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  • 14 Apr 2012
    My day or dressing and being pampered as only a girl can be at Sugar and Spiced (Chandlers Ford) http://www.sugarandspiced.com/ (11/04/2012) My special day at Sugar and Spiced started at 10:00 with a big welcoming hug from Jackie the owner of this discreet dressing and pampering service. Jackie was very kind and soon calmed away my butterflies and we were soon chatting away discussing how the day would unfold as well as discussing my clothes and makeup preferences. I explained to Jackie that I wanted to be a normal girl and that is just how she treated me which was so nice.  Jackie left me to rummage through her daywear selection and I found a nice top and a lovely skirt which Jackie called her ice cream skirt because it was made up of pink, cream and brown patches a bit like a Neapolitan ice cream lol. Jackie found be a nice pair of black shoes to wear along with a white lacey body and some breast forms.  Once Jackie had helped me to dress She expertly made me over, it was Heaven she explained what she was doing and gave me some tips on how I should do my own makeup. Once she was finished Rose was in full bloom. I was thrilled by the results I looked and felt like me I felt at peace and really comfortable excited but not in a sexual way I just felt really good. The pampering started with a luxury manicure afterwards my hands felt and looked wonderful. Then I had a pedicure which was also really nice throughout the treatments Jackie and I chatted away as she worked her magic she has a wonderful way of making a girl feel really relaxed. After Jackie had worked her magic on my hands and feet we went back into the dressing room to start the photo session, firstly she took some photos of me in my skirt and blouse.                         For my next look Jackie suggested I try on a pretty summery dress and combine this with a white feather boa. Then I chose to model a gorgeous purple (my favorite colour) evening dress and lacey shrug.   I had a ball modeling the clothes I was a dream come true what girl has not dreamt of appearing on the cover of Vogue? The next treatment was a full body massage so relaxing Jackie’s hands worked her magic and this girl was floating divine, and then came the Indian head massage which was fantastic all my remaining stress just melted away. One thing to mention here girls after this treatment your hair will be a complete bird’s nest but you will feel wonderful lol. Then we had some lunch and talked some more before starting my next torture err, treatment lol a full chest, shoulders and back wax, I was pleasantly surprised here because it was nowhere near as painful as I had expected, Jackie’s skill and experience really helped to minimize my discomfort. I love having a hair free chest and will definitely return to Sugar and Spiced for another session next time I'm back in the UK. The final treatment of the day was my favorite a truly fabulous facial almost indescribably good I was floating in seventh heaven, when the treatment was over my skin was glowing and so so soft my face still feels fantastic today as I write this blog 3 days after the treatment. So girls that was the story of my Pamper Day I am a very lucky girl, I Rose was set free I had a truly wonderful day the best birthday present I could have given myself. My only regret is I did not pluck up the courage to go to a dressing service years ago, now I have I Rose am emerging from the mask and I will continue to gain in confidence and someday I hope to be. Thank you for reading and being there for me I found some wonderful people on GS and really value your support and friendship xxxxx   A very happy Rose J.
    1813 Posted by Rose Cox
Society Girl's Personal Blogs 2,004 views Sep 08, 2014
Brave or desperate being true to who you are.

My friends comment when I told him was. “Rose no one does complicated like you.” At that time I had to agree with him, my change of address, change of job, change of career, starting my new career at the foot of the ladder was complicated for me but I managed to stay sane, I think, and grow in confidence and yes I'm still learning to be me, a lifetimes learning telescoped into 2 years, so far has allowed me to live my life as I want to be. Yes I'm miss-gendered daily; well I work with older people and in truth my voice needs a lot of work before it will pass however with my work colleagues, managers  and professionals I work with  it's different because to them I believe I am just one of the girls and for that I am very very happy and thankful.

 

  One comment I hear a lot is you must be very brave and really that is what this blogs about because no I'm not brave, I was desperate I could not live my old life anymore and the need to do something was very very real.. I bet most of you who have are in the process like me or have transitioned or are thinking about it, have had the same feelings. Telling people this is not easy so I just say no braver than anyone else.

I am also told sometime be people I meet socially. “I  like you, it must be hard being different.” That one hurts I don’t want to be different not in the way they mean I am different but no more than we all as human beings are different,  every one of us is unique and that is something worth celebrating. I want to be your ordinary /extraordinary? real woman getting on with her life having a circle of friends to do girls nights out etc.  I am different and yes I do understand from the perspective of most people I am different but I myself do not believe I am that different. At work and in my volunteering roles am making positive improvements to people's life, small changes that I can do words, support, help and things that help them, I love being able to help and be caring not just a carer, there is no one who can be a carer without caring really. (It’s a hard job not financially rewarding, at least not in the UK, but rewarding non the less).

 

  OK where is this going? you ask and you would be right to ask this because really this blogs about how we can change people’s attitudes to us and in us I mean all of us that are seeking to: make are thinking, are fighting internal battles, are constrained, want or have made changes to bring our public us in line with our internal us. It is us the we who can help to bring positive changes so that people do not say we are brave and instead accept us as part of the gender we wish to be seen as. I do try to be a good person it's who I am really and I'm me a fledgling on the pathway still waiting to get those magical medical words "Yes you can start your hormones" and then later yes you can have the op you so so want.

 

  I will leave you with this thought really all of us have our own battles or own successes and our own setbacks but we know why we started on the road we have; and some of us know where we think we want to get to others are less sure. I just hope that the road is a smooth one for you and to tell you that together we are stronger and if we all help each other; then the road will be an easier one for us all. I know that the help many of you on the this site both past and present have given me, really helped make my journey an easier one so thank you so so much for your love and friendship xxxxx



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7 comments
  • M G
    M G I'm reminded of Marissa's forum signature "The change I wish to see in the world must begin with me".
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  • M G
    M G I love what you've said about caring and making small improvements to people's lives, making the world a better place. You have a beautiful spirit.
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  • M G
    M G Desperate as we may be or become, I still feel the world we live in, as it is now, demands a little bravery or courage or whatever you want to call it from us to be true to who we are. Some day hopefully, this will no longer be the case. If some of us...  more
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  • Donna V
    Donna V Thanks for this blog post Rose.It helps us all. ,Best wishes Donna.
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