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  • 07 May 2017
    Hey ladies! So y'all know I work at a well known (mostly) women's clothing store. Yesterday about four of us "girls" are in the sorting room. "Annie" tells how "Lynn" told her she (Lynn) overheard one of the security guards, Tom, told a new security guard, Jim, how Annie is such a flirt and will "be all over you!" Annie was appalled! She said she is just being nice; Annie is very young, bubbly, fun young woman, about 24-25. We were all kind of laughing at this, along with Annie who was thinking the new guard is going to ask her out! But I DID feel kind of left out, I didn't have that experience growing up dealing with boys and unwanted attention. This is the difficult parts of transition, where you can't really relate to others experiences, feelings. You can't stand there nodding knowingly of those feelings. Awkward. Robin
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  • By robin w
    Hey ladies! So y'all know I work at a well known (mostly) women's clothing store. Yesterday about four of us "girls" are in the sorting room. "Annie" tells how "Lynn" told her she (Lynn) overheard one of the security guards, Tom, told a new security guard, Jim, how Annie is such a flirt and will "be all over you!" Annie was appalled! She said she is just being nice; Annie is very young, bubbly, fun young woman, about 24-25. We were all kind of laughing at this, along with Annie who was thinking the new guard is going to ask her out! But I DID feel kind of left out, I didn't have that experience growing up dealing with boys and unwanted attention. This is the difficult parts of transition, where you can't really relate to others experiences, feelings. You can't stand there nodding knowingly of those feelings. Awkward. Robin
    May 07, 2017 209
  • 04 Sep 2016
    Hi gang, It's been way over a year since my surgery (Feb 10, 2015 - I'll never forget this date!) and only just gotten around to experimenting with stimulating myself. Of course my depression has a lot to do with that, bc depression, and the Rx's for it, contribute to low Lobito. Anyway, maybe it is all the attractive women I see at work, but I became aroused last week, and began, umm, experimenting! Now much of what I am going to say comes from a discussion with my surgeon afterwards, because I did not know how an orgasm for a post-op GRS patient manifests itself. My first feeling was the feeling one gets with an erection, not surprising since my clitoris is made from the head of my penis; this is also the feeling a cis woman gets. But the climax is really just mental, bc there is no "ejaculation" anymore, nor is there any fluid discharged from the neo-vagina. The neo-vagina is a "dead-end" cavity that does not secrete any fluid or lubrication the way a natal vagina does. The fluid that drained out next to my finger was just warmed-up, less viscous gel lube I had used. You do have a euphoric feeling afterward, which I have not been able to repeat the second, and only, subsequent time I tried. It was disappointing not being able to repeat the "orgasm"and I haven't had the urge again yet to try again. Well, maybe that woman will come into the store again....my reason for experimenting. I think she likes me. Yikes!
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  • By robin w
    Hi gang, It's been way over a year since my surgery (Feb 10, 2015 - I'll never forget this date!) and only just gotten around to experimenting with stimulating myself. Of course my depression has a lot to do with that, bc depression, and the Rx's for it, contribute to low Lobito. Anyway, maybe it is all the attractive women I see at work, but I became aroused last week, and began, umm, experimenting! Now much of what I am going to say comes from a discussion with my surgeon afterwards, because I did not know how an orgasm for a post-op GRS patient manifests itself. My first feeling was the feeling one gets with an erection, not surprising since my clitoris is made from the head of my penis; this is also the feeling a cis woman gets. But the climax is really just mental, bc there is no "ejaculation" anymore, nor is there any fluid discharged from the neo-vagina. The neo-vagina is a "dead-end" cavity that does not secrete any fluid or lubrication the way a natal vagina does. The fluid that drained out next to my finger was just warmed-up, less viscous gel lube I had used. You do have a euphoric feeling afterward, which I have not been able to repeat the second, and only, subsequent time I tried. It was disappointing not being able to repeat the "orgasm"and I haven't had the urge again yet to try again. Well, maybe that woman will come into the store again....my reason for experimenting. I think she likes me. Yikes!
