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    • September 4, 2017 10:17 PM BST
    • The liner sounds like a good idea. I will have to try that.



    • September 4, 2017 7:01 PM BST
    • I also use the sock trick and add a feminine liner to obsorb moisture and it also tightens the waist band to help pull it in tighter.I can go to the bathroom for #1 or#2 and never take it off.

    • September 2, 2017 11:44 PM BST
    • The name Gaff is actually derived from gaffer tape, very painful peeling the tape back for a pee. when drag queens would tape down their bits. the proper name is cache sex for this particular item, and    As Robin said buy control pants or buy a thong a size or two smaller than you would normaly wear, pair of tights over the top and then a nice pair of pants over the tights, tights tend to make you arse look like a bank robbers face.

      Packs of 7 appropriate thongs used to be about £6 from  Primark.   Don't buy the flimsy lacy ones.

    • August 20, 2017 9:27 PM BST
    • Oh yeah.  I actually find that I can ride a bike with this gaff on.  I thought I would be crippled, but I loved the flat Lycra look that I thought it was worth the pain, but it was better than I thought.



    • August 20, 2017 9:26 PM BST
    • There is another trick that I use.  Cut the top off of a pair of tights, the elastic bit.  Also take a sock and cut the ankle bit from it.  Take the loop elastic bit from the tights and pass it through the center of the sock, so that you have the ankle bit of the sock as the bottom of the gaff and the two loops of the tight forming the sides of the gaff, which you put your legs though.  This video explains it:




    • December 7, 2014 11:48 PM GMT
    • We have an advert here on GS for "gaffs", to hold in your tackle; don't pay $30+ for one of these. Instead, buy a nylon/spandex bikini bathing suit bottom. Make sure it has about 13% spandex, and go a size smaller if you are between sizes. Much less expensive....and it works! 

    • March 30, 2016 3:05 PM BST
    • I had the good fortune to meet another lady who was about to undergo her operation...she is having done exactly what I want to have done on the NHS. She said the said as me - why go thru a risky operation to have done what you don't want to have done. The recovery time is a lot quickers as well. Having a fake vagina causes a lot of work every day and why would I want one. Each to their own. I felt very rellieved after speakingto her. Wgat a shame thgat the NHS can't tell me that and you have to wait almost a year before you avtually speak to anyone at the gender clinic.



    • January 20, 2016 8:17 PM GMT
    • As Lucy has already said you can have a cosmetic vagina but I can't imagine it is much less painful so I would ask if you are going through that kindof operation and recovery anyway, you may as well go the whole way. 

      Besides, lesbians don't fancy men or have penetrative sex with them, but they do still enjoy having their vaginas penetrated by other things. Why miss out on all of that????


    • October 20, 2015 12:36 AM BST
    • I think there is a "cosmetic" version of SRS that only creates a vulva, I'm not sure if the NHS do that.

      Penetrative sex is wonderful though, even on your own :)


    • October 19, 2015 5:26 PM BST
    • I know I am a long way off from having surgery but being 64 and I expect I will be over 66 at the ealiest before I get any surgery. Obvioulsy I want to see the back of my penis and testicles but I never ever going to want to have penatrive sex. For a start I will never fancy men and secondly look at my age. Do I need to actually have a full vagina? If there not any form of surgery that will give me a urethra and the semblence of lips etc without an actual opening. it seems to me futuile to go thru all that pain and discomfort to have something done to me that I never ever use nor want?



    • August 21, 2015 11:58 PM BST
    • I am a professional makeup artist, esthetician and beauty advisor here in Edmonton. In my experience there is quite a demand for these services amongst the TV/TS crowd. Unfortunately, accessing these services can also be embarassing and uncomfortable for many. I have been familiar with the alternative community in Edmonton for over a decade and believe I can provide something valuable to members of the community. I figured I may discuss this with you all and see where or how my advice and services can be of help. Any feedback? Feel free to get in touch with me...


    • December 7, 2014 2:51 PM GMT
    • The No-No Hair removal method is not effective. Do not waste your money.

    • October 27, 2013 12:13 PM GMT
    • They remove hair but not permanently. Never tried using it on my back, could be tricky depending on how supple your friend is. Probably easier than trying to negotiate an epilator across your back. Waxing probably lasts slightly longer before regrowth appears.
      They're not entirely useless, but perhaps unsurprisingly, the company's claims are grossly exaggerated.

    • October 27, 2013 11:39 AM GMT
    • Hi Girls,

      Hopefully you can help a CD friend of mine who's asked if I know anything about the effectiveness of the NoNo Hair Removal System.

      Unfortunately, I don't have any experience of using it, so, maybe, some of you have, and could give her some advice.

      At present, she uses waxing to keep her chest and back "carpets" (her description!!), under control, but cost and frequency of having to get it done, is getting a bit too much for her, and she was wondering if, after the initial cost of purchase, whether the NoNo would work out better for her, and would it be effective?

      As she doesn't want to go to the lengths of proper, full, hair removal, but, as she says, suffers from excessive hair-growth on her chest and back, she's trying to find the best, economical way to try and control her body-hair

      I told her I'd do my best to try and find out some proper information for her, as opposed to the "publicity blurb", so, hopefully, someone here has experience of it, and can help out.



      Angela.  xx.

    • May 7, 2014 3:50 PM BST
    • The initial advice in the first post of this thread is very good advice indeed for anyone who is due to have surgery. Plan ahead because everything will take you longer than you expect. 

    • April 10, 2014 5:02 PM BST
    • As someone who will hopefully be going through SRS in the near future I found this very informative.


      Thank you.


      Sarah. x

    • December 21, 2010 3:35 PM GMT
    • I doubt any reputable doctor, surgeon or any other proffesional person, would just spam a site with adverts, most reputable proffesional people have their own sites.

    • December 21, 2010 3:23 PM GMT
    • I have removed the offending spam. If they want to host a forum on GRS or FFS or suchlike, they are welcome to contact me. Likewise, if they'd like to advertise on the site properly, they need only drop me a line.

      However, it is unacceptable, not just here but on nearly every forum on the web, to join simply for the purposes of placing a blatant advert.

      If anyone knows any of these doctors personally, could you explain to them the correct etiquette for using internet forums.

      Thanks and hugs, Katie x

    • December 21, 2010 1:57 PM GMT
    • this persons profile was deleted, and obviously they have rejoined to place another advert, the original was in the general forums. Its highly suspect.

    • December 21, 2010 1:06 PM GMT
    • Excellent point, Marsha. Always use a doctor with a proven track record. My personal criteria, if you hear time after time, post-op girls raving about someone, maybe that doctor is pretty good. Then start doing some research. I am a big believer in word of mouth when it comes to surgeons, but it never replaces personal research.

      I have heard nothing but good things about Marsha's SRS doc, Chettawet. She obviously listened to word of mouth and did her own research. That post above, I hope will be removed soon. My synonym for that kind of doc is not kind.


    • December 21, 2010 10:54 AM GMT
    • Because it may take awhile to delete the above post, I would like to add additional information about the doctor mentioned above. First off you get what you pay for and the prices this organization has mentioned are 50%less than reputable known and well reviewed doctors. Most Thai doctors are charging in the $1800 range for a tracheal shave.

      Before anyone jumps on a "deal" for any surgery related to transition, checking out the doctor thoroughly is a must. With internet access there is no excuse not to do thorough research. Dr. Saran, the surgeon above was an associate of Dr. Preecha. Currently, there is very little information