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  • 12 Aug 2013
    Hello again? I had a reather uneventful day.  Most of which was spent on line, sigh   But I did see a unique u tube posting which gave me pause for thought.   It seems that I didn't have a morning routine. So I'd roll out of bed go to that bathroom take care of business, taking my gurly pills and such clean my dentures after they had been sitting in cold water overnight.  and such, we musent get to detailed here right. lol   I then sat down in front of my lap top at home and looked for what happened to the world while I was sleeping.  After a few hours of this I decided that it was about time i went outside and got some fresh air.  I live in a sealed building no opening the windows, grrr.   I put on the bra and manties, then looked around for what else to wear.  Oh my everything is fairly well soiled, That is what I get for going so long without doin the laundry. Funny I used to enjoy it so too.     Anywho,  I found that when ever I start the day I'm sorta in gender neutral from having started the day so many years now this way.   I thought that I should take a few minutes and meditate or at least say a montry affirming that I am a gurl/woman now.  This might help with my guilty feelings in wearing woman's attire outside.   For the past few months I have started carrying a decidely feminine purse, having switched from a gender neutral messenger bag.  I've also begun wearing daily earrings.  That is about as far as I could allow myself to go. sigh  Not long ago I did have occasion to go out and conduct some business wearing a blouse and earrings carrying a purse.  I was surprised pleasantly by the way no one managed to noticiblly notice me.  I got a few second glances but that was about it.   I am quite sure that I'm not able to "pass" as soon as i open my mouth i spill the beans cuz i haven't found a way to adjust my voice yet.   I have an appointment with my mental health practical nurse who oversee's my meds except for the gurl pills.  I have been out to her for quite sometime but she has never seen me en fem.  I have an appointment with her on Tuesday and have today decided that I will go en fem on that day.  I will be traveling on public transport but it will not be commuters hours.  I wonder what her reaction will be like?  giggle   So between tonight and Tuesday noon I will be trying to do all I can to re affirm my feminine personna.  giggle   Well that is about all I can think of to say so. . here's hoping.  I will try to write on tuesday about the little adventure.  Rhonda
    271321 Posted by Rhonda Armstrong
  • 08 Jul 2013
    A lazy day until I jumped on the scale.  I almost had a heart attack. I made a new personal high. OUCH.  I went to visit my mother last month and she kept commenting on my weight.  I just blew it off.  Until I saw the prints from my brothers funeral.  I was as big as a house.  Then today I got up the guts to jump on the scale.  WOW.  I never dreamed that I could get this big.   I made an appointment to visit my GP and will be looking for medical clearance to start excersizing.  I'm not a young woman anymore, soo.  I have to do things like this.  I get my medical courtesy of the US Veterans Affairs.  They have a weight program called move.  I'm goin to join now.  I gotta do something about this.   Well I got some dishes calling my name.  There seems always to be some dishes to be washed don't there.  sigh.
    1648 Posted by Rhonda Armstrong
  • 09 Aug 2013
    Hello Family?   I had a wonderful day yesterday!  It happened that I got a surprise appointment from a case worker.  I had a limited amount of time to get there.  I don't have a car so I had to use public transportation.  I normally spend the day at home when I'm there in fem.  I have a limited wardrobe that I have managed to gather over the past three years here in Portland.  Anywho instead of taking off my blouse and dress I decided to just take off my dress and don a pair of jeans.  I added a pair of flats grabbed my purse and out the door I flew.     I had to walk through the lobby where the staff knows of my issue and some of the co tenants.  I didn't bother saying hello just out the door and down the street to catch the bus.  As I was walking down the street it suddenly dawned on me that I was actually out side in broad day light wearing feminine clothes not just undergarments.  Oh wow.  Well I said to my self you have gone this far no use in turning back now.   I was worried a little but this is Portland where it isn't rare to see a crossdresser in public.  I just continued on to my appointment as best I could.  I was keenly award of those around me looking for any negitive reactions.  I didn't notice any but then that might have or have not happened after I left the bus.   I went down to see this case worker and becasue of the late afternoon hour there were only a few in the lobby.  When the case worker came out see correctly said hello Rhonda.  I had come out to her months before.  But never appeared in fem to her before.  The appointment went smoothly and I felt so good and at ease with others non shalaunce about my appearance that I decided to go on down town rather than going home and changing.   There was a brief moment of pause just before I left I decided to visit the bathroom.  I forgot that I was dressed female and went into the men's room as I had done all my life.  Luckily no one was in there and i was able to go into a stall and take care of business.  I have taken to sitting down to do what ever business I have to do in the bathroom.    So I continued on my way downtown and checked my mailbox at the post office.  I decided that I needed a cup of coffee and went to my favorite coffee shop.  All the while feeling bolder and bolder. Oh I guess I should say more comfortable with myself.  I guess the internet has really done a lot to teach people that trans people are people too.  I even had a gent hold the door open for me.     I have for the past two months been carrying a purse and wearing earrings while still dressed in boi clothes.  So I guess that might have had something to do with my confidence building too.    I just wanted to record this experience so that on the days when I'm not so 'full of myself' I can look back and see that I have indeed come a long way.   I choose to stop visiting my local support group because I don't see where they have anything to offer me except some antiquated ideals.  Usually trans vs the world, or how abhorant the male self is.  I'm of the strong belief that the male part of me will be a part of me for the rest of my life and my job is NOT to get rid of it but to assimilate it into my "new' personna.    True that there are charactoristics of the male self I would like to change but that will come over time.   It's funny but when I started this note I was in a deep case of the blues.  I so wanted to cry.  I'm not sure why but I was feeling the need to cry.  After about half an hour writing here I'm no longer feeling the need to cry. sigh.   Well I guess I was just feeling sorry for myself I guess. It is getting late so I will stop now.  Sweet dreams Rhonda. 
    1637 Posted by Rhonda Armstrong
  • 18 Aug 2013
    "It is Saterday night and I ain't got nobody" words to a song many years ago and far away. .   I have been reflectiing on this past week and I have accomplished soo much. Most of which was not goals but somehow I managed to accomplish..    First I might say. .I lost 16lbs so far this month. Yea I know, only 16?  well that is sixteen pounds closer to a better weight.  I'm hoping to bust that 200 pound bubble.  I haven't been under 200 for sooo long.  I am confident I might just make it.  lol   Next I have managed to spend quite a few day light hours 'en fem' over the past week.  I'm feeling more confident with each 'trip' I go out on, I'm very pleased to say.  Most of my past trips were spent in male clothes with my 'silkies' on.  At first I felt naughty but now it seems rather normal.  So I upped the anti by wearing earrings not matter what outside clothes I'm wearing an carrying a womans purse.  Would that be considered a Murse. for man purse.  lol   My en fem is just a blouse and skinny jeans, but it IS a step in the right direction.  Although I don't have much in the way of blouses. I do have a few and only one pair of skinny jeans.  I have some flats that I'm wearing daily.  I mean to wear some sandles soon but don't because I haven't painted my toesies yet.  Is that a word, lol  As you can see I'm feeling a little giddy in writing this. .   School, junior college will start the third week of Sept.  I hope to feel confident enough by then to be going to class with a decidedly feminine appearence. giggle   My network has been suffering all summer.  I have many aquaintences but few friends. sigh   I hope to remedy that when school starts.   On another front. .I have 'quit' for now a trans womens support group that I was attending here. They meet locally once per week. But the last few meetings that I have managed to attend left a sour taste in my soul?  I don't know that is the right word. But mouth is not the right word.  It seems that the moderator is politically orientated.  I don't fault her for her beliefs I just don't go there to listen or talk politics.  I was goin there to be with others like me.  I can't see that women gather to talk politics.  or maybe they do but I would rather talk about gurly stuff.  Like maybe  what I have accomplished what my challenges or how I my challenges measure up to what others have gone through or are going through. Is that wrong?  Maybe but that is why I gave up going to the group.   Back again.  I had to pause and take my gurl pills. giggle  I'm taking 50mg of spirolactine and 4mg of estrodial.  I had to reduce from 100mg of spiro and 6mg of estrodial.  I had been on that for about a year. But of late I had no energy even to do routine things like dishes, laundry, window shopping, etc.  I would spend a lot of time flipping channels or slip sliding on the internet.  With this 'new'regimine I find I have more energy and spend less time hanging out at home.     I have been taking Hormones for a little over three years now.  I'm well pleased with the results so far. But I look at it as a journey rather than trying to get there as fast as possible.  I want to enjoy the trip.  Know what I mean?  By the way. I'm not a doctor or someone with medical training so PLEASE don't take the above as a guide for your own regimine!  I AM under the care of both a general practiioer MD and a hormone specialist.  I would Strongly advise anyone who is considering Hormones to go through a medial staff.  Hormones can be be SERIOUS stuff.  Once started they need ot be monitored by medical professionals.  Hormones can effect so many of our bodily systems.  Everything from emotions to reproductive system.  That is why it is very important to seek medical assistance.   Well that is about all I can think of to talk about for this entry.  Someday soon, I hope to start up loading some pictures to include in this blog.  They will all be 'G' rated, as I'm never sure of my audiance. Ta ta for now. Rhonda
    1599 Posted by Rhonda Armstrong
Society Girl's Personal Blogs 1,386 views Nov 10, 2014
Name change. .