    Sep 04, 2016 1896
  • 10 Jun 2016
    Actually, it was one year Feb 10, but twice my wifi went out and my blog was not saved! So here I go again: Pick your surgeon carefully. Talk to people who have used the surgeon you like. Were they happy with results? How many follow ups? Are they covered under your surgery fee? How far away? I say bring, drag, bribe, a friend to come with you - you will need him/her. I did it alone, but was very difficult. You are in hospital almost a week, on morphine most likely (yes, it hurts!) And thé affects of it are still felt days later. I don't remember stopping to fill up before driving to New Hope. Bring undies that are snug enough to keep a maxi pad in place. You will be on your back almost all the time, I brought a couple pairs of scrub pants, easy to get on and off. Plan on throwing some undies away from bleeding, minor bleeding. You will be on antibiotics and may become a bit sick, and not feel like eating much. So much for surgery, what about after? How do you feel? Good question. I think my face is still a little "guy-ish" and every encounter with a ciswoman is a question mark. I'm always wondering if they know. At yoga class, they know I'm not a guy because you can't hide anything in yoga tights! As I posted in some other posts or blogs, at one job I had, nobody questioned my gender. Yet at my next job, and BTW, we had a cross dresser on our staff (he doesn't pass very well), I was outed by a few women pretty quickly. That was a bummer for me. Also, we have to wear unflattering t-shirts to work, which does not allow you much left to feminize your outfit. I could wear more feminine clothing at my previous job. Some customers would refer to me as "him/he" just to let me know I wasn't fooling them. Mostly women in their 50's, young people are very accepting. I pass 99% of the time....nobody says anything to me, just a sideways look! Yes, it hurts! Acceptance as a trans woman by women is an unknown. I do know my yoga peeps treat me as one of the gang. Anytime anyone has commented on big shoulders: "I'm a surfer, I paddle and swim a lot!" That works. My ability to work on cars: "I was a helicopter mechanic in the Air Force!" Have I ever regretted having surgery? Yes. I'm financially strapped because my insurance co wiggled successfully out of paying because my MD was not part of their plan network. This is not unusual because there are only about a dozen MD qualified to do GRS between US and Canada. I see so many beautiful women at work, and I will never be like that. That gets me depressed sometimes (I have major depression and Anxiety disorder, and ADD) and I say I'm ugly and maybe I'll get a "butch" kind of haircut and be a trans-man! So no matter what pronoun people use I won't be offended! I think this job is bad bc I can't make myself LOOK like a woman. The t-shirt just looks sloppy no matter what you do. And I feel like it makes me look like a guy. That goes to work on my anxiety, which affects my ADD. After surgery, body fat definitely shifted to my hips and butt. Now a lot of my size 4 jeans don't fit! I have prob half a dozen pair, plus as many shorts! So I'm trying to lose five more lbs...I gained a little over twelve after surgery. I could not go back to work for eight or ten weeks. This is major surgery, five hours or so. Huge cut from anus up each side of your leg joint up to almost even with your navel. Big flap of skin! Hope this helps. Pm me with any questions! I could go on and on, but I've hit the major points I think. My surgery was on a Tuesday, I was discharged on Friday, saw my MD on Monday, and again Thursday before I could go home. Many days in the motel on my back watching TV. That's it. Bring a friend, your will need him,her to run errands, get food when you start to feel hungry. Help driving if you drive. You don't want to sit too long. I did, no problem with the hoo-ha, but very sore! Robin
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  • By robin w
    Actually, it was one year Feb 10, but twice my wifi went out and my blog was not saved! So here I go again: Pick your surgeon carefully. Talk to people who have used the surgeon you like. Were they happy with results? How many follow ups? Are they covered under your surgery fee? How far away? I say bring, drag, bribe, a friend to come with you - you will need him/her. I did it alone, but was very difficult. You are in hospital almost a week, on morphine most likely (yes, it hurts!) And thé affects of it are still felt days later. I don't remember stopping to fill up before driving to New Hope. Bring undies that are snug enough to keep a maxi pad in place. You will be on your back almost all the time, I brought a couple pairs of scrub pants, easy to get on and off. Plan on throwing some undies away from bleeding, minor bleeding. You will be on antibiotics and may become a bit sick, and not feel like eating much. So much for surgery, what about after? How do you feel? Good question. I think my face is still a little "guy-ish" and every