This topic now has a new title , it is! External links are they good for GS Part two?.

There are at this moment in time 9,802 topics in these forums . Emily Singh decided to pick this one to place her pathetic link. She came here for the sole purpose of posting her link and is not an active member of GS. She has not even got the ability to create her own topic..

This is now Emily Singh's thread as she has sent it way off course.

This post was edited by Former Member at March 11, 2015 9:41 PM GMT

*pointless*!  LOL  Seriously, you nailed it...if you learn to accept and love yourself, your inner beauty will become apparent to those around you and acceptance will come easily!  You have to be yourself because living as something else is very difficult and will ultimately become overwhelming!  

Thnx for the post!

Traci xoxo

Thank you Traci I was as usual just saying what was on my mind. I like being me it's so much fun. All I need is another go now , I may not look my age but time is going to fast. I hope the next generation can have a much better start than some of us did. There is a lot of good here on GS and that good translates into beauty in one form or another.

 

Take care xxx

I may be ugly, but I sure do not feel that way!!!  LOL

Don't ever change!!!

Traci xoxo

Traci is just messing about Crissie it is the way she is , it is part of her beauty. As you well know I have been called all of the names and more that you have mentioned above by a few members of this website.

As a child if I was told something enough times I started to believe it. As an adult I now just put it down to others frustrations or their own inadequacies.

I know I am no oil painting but I do care about others. Would I swap that for being an uncaring beauty? No I am happy the way I am.

As for you Crissie! Well you have the gift of both but you never stop caring and that sets you aside from any one beauty I have met.

 

Take care xx

This post was edited by Former Member at March 2, 2015 8:37 PM GMT

LOL...I'm totally OK with me as me, inside and out Crissie!  Thnx for your conern though...you are a doll!  Sorry for "annoying" you! (smile)

FYI, I try to find good in everyone and will make lemonade out of lemons every chance I get!!

Love ya!

Traci xoxo

Nice post Julia, I like that. I have always believed, however cliched it is, that beauty comes from within. It's so much more than just what is on the outside, although it's nice to have that too if you can. 

 

Being a woman also comes from within, it has nothing to do with what you wear, but is about how you perceive yourself and that directly affects how others see you as well. It's about being  a woman, and being beautiful, and the world will see you as such. 

 

<----agrees 100% with Nikki

xoxo

Beauty is being comfortable in your own skin and living life on your own terms. Beauty is being confident and facing society no matter what judgements they have. This story is about the journey of a male to female transition. It is true and written by me please have a look. This in my opinion is beauty!

 

http://www.skedline.com/news/from-he-to-she-the-life-of-a-transgender/

This post was edited by Emily S at March 5, 2015 9:11 PM GMT

Agreed!  (smile)

Julia- Many thanks for your lovely story. I really enjoyed all of it and wish that it would someday happen to me. As a matter of duty, I must slightly disagree with your beauty arguments. I would hope that members on the site would do their very besy to look as pretty and attractive as females as they possibly can.  This is one of my personal goals and I work a lot harder being pretty on the outside than I work for same on the inside. Naturally, I work on inner beauty, but  I think that character was defined long ago, and I am totally happy with its status. So I say- doll up in an elegant style and let people see how good you look and let them know by how you behave that you are also beautiful on the inside.

 

Jacqueline

Hi Jacqueline.
Sorry for the late response. Above is just a tiny part of things that happen to me daily. I agree that not just members but all trangender females should do their best to look presentable in their gender role. I just do my best with what I have but it is my ability to communicate with people that helps me. I have been told if my confidence could be bottled I would be very rich.
Now way back when I was living a lie as a male I had no confidence and was very unsociable. All of that changed when I changed. Someone very important told me today they would not have known about my past if I had never told him. He said he thought I was just like any other woman and that included talking to much. Yes I do talk to much but it is my talking about my past that opens others eyes. I am accepted before they know and respected more after they know. I want others to know how that feels and also that if I can do it then they can. I have said many times there is nothing special about me . I have no super powers I just had determination . That determination has now paid off so I hope others can do the same and find what I have.

Take care xx

Emily S.

Can you please remove that link you placed twice here. I have read your article twice and it is mis-leading and very inaccurate.

The title is wrong too. Your article is not a typical version of transition . In fact there is no transition. It takes a lot more than growing long hair to transition. Why am I not surprised that the person you wrote about was given strange looks coming out of the ladies room by the security guard?. The person is in no way identifying as a female , I think the facial hair is a dead give away. From he to she?. Please show me where?. A genuine transgender woman would at least make the effort to shave the hair from their face. The image you have posted in what you call before transition has less facial hair than after.

