really lovely, kind and loyal Transvestite friends; but, they have no comprehension of the Transsexual's obligatory path ( when the internal programme inevitably clicks in, if we live long enough ).
Well, that's enough for now. I am off to make a cup of tea.