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  • 14 Nov 2011
    The internet blossomed with great potential.  It was to be a pipeline of previously difficult information that would would now be available to anyone with access to a PC throughout the world!  And it did blossom and has become a very useful tool to learn, communicate, and share... But over time, people began using it to create their own platforms to be heard.  Anyone with some decent communication skills, the ability to cut-and-paste, and an agenda began to spew tons and tons of comments daily.  It has reached the point where it has become overwhelming.  You search Google for a subject and the first few dozen entries are rigged to place messages up top in lieu of often what is valuable information. One is forced to sift and sort and make judgment calls on what is valid or not. At the micro level, or site level like Gender Society, this logic also applies.  Let me explain... So much information regarding transitioning, hormones, health, family issues, jobs has been posted throughout the years in here as well as our predecessor, TrannyWeb.  But have you ever wondered how many gathered this information to share?  Comments and advice have traveled from site to site that originated somewhere else.  We, as humans, tend to run with comments we agree with.  It gets posted on one site, picked by others, and spread to new ones.  Rarely are the comments checked for accuracy and even more rare are the people posting ever going to meet those that seek this advice.  Just because "MaryJane" says something is correct or proper does not make it so.  Personalities carry "weight" in discussions and can easily sway others into believing what they say is gospel.  Bad advice flows with good advice...again, it is difficult to sift and sort to learn the necessary answers.   So my point is be extremely careful when seeking information that could affect your health, your family, your career, etc.  Do your homework first and do not just rely on comments from someone that posts "it's OK, I do it".  I'm not pointing fingers at anyone in our community for we are all guilty to some extent in proferring our take on a subject.  But are we truly qualified to dispense critical information that can potentially harm another or worse?  How many MDs, professional counselors, psychiatrists, etc. do we have in here contributing to the conversation?  I personally was fooled by a phoney, a "girl" who posed as a "doctor" in TW that gave me loads of advice when I fisrt sought transition information.  Heck, we all believed in her and she put on a good show...but had I listened and followed her advice, maybe I'd be dead or divorced by now?   That said, there are many girls here who have trnsitioned, experienced the issues that developed from it, and all and there is much good to learn from them. But if it sounds too good to be true, if it appears to be an "easy" way to overcome a difficult scenario, or if the advice you get is just enthusiastic cheerleading with nothing to substantiate their claims, my advice (take THAT for what it is worth) is to back away...there are NO shortcuts to transitioning.  The cemetaries are lined with many girls who sought the "easy way", or acted "impulsively" without working out and thinking out a plan.  This isn't a game and the stakes are ask a question, hear an "easy answer" to your problem, then act on it, you are going to get burned!  (literally) Best wishes always... Traci  xoxox
    1032 Posted by Traci Lee O'Gara
  • 05 Apr 2014
    Ever been in traffic that crawls around a Mall or shopping center parking lot, or any cross walk for that matter?  I'm out daily doing grocery shopping or running errands and pretty much always am presenting female...funny things I have noticed while stuck in the usual mass of cars and people coming and going and maybe you've noticed the same things????OK...when presenting andro or male, when guys cross the street or from their cars to the store front, they usually just walk their guy walk and dilly dally in their efforts.BUT, when femme, I notice guys noticing me and they generally take two "forms" while crossing.The first is "The Sprinter"!!!!  This is the guy who pulls up his jeans and moves into track man mode and pumps his arms and darts across the road as if to say to me, "yeah, I'm a physical specimen worth your time"'s usually a guy past 40 or so who probably only has moved like that in the past decade or two to hit the bathroom quickly when his bloated belly tells him "it's time" and he's like 400 yards from the nearest toilet!  LOL  I always smile and acknowledge them for they are trying soooo hard!  I just love his hustle!!!! (smile)The second is "The Hulk"!!!!!  This is the guy who has alligator arms, a tummy bearing triplets, and usually has his shirt sleeves rolled up or cut off at the shoulder muscles.  He will usually look over, puff out his chest, pull those 'gator arms back, and strut like a wet rooster across the front of your car in a pace often described as "slow".  He is preening for you and wants you to know he "still has it and maybe you ought to find out"!  I usually give them a sarcastic smirk that can best be described as a condescending, beee-atch stare that can ice a pot of boiling water!  Oh, the hurt and disappointment they exhibit when they see my lack of lust!  (grin)  I would rather pluck my nose hairs out with a fish hook that ever be in the same air space as them!  (smile)How about any of you????  Ever run across these guys?  If not, put on some lipstick, brush your hair, and drive to the nearest Wal-mart...I swear the store stocks these two types of men!  (smile)  Traci xoxo
    559 Posted by Traci Lee O'Gara
1,597 views May 30, 2011 we are criminals or psychotic!

Filed By Kelley Winters, PhD
May 28, 2011 10:00 AM | 28 comments

On May 5, the American Psychiatric Association released a second round of proposed diagnostic criteria for the 5th Edition of The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). These include two categories that impact the trans community: Gender Dysphoria (formerly Gender Identity Disorder) and Transvestic Disorder (formerly Transvestic Fetishism).

While GID has received a great deal of attention in the press and from GLBTQ advocates, the second transvestic category is too often overlooked. This is unfortunate, because a diagnosis of Transvestic Disorder is designed to punish social and sexual gender nonconformity and to enforce binary stereotypes of assigned birth sex. It plays no role in enabling access to medical transition care for those who need it, and it is frequently cited when care is denied.

I urge all trans community members, friends, care providers, and allies to call for the removal of this punitive and scientifically unfounded diagnosis from the DSM-5. 
The current period for public comment to the APA ends June 15.

The entry in the current DSM on Transvestic Disorder, like the former entry on Transvestic Fetishism, is authored by Dr. Ray Blanchard of the Toronto Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (formerly known as the Clarke Institute). Blanchard has drawn outrage from the transcommunity for his defamatory theory of autogynephilia,
asserting that all transsexual women who are not exclusively attracted to males are motivated to transition by self-obsessed sexual fetishism. 

He is canonizing this harmful stereotype of transsexual women in the DSM-5 by adding an autogynephilia specifier to the Transvestic Disorder diagnosis.

Worse yet, Blanchard has broadly expanded the diagnosis to implicate gender-nonconforming people of all sexes and all sexual orientations, 
even inventing an autoandrophilia specifier to smear transsexual men. 
Most recently, he has added an "In Remission" specifier to preclude the possibility of exit from diagnosis. 
Like a roach motel, there may be no way out of the Transvestic Disorder diagnosis once ensnared.

What You Can Do Now

1. Go to the
APA DSM-5 website, click on "Register Now," create a user account, and enter your statement in the box. 
The deadline for this second period of public comment is June 15.

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2. Sign the Petition to Remove Transvestic Disorder from the DSM-5, 
sponsored by the International Foundation for Gender Education.

3. Demand that your local, national, and international GLBTQ nonprofit organizations 
issue public statements calling for the removal of this defamatory Transvestic Disorder category from the DSM-5. 
So far, very few have.

4. Spread the word to your networks, friends, and allies. for More Information

Cross-posted with additional comments at the
GID Reform Advocates Blog.


  • Traci Lee O'Gara
    Traci Lee O'Gara Thnx Sara and thnx in advance to all that step up and sign or express your opinions!
    May 30, 2011 - 1 likes this
  • Traci Lee O'Gara
    Traci Lee O'Gara Ultimately what is at issue here downstream is that the APA (USA shrink association and followed by 66 other countries as well) will determine you're a fetish type if you do not choose men over women or other T girls...can go as far as stating you are men...  more
    May 31, 2011