If you are going to write an article on a transgender woman in the future can you at the very least find one who makes an effort?. It really is not a good look and not a very good way to raise awareness.

 

Thank you.

 

Edit: Spell error

This post was edited by Former Member at March 9, 2015 9:50 PM GMT

It has typically been my experience with other transexuals that the FIRST thing we all seem to do in transitioning is to make arrangements to eliminate facial hairs!  I began hormones at the same time I began electrolysis 18 months before I ever shared my intent with others...at worst, if you decided to stop transitioning, at least you never have to shave again, right?  (smile)

But I'm with you Julia...it is dishearteneing to see others who will don feminine clothing while sporting scruffy facial hair or a dark shadow...maybe they are growing it because of electrolysis but I have seen a couple of "girls" locally that do not ever shave and wear mini skirts and costume jewelry around our city as if they have no care in the world.  The reason I cringe is not because I am a snob and look down at cross dressers but rather I know how hard it is and how much I have put into making myself "presentable" socially to where I blend in seemlessly in mainstream only to see all of the negative comments and stigmas being attached to the trans community because these are the images that uneducated people recall when the topic is brought up!  I do feel that many good people have helped to blaze our paths to acceptance thru their tireless efforts over the years and also feel strongly that those of us who have benefitted from their sacrifices owe it to them and our younger sisters coming behind us to set a good example of what we really can be.  And this is done by being productive, caring, giving, and kind and by presenting ourselves in the most positive manner possible at all times!  For those who are not a transexual, do you feel that this attitude is wrong?  Please be frank in your responses for they are all valid!

Traci xoxo

As I have stated Traci there is no transition in that story , if there is I am going blind and stupid. The person looks afro caribbean so hair cannot be eliminated by laser or electrolysis but there are other ways but a very close shave would help. The person presents themself as a male too . A pink scarf and long hair does not make any person a woman. It is the title that is bugging me "From he to she the life of a transgender" I cannot see it, am I effin blind?.

 

I am not heartless but this is not right. If the person who wrote this story thinks this is transition then they need to buy themselves a dictionary. If the person the article is about thinks this is transition then they need some professional help.

 

Thank you for you input.

 

Take care xxx

There is so much more to being a woman than what you look like!  It is the ability to live amongst women and be accepted by them as one of them that is very important.  Male behavior patterns are radically diferent than female behavior in general.  There is also how you comport yourself while walking, talking, eating, sitting, and just interacting with others.  I'll cringe watching my CD sisters slouch in booths at a club, leave their legs wide open, grab things, and other manly forms of expression to the point where I generally avoid going out to the weekly functions our transgender group plans here in town.  I much prefer to just blend in, being ignored, and going about my daily business like any other person does in their days.  But I also am in touch from where I came and started from and believe that by leading a productive and giving life aids in our progress going forward.  I accomplish this by trying to make at least one person's day better each and every day!  Seems it makes it real difficult for others to hate us!  (smile)

xoxo

The person who wrote this article has placed it here as every click furthers her career. They will never return and the article itself deserves no recognition nor does the author. I have wasted 4 A4 Sheets of paper printing it because I am not goint to help promote this and her career.

 

Here is what is wrong with it. The title is untrue and ignorant , there is no transition. Coming out to friends and family is not transition. The person in the article says they identify as a woman. Again that is only in their head it is not transition.

The person says they do not dress as a female because of insecurities. I can understand that but again there is no transition.

Using the ladies room dressed as a male with facial hair is asking for trouble. If I came across this person in the ladies I would be very shocked and point them towards the mens room. After all I would have someone in there with me presenting themself as a male and looking like one.

 

It is stated they are living their life on their own terms! Sorry but it does not work that way and expect to be judged if you enter a ladies room presenting as a male.

 

For what ever reason this person is doing this they should seek help from a specialist before they get arrested for causing alarm to others in ladies facilities. A persons own terms count for nothing unless backed up by a gender specialist or a professional.

 

Emily Singh be very ashamed for posting the link but even more so for writing such a bad article based on the word of one person and non facts.

 

This post was edited by Former Member at March 10, 2015 9:52 PM GMT

Not to mention the bad image that others gain or will judge us by!!!  That part disturbs me more than him pretending to be a transexual...if he wants to make a fool of himself, fine!  But it only reinforces the stereotype that mainstream holds for us, and that is fragile at best!