 Hello?

  It has been quite a while since even visiting here.

  I finally went and dued it.  I changed my name legally to my prefered feminine name.  What a liberating act.  After years and years and years of being in the closit and worrying about how others might judge me i was finally able to do this and let the #$% fall where it may.

  Lo and behold it seems not that big of deal.  In this day and age of the internet people are so well informed a transition is not that big of deal to them.  Who would have thought it would be this easy.

  I guess it does help too that i managed to relocate to a city where no one knows me so i don't have a history to explain.

  I will be getting the official notice papers in the mail this week. With these my intention is to go to the DMV and change my name AND gender marker for my drivers license to female.  All it takes as of a new law is a letter from a recognised therapist stating that i am in therapy and living as a woman full time.

  Then with this i will go to the Social Security Administration for a  name change on my social security card. i will be able to maintain the credits i have earned through out my life.

  With these two i will change my name at school, i attend a local community college. Then on to the Veterans Administration Medical Center who has been very helpful in supporting my hormone treatment and mental health maintance.

  I have been sitting on the fence with this transiton since my first explorations in 2005.  It was not until i decided to relocate in 2010 that i was able to progress to actually strart my HRT.  The VA has been slow to come around to help veterans with gender issues but since OBAMA has been in office there has been tremendous acceptance and support.

  My plan is to continue my education and try to be of some help for older gender transitions. It seems that there is a lot of help for those under thirty but almost none for those of us over fourty.  I want to help with that. Mostly because it almost cost me my life several times.  It was only by the grace of Goddess that i am still among the living.

  Well i suppose that i have rambled on just about enough so until that time when we meet again. .

  Keep the FAITH.

  Rhonda



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