encounter with a ciswoman is a question mark. I'm always wondering if they know. At yoga class, they know I'm not a guy because you can't hide anything in yoga tights! As I posted in some other posts or blogs, at one job I had, nobody questioned my gender. Yet at my next job, and BTW, we had a cross dresser on our staff (he doesn't pass very well), I was outed by a few women pretty quickly. That was a bummer for me. Also, we have to wear unflattering t-shirts to work, which does not allow you much left to feminize your outfit. I could wear more feminine clothing at my previous job. Some customers would refer to me as "him/he" just to let me know I wasn't fooling them. Mostly women in their 50's, young people are very accepting. I pass 99% of the time....nobody says anything to me, just a sideways look! Yes, it hurts! Acceptance as a trans woman by women is an unknown. I do know my yoga peeps treat me as one of the gang. Anytime anyone has commented on big shoulders: "I'm a surfer, I paddle and swim a lot!" That works. My ability to work on cars: "I was a helicopter mechanic in the Air Force!" Have I ever regretted having surgery? Yes. I'm financially strapped because my insurance co wiggled successfully out of paying because my MD was not part of their plan network. This is not unusual because there are only about a dozen MD qualified to do GRS between US and Canada. I see so many beautiful women at work, and I will never be like that. That gets me depressed sometimes (I have major depression and Anxiety disorder, and ADD) and I say I'm ugly and maybe I'll get a "butch" kind of haircut and be a trans-man! So no matter what pronoun people use I won't be offended! I think this job is bad bc I can't make myself LOOK like a woman. The t-shirt just looks sloppy no matter what you do. And I feel like it makes me look like a guy. That goes to work on my anxiety, which affects my ADD. After surgery, body fat definitely shifted to my hips and butt. Now a lot of my size 4 jeans don't fit! I have prob half a dozen pair, plus as many shorts! So I'm trying to lose five more lbs...I gained a little over twelve after surgery. I could not go back to work for eight or ten weeks. This is major surgery, five hours or so. Huge cut from anus up each side of your leg joint up to almost even with your navel. Big flap of skin! Hope this helps. Pm me with any questions! I could go on and on, but I've hit the major points I think. My surgery was on a Tuesday, I was discharged on Friday, saw my MD on Monday, and again Thursday before I could go home. Many days in the motel on my back watching TV. That's it. Bring a friend, your will need him,her to run errands, get food when you start to feel hungry. Help driving if you drive. You don't want to sit too long. I did, no problem with the hoo-ha, but very sore! Robin
    Jun 10, 2016 345
  • 06 Feb 2016
    Hey GS people, well things have improved, I think, a little since mid January. I'm on Zoloft now, which seems to work. Also, I am very into yoga, which gives me a distraction, and one of my instructors teaches me how not to give a s**t and relax. I'm not so anxious about work (see previous sentence), I have my ISP back, but still quite poor bc I have my daughters college to pay for, which is on two credit cards, $20k! It costs me $400/month just to pay min, and leaves me with pretty much $0 at next payday. This is still stressful. But she graduated so it is not growing at least. Let's press the reset button, shall we? Robin
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  • By robin w
    Hey GS people, well things have improved, I think, a little since mid January. I'm on Zoloft now, which seems to work. Also, I am very into yoga, which gives me a distraction, and one of my instructors teaches me how not to give a s**t and relax. I'm not so anxious about work (see previous sentence), I have my ISP back, but still quite poor bc I have my daughters college to pay for, which is on two credit cards, $20k! It costs me $400/month just to pay min, and leaves me with pretty much $0 at next payday. This is still stressful. But she graduated so it is not growing at least. Let's press the reset button, shall we? Robin
    Feb 06, 2016 251
  • 18 Jan 2016
    Dear Friends, I know I was very active on GS for a long time and had a lot of fun, usually poking fun at myself with the "Adventures" blogs. Some of you have noticed that I have been conspicuously absent in recent months. I have major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. Since moving to Charleston, I have had to find a new psych MD, who did not like the dose of Celexa I had been prescribed, 60mg/day. So she changed me off Celexa to, well, I'm going on a third different SSRI, none of which are working. Where my mood was stable, now I am on a roller coaster of hi and low, mostly low, very low. So I pretty much just sleep and go to work. Sometimes I fit in yoga, but that's it. I don't feel much like talking, so I do not go on GS or FB much. I'll be back when I feel better, unless I paddle out into the ocean. Robin
