To come out or not to come out

• Posted by Alice Miles July 18, 2011 Filed in Society Girl's Personal Blogs #  #tolerence  #mistakes  2,008 views
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  To date my dressing has been reserved for a select few - I go out occasionally with my wife and on a couple of occasions my parents have come along for a meal. Recently my wife has suggested that when we go out with her work colleagues and friends I go as Alice and let my hair down. She had confided in them for support, and clearly they have been understanding otherwise she would not have suggested it. But to date I have not told any of my own friends. 

  I am really keen to take her up on the offer, but am worried about how public it will become. I have a lot to lose potentially from coming out completely. Some of my children do not know yet, my career would undoubtably be affected since there is little tolerance of transsexuality in secondary schools. I play in a band and even if the members of the band accepted it, it might make us a novelty act rather than a credible rhythm and blues band. 

   

  Obviously I dont need to be out in all situations, just socially. But I am of the opinion that once the gate is open I will be inclined to venture further and further into the field.

   

  And the biggest thing I am in danger of losing is my wife - the very person who is encouraging me to come out more. She has said on many occasions that she married a man, not a woman. I am worried that she is encouraging me selflessly. And I dont want to take advantage of her suggestion, only to lose the best friend and soul mate I have.  

   

  Gosh, isnt life comlipicated when you go too far down the wrong path.