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Society Girl's Personal Blogs 2,854 views Oct 20, 2015
The Cute Clothes Girls Wear

I am sitting here in panties, yoga pants, and a cute little blue t-shirt top with cropped arms and sailboats emblazoned across the front. Not the sexiest outfit in the world, but I’m not looking for sex. Just doing laundry and cooking some dinner. Like any other woman in the world.


Whether we admit it or not, how we dress can be an important component to our identities as transwomen. And, how transwomen dress is the subject of so many stereotypes and cliches that folks are often disturbed to find out that most of us dress like plain ol’ regular everyday women.


Sure, those stereotypes and cliches do exist, and that is okay. There is room enough for all of us in this gargantuan tent known as gender identity. However, there is a point for many of us at which the clothing choices cease to have any bearing on our gender identity.


(I’ve changed clothes, by the way. Unflattering pajama pants and a sports team t-shirt. Dinner is done, the dishes are washed. Laundry is still going.)


When I was five-years-old, I slipped on a pair of my mom’s flats and walked into the living where where she and my dad sat watching television with my little brother. I looked up at my mom, and said, “I want to be a girl.” Her response was to ask me why. I told her, “Because they get to wear all the good clothes.” At five-years-old, clothes represented everything I knew about girls. Everything. I had no idea about their genitalia, and it being sooooo many years prior to the Internet, I had no way of find out. Girls wore pretty clothes. They jumped rope. They told secrets to each other. Girls were pretty. I really wanted to be a pretty girl.


Fast forward about forty years or so. I am working in Saudi Arabia, where transgenderism can get you thrown in prison and awarded a multitude of lashes to be meted out in public. I had no girl clothes. Life hadn’t gone the way I planned, and I never became the woman I wanted to be. I fell in love and was working to ensure life went well for others. But, my female identity didn’t disappear. In fact, if anything, it strengthened because I realized that being female was who I was. As a person. Clothes didn’t matter. Breasts didn’t matter. Genitalia didn’t matter. I was - I am - a woman.

Clothes are, and always will be, an important part of the transgender community. We all love to get gussied up and go out. For some, the clothes are the thing. For others, the facade is the thing. For still others, they’re simply clothes.



Comments

6 comments
  • Jessi Grace
    Jessi Grace Yes, I love boots, myself. :-)
    October 20, 2015 - Report
  • Colin Martin
    Colin Martin Yes, I agree with u hannah
    October 27, 2015 - Report
  • Susan Jones
    Susan Jones Love the blog, but I get so much pleasure wearing girls undergarments, heels, and clothing. even when I'm dressed as a man I still feel feminine.
    October 27, 2015 - Report
  • Kira B
    Kira B I think a big part of our identity, whether we like this or not, is our choice of clothing. In order to express our womanhood both to ourselves and others, clothing accepted by society as feminine is typically necessary. I know trans girls (and trans...  more
    July 25, 2016 - 3 like this - Report