Traci xoxo

Traci I will when I get time be Emailing Emily Singh's boss and making a formal complaint about the flaws in the article. I do not have to power to have that link removed but I do have the power to tell my side of what the word transition means to the publisher of the article.

This does not look good on GS or to the general public. People will read and have read the article and think all kinds of things about transgender people who are having to face the real world not hiding behind insecurities. We face up to our insecurities and get over them because we need to for the sake of survival and just for the right to be ourselves without being ridiculed because we make the effort.

 

I am getting sick of this kind of shite being posted on this website.

 

Edit: We have very good well written articles by members here and from "good source" external links of interest and factual too.

 

Take care xxx

This post was edited by Former Member at March 10, 2015 11:05 PM GMT

Sadly, it takes all kinds to fill our diverse gender spectrum.  You, me, and others like us are at one end of the spectrum...at the other end come all sorts whose dysphoria to them is real and occupies a part of their lives.  It is difficult to tell someone who lives as a female for maybe an hour or two a week or month in their bedrooms when their wives are out that that which they are dealing with is not somehow related to what we live thru.  Remember, today's TS women were yesterday's CDs...I know I dressed for years and years without ever thinking or believing I'd transition one day.  It seemed such an impossibility until the internet evolved and showed me that I was not alone in this world.  The rest is history...

But the internet can be a good thing and a bad thing...I hear of far too many who blindly follow lame internet advice and destroy their lives because they want to "fit in" or "belong" and be "accepted" and will take the plunge head first without ever giving transitioning serious thought or have some sort of contingency plans in the event that things do not go their way!  Their fragile psyches are easily smothered by the weight and guilt of their falied attempts and many resort to drugs, prostitution, and even suicide as their only "alternatives".  And all of this happened because they got "off" wearing lipstick and panties and wanted more for the wrong reasons!  You see, you can grow breasts, a femme butt, soft skin, and all but you still are going to be the EXACT same person you were prior to hormones or transitioning and all...that is where the big disconnect resides!  Far too many think that having tits will make them a woman!  Hun, if you weren't one beofre, it is not going to happen just because you have breasts now!

Hope that makes sense...

Traci xoxo

Traci and anyone else. Can you be 100% honest with me and tell me can you see any "Transition" in that story?.

 

Be 100% honest with me and tell me am I going effin mad?. I cannot see it and it make no sense to me at-all. It is a waste of space and the person who wrote it is an effin dim wit.

 

Take care xxx

This post was edited by Former Member at March 10, 2015 11:12 PM GMT

If telling a couple of people that you are a woman and wearing makeup and a wig means "transition", then that person is transitioning!  (smile)

For those who are really doing it or have done it, well, his story is not even close to our realities...

Have a go at it Julia if you think it will accomplish anything positive!  Be constructive and offer some insight on what it is really like...if you just attack and slam them, they will react negatively to you and our site...(just my two cents)  you can do this!  (smile)

Traci xoxo

Traci I have no intention of attacking anyone. The person who wrote the article needs to be put straight on some facts. It is very obvious they did no research.

As for GS it will not harm here and I bet my life savings it has been posted on every trans site that person could find to post it without it being removed. As usual GS is just an easy target for these link posters. They join place a link and feck off never to be seen or heard of again.

 

I need sleep zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

 

Take care xxx

xoxo

Wish you well...(smile)

Sweet dreams!

Traci 

Before I go to bed to get my daily 23 minutes and 47 seconds sleep has anyone here noticed this. For all of this persons insecurities they do not mind having their name and photograph posted all over the internet and most likely in print too?.  It is making one very big statement! Hey look at me I am a woman.

 

If that is insecurity then I am Paris Hilton! Of course that is not my name but then I am a woman who speaks out but at least I am not ashamed of myself. If I were my life would not be worth living.

 

Time for a very short dream xxx

As far as I am concerned this thread is now dead. It has been taken way off topic and has turned pointless. I have to get to work and will be back in about 17 hours to delete the original post.

*pointless*

lol

It is Traci. It is her thread now not that she will ever return to GS. xxx

This may make you laugh Crissie if you have not heard it before.

 

I went to the doctors today and said doctor I feel like the moon.

 

He said I can't see you now you will have to come back tonight.

 

A for this thread you can delete the whole thing if you wish it has now become pointless. And if you read that article can you tell me if the title makes sense? . Also can you tell me if you can see any transition in that story?.

 

Take care xx