Unfortunately I usually get "sired" when speaking to people in shops etc.

 

I can dress androgynously looking female with my long hair and my make-up but still people will only see my male characteristics.

 

It happened again today in one of our major food supermarkets and I have written to their head office to find out if they do any training that includes identifying people not merely into male or female but also to question what they are seeing.

 

It is obvious from my mode of dress that I do not wish to be identified as male; why would I be wearing make-up?

 

If I could do anything to help me and others it would be to get large stores to include gender diversity in their training programmes.

 

Do other members have an opinion please or am I flogging a dead horse?

 

Best wishes,

 

SarahW

I certainly feel a good deal happier with myself these days:-) I even went to a funeral last week dressed as myself and although I may not look very feminine I was still proud to be there as me. I don't get "madamed or mammed" usually only "sired" and whilst it does hurt that I am not recognsed as my self and not as a bloke I'm too happy with my life to make it an issue. Though today I went to a major store and was "sired" by an assistant. I have dropped the company an email pointing out how I was dressed and whether they have a policy of diversification training to their staff. Some how or other I will make a difference for someone. SarahW

The difference is unfortunately my features are decidedly un-feminine. I know what some of my problems are. I am sure if I were to wear a wig it would change the way I look. It would also draw peoples attention to me even more. My mode of dress is now always feminine, in that all the clothes I have are now female apart from some male clobber which I shall in due course give away. I am unfortunately going to a funeral tomorrow and I shall be dressed in my black female jeans, female top, with a scarf round my neck. my female shoes, make-up and lipstick. This is how I will dress to go to town today and I shall be calling on my bank and the local council offices to clear up some outstanding matters relating to my name change. Even with all this I still have my concerns that I am not dressing female enough. I have a Partner who is not happy with what has happened over the past 9 months or so. I do not want to embarrass her hence the androgynous look. I hope as time goes by that I will look more female as this will give me more confidence. SarahW

With effect from 1st January 2012 I legally became Sarah Winfield.

 

It took a couple of weeks for me to come to terms with this and to get my act together to notify the many bodies that have to be aware of this change.

 

My bank cards are now all in my new name as is the various aspects of living in the UK e.g. utility companies, investments, pensions etc etc.

 

Today I received back from the DVLA my driving licence and the number now contains an element that identifies me as female.

 

I am so pleased with this recognition and although it is only a title it really makes me feel like the person I am.

 

I have physical developements as well and I just feel so good about myself.

 

Whether I am doing this whole thing correctly I don't know. I do know I am doing it as I see fit and risking the consequences. 

 

There has been an enormous personal loss in that my Sons have totally disowned me, cutting off my access to Grandchildren .

 

On the other hand I have met some wonderful people who have helped me come to terms with the changes that have happened so quickly in my life.

 

Best wishes,

 

SarahW

 

 

 

 

Hi.

 

I haven't been on the site for quite a while so it is good to be able to read the forums again.

 

However I have been contacted by a deleted member asking me to be a friend.

 

The members name is halimalove.

 

I intend to ignore this unsolicited contact but would be interested in knowing why this member has been deleted.

 

Many thanks,

 

Sarahw