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  • By robin w
    Dear Friends, I know I was very active on GS for a long time and had a lot of fun, usually poking fun at myself with the "Adventures" blogs. Some of you have noticed that I have been conspicuously absent in recent months. I have major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. Since moving to Charleston, I have had to find a new psych MD, who did not like the dose of Celexa I had been prescribed, 60mg/day. So she changed me off Celexa to, well, I'm going on a third different SSRI, none of which are working. Where my mood was stable, now I am on a roller coaster of hi and low, mostly low, very low. So I pretty much just sleep and go to work. Sometimes I fit in yoga, but that's it. I don't feel much like talking, so I do not go on GS or FB much. I'll be back when I feel better, unless I paddle out into the ocean. Robin
    Jan 18, 2016 367
  • 01 Dec 2015
    My name is Robin. I came to GS about four years ago looking for confirmation that there were other people like me. I started HRT at 58 years, then GRS at 61. It is now nine months later. Before one can undergo GRS, you have to live FT as a woman, and undergo regular evaluation by a gender therapist. All of this went very well; my depression became much less debilitating, my mood was good, I was happy! I found employment at a well known women's retailer, I was known to be TG, but it did not matter to most other staff. But I couldn't wait to get rid of that thing. My letter was sent to a surgeon I chose and a date set. Excited was not the word. Anyway everything went very well, and I returned to work, really a changed person. Changed in more confident, and that I belonged with the other women. But that is all changing. i see women in their 30's and 40's and I am never going to look like that. I never had that experience growing up. Before everyone at work found out I was TS, I was "included" in more "women's talk" but not anymore. Everyone is friendly, they just have not found a common ground in me to relate to. So talk always concerns work. But getting back to comparing myself to other women, I just wish I had the opportunity to do GRS earlier. An acquaintance of mine, who started HRT at 22 years looks beautiful, and she will have the advantage of a nearly full life as female. I am having serious second thoughts about my decision to have GRS. Sometimes I consider transitioning back because I just do not match up well next to the women I wanted to be like. That was a mistake to expect that, that I would have a nice curve to my body. It's impossible with our large rib cage, unless surgery is done. So be very careful and realistic about your transition at such an advanced age. If under 25-26, try for it, your body may have an easier time readjusting to hormones. At 60, you are just too much of a "man" to get optimum results. You may, like me, be disappointed.
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  • By robin w
    My name is Robin. I came to GS about four years ago looking for confirmation that there were other people like me. I started HRT at 58 years, then GRS at 61. It is now nine months later. Before one can undergo GRS, you have to live FT as a woman, and undergo regular evaluation by a gender therapist. All of this went very well; my depression became much less debilitating, my mood was good, I was happy! I found employment at a well known women's retailer, I was known to be TG, but it did not matter to most other staff. But I couldn't wait to get rid of that thing. My letter was sent to a surgeon I chose and a date set. Excited was not the word. Anyway everything went very well, and I returned to work, really a changed person. Changed in more confident, and that I belonged with the other women. But that is all changing. i see women in their 30's and 40's and I am never going to look like that. I never had that experience growing up. Before everyone at work found out I was TS, I was "included" in more "women's talk" but not anymore. Everyone is friendly, they just have not found a common ground in me to relate to. So talk always concerns work. But getting back to comparing myself to other women, I just wish I had the opportunity to do GRS earlier. An acquaintance of mine, who started HRT at 22 years looks beautiful, and she will have the advantage of a nearly full life as female. I am having serious second thoughts about my decision to have GRS. Sometimes I consider transitioning back because I just do not match up well next to the women I wanted to be like. That was a mistake to expect that, that I would have a nice curve to my body. It's impossible with our large rib cage, unless surgery is done. So be very careful and realistic about your transition at such an advanced age. If under 25-26, try for it, your body may have an easier time readjusting to hormones. At 60, you are just too much of a "man" to get optimum results. You may, like me, be disappointed.
    Dec 01, 2015 445
  • 24 Feb 2015
    Well friends, i have finally returned from surgery in PA. After surgery. in my hotel room adjacent my MD's office (i had two follow appts w/ her, so stayed close by), i was feeling a bit nauseaus from anti-biotics and could not find anything to eat that appealed to me. A box of jelly donuts lay unopened (yuk), bangers and mash did not sound so good. Ahha! Pizza! I called to have a pizza delivered adb anxiously waited its delivery. One slice up to my mouth, one bite....nope, this was not on the menu tonight. So the pizza and donuts stayed stacked on a table for a day or two before the sight of the boxes made me sick, so out into the bed of my pickip truck they went.         I left for home on Friday, exactly one week after surgery. It is a long 6-hour drive from PA to Mass, and I stopped in CT at a rest area with a restaurant and gasoline service. I lay in the front seat for 40 min to get off my sore butt area, then got a coffee. As i exited the shop i noticed a mass of seagulls swarming about the parking lot. "OMG! The pizza!" As i got to my truck, there were at least 10 - 12 gulls IN the back of my truck, trying to hoist a fully frozen platter of 7 slices of a pie, or a frozen jelly donut (must have been 8oz each they were so big!), and dozebs flying above. I shooed them into the lot, cars beeping at them as they walked about the lot, not wanting to leave the pizza i had thrown into the parking lot lanes like a frizbee! Luckily, no "stains" on my truck from the little fellows. It looked like  a scene out of "The Bird's!"    -Robin
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  • By robin w
    Well friends, i have finally returned from surgery in PA. After surgery. in my hotel room adjacent my MD's office (i had two follow appts w/ her, so stayed close by), i was feeling a bit nauseaus from anti-biotics and could not find anything to eat that appealed to me. A box of jelly donuts lay unopened (yuk), bangers and mash did not sound so good. Ahha! Pizza! I called to have a pizza delivered adb anxiously waited its delivery. One slice up to my mouth, one bite....nope, this was not on the menu tonight. So the pizza and donuts stayed stacked on a table for a day or two before the sight of the boxes made me sick, so out into the bed of my pickip truck they went.         I left for home on Friday, exactly one week after surgery. It is a long 6-hour drive from PA to Mass, and I stopped in CT at a rest area with a restaurant and gasoline service. I lay in the front seat for 40 min to get off my sore butt area, then got a coffee. As i exited the shop i noticed a mass of seagulls swarming about the parking lot. "OMG! The pizza!" As i got to my truck, there were at least 10 - 12 gulls IN the back of my truck, trying to hoist a fully frozen platter of 7 slices of a pie, or a frozen jelly donut (must have been 8oz each they were so big!), and dozebs flying above. I shooed them into the lot, cars beeping at them as they walked about the lot, not wanting to leave the pizza i had thrown into the parking lot lanes like a frizbee! Luckily, no "stains" on my truck from the little fellows. It looked like  a scene out of "The Bird's!"    -Robin
    Feb 24, 2015 954
  • 10 Apr 2012
    OK, so Cape Cod ain't exactly the 'Hood but it makes a good title!   So I loved the skirt I exchanged at Nordstrom and felt really good, so I went out on a Friday night to the most popular eating/drinking place in Hyannnis, Sam Diego's. Feeling somewhat odd all by myself, but I had a French vocabulary book to read and had my chili and 17oz margharita and wobbled out. Not too sure what the waiter thought (a woman), but was pleasant and didn't stare or seem uncomfortable. So that was a big thing I wanted to do, to put myself in a very close, public place and see how things go. Maybe not the biggest test, but I'm reluctant to go to a club alone. Shopping malls and stores are one thing, no problem there, but the "intimacy" of a club is a little scary right now, especially without company for "moral support".   On my birthday, I was looking forward all day to going out that night - no real plan, just go out. But on the drive home, I talked myself out of it, saying "..you're ugly and don't go out...". So I got home and cried for an hour (?). I havn't cried in 40 years. I seemed to get over that because the next day I bought myself a short sterling necklace!    Last week, I decided I needed some jeans that really fit, so I went to American Eagle ('Glamour" mag said they were best jeans under $50). So I was wearing a skirt and browsed "skinny" jeans and the sales girl asked if she could help. I wasn't quite sure what size, so she said "X" (looking me up and down, saying she was a size "W" in comparison), or maybe "Y". "Do you want to try them on?"  **GULP** I remained silent, and I said something about wearing tights, mumbled something else and continued to weigh my option, and she wandered back to the counter. I brought over size Y, and again she offered that I might want to try them on? No, I think these will be good. Of course they were a little loose, requiring a return the next night. The guy exchanging them for me picked a pair of size X, and pointed to the dressing room, "Better make sure so you don't have to make another trip...". I could feel my body getting hot from my feet up to my head! We headed to the back of the shop...tunnelvision!... and they were all private changing rooms, not segregated! Relief! The fit was perfect, and I went up to the desk and the guy says "Always nice to go down a size, right?" "Oh, yes" I stammered, "I never thought this would be my size!" I was a bit stressed, but not so stressed I couldn't go to Macys and buy some decent pantyhose...I bought some "naff" Legg's at CVS to wear to try jeans on (hmmm, I was anticipating trying them on all along!), and they had a run in them before I even opened the door to the Mall! Such problems..... ; )  Oh, and the American Eagle brand jeans are nice, recommended!        
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  • By robin w
    OK, so Cape Cod ain't exactly the 'Hood but it makes a good title!   So I loved the skirt I exchanged at Nordstrom and felt really good, so I went out on a Friday night to the most popular eating/drinking place in Hyannnis, Sam Diego's. Feeling somewhat odd all by myself, but I had a French vocabulary book to read and had my chili and 17oz margharita and wobbled out. Not too sure what the waiter thought (a woman), but was pleasant and didn't stare or seem uncomfortable. So that was a big thing I wanted to do, to put myself in a very close, public place and see how things go. Maybe not the biggest test, but I'm reluctant to go to a club alone. Shopping malls and stores are one thing, no problem there, but the "intimacy" of a club is a little scary right now, especially without company for "moral support".   On my birthday, I was looking forward all day to going out that night - no real plan, just go out. But on the drive home, I talked myself out of it, saying "..you're ugly and don't go out...". So I got home and cried for an hour (?). I havn't cried in 40 years. I seemed to get over that because the next day I bought myself a short sterling necklace!    Last week, I decided I needed some jeans that really fit, so I went to American Eagle ('Glamour" mag said they were best jeans under $50). So I was wearing a skirt and browsed "skinny" jeans and the sales girl asked if she could help. I wasn't quite sure what size, so she said "X" (looking me up and down, saying she was a size "W" in comparison), or maybe "Y". "Do you want to try them on?"  **GULP** I remained silent, and I said something about wearing tights, mumbled something else and continued to weigh my option, and she wandered back to the counter. I brought over size Y, and again she offered that I might want to try them on? No, I think these will be good. Of course they were a little loose, requiring a return the next night. The guy exchanging them for me picked a pair of size X, and pointed to the dressing room, "Better make sure so you don't have to make another trip...". I could feel my body getting hot from my feet up to my head! We headed to the back of the shop...tunnelvision!... and they were all private changing rooms, not segregated! Relief! The fit was perfect, and I went up to the desk and the guy says "Always nice to go down a size, right?" "Oh, yes" I stammered, "I never thought this would be my size!" I was a bit stressed, but not so stressed I couldn't go to Macys and buy some decent pantyhose...I bought some "naff" Legg's at CVS to wear to try jeans on (hmmm, I was anticipating trying them on all along!), and they had a run in them before I even opened the door to the Mall! Such problems..... ; )  Oh, and the American Eagle brand jeans are nice, recommended!        
    Apr 10, 2012 775
  • 03 Apr 2012
    Ok, here we go. I've written some experiences in various FORUM catagories, most interesting being in  "First Time Out" or "Passing in Public", i forget. Anyway the first tiime I went out EVER was pretty funny. I felt totally comfortable in my new mode - but talking to peole was and still is a fear.  Another time I went shopping dressed and purchased some "scanties". I was using my "second user" credit card in my name (Robin W) but the clerk need ID because it was the first time I used it. She said "OH!" when I presented my driver's license and credit card in my guy's name. I told her I was "switching to her team" and she was very nice about it, asking how that was going and was I happy. What a nice person.    Anyway, in these series of "blogs", I'll talk about the good, bad, and really ugly stuff that happens when I'm out in public. maybe it will help some who have never ventured out to give it a try....confidence is the key!  As my friend Traci Lee, here on GS,  said "...it only gets easier.." which is very true!   A week or so ago, I ordered a cute pleated short skirt - I was excited when teh package came and I went to try it on. It fell right to the floor! Size Jr Large (which that white and black striped skirt is) way too big. So after work one afternoon, I drove to the retail store where one can make an exchange from a mail-order. So with help from a store employee I found the Juniors section and traded it for a medium. Great. It's a 50 mile drive, so I figured I'd try it on before leaving....I'll just go over to the men's dressing room and try it on. Imagine my surprise when there was a woman in the foyer of the dressing room. "Is this the men's changing room?" I asked her. "Yes, what do you have to try on?" eying my Nordstrom shopping bag. She looked in and said "OH! Um, Ok right in here, then.." So I tried it on and it seemed fine and I left. Then I realized the bag had a logo on it:  "bp", which meant I made a purchasae from the Juniors department. So that's what "gave me up" to her, but no matter. Actually teh medium was just small enough to fit - there was no takeup in the stretchy waistband. So I ordered another skirt, same style, but in navy with white dots, in small (!) (Read it and weep, girls!  : ) . Fits perfect. So goes the size question we always face when shopping. i almost have to shop in men's clothes so I can try stuff on. Until I get that "magic letter" that will allow me to use the women's changing room. That could be a while....  havn't found a TG counselor yet....  will my psych MD help me??? Later! -Robin xoxo     
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  • By robin w
    Ok, here we go. I've written some experiences in various FORUM catagories, most interesting being in  "First Time Out" or "Passing in Public", i forget. Anyway the first tiime I went out EVER was pretty funny. I felt totally comfortable in my new mode - but talking to peole was and still is a fear.  Another time I went shopping dressed and purchased some "scanties". I was using my "second user" credit card in my name (Robin W) but the clerk need ID because it was the first time I used it. She said "OH!" when I presented my driver's license and credit card in my guy's name. I told her I was "switching to her team" and she was very nice about it, asking how that was going and was I happy. What a nice person.    Anyway, in these series of "blogs", I'll talk about the good, bad, and really ugly stuff that happens when I'm out in public. maybe it will help some who have never ventured out to give it a try....confidence is the key!  As my friend Traci Lee, here on GS,  said "...it only gets easier.." which is very true!   A week or so ago, I ordered a cute pleated short skirt - I was excited when teh package came and I went to try it on. It fell right to the floor! Size Jr Large (which that white and black striped skirt is) way too big. So after work one afternoon, I drove to the retail store where one can make an exchange from a mail-order. So with help from a store employee I found the Juniors section and traded it for a medium. Great. It's a 50 mile drive, so I figured I'd try it on before leaving....I'll just go over to the men's dressing room and try it on. Imagine my surprise when there was a woman in the foyer of the dressing room. "Is this the men's changing room?" I asked her. "Yes, what do you have to try on?" eying my Nordstrom shopping bag. She looked in and said "OH! Um, Ok right in here, then.." So I tried it on and it seemed fine and I left. Then I realized the bag had a logo on it:  "bp", which meant I made a purchasae from the Juniors department. So that's what "gave me up" to her, but no matter. Actually teh medium was just small enough to fit - there was no takeup in the stretchy waistband. So I ordered another skirt, same style, but in navy with white dots, in small (!) (Read it and weep, girls!  : ) . Fits perfect. So goes the size question we always face when shopping. i almost have to shop in men's clothes so I can try stuff on. Until I get that "magic letter" that will allow me to use the women's changing room. That could be a while....  havn't found a TG counselor yet....  will my psych MD help me??? Later! -Robin xoxo     
    Apr 03, 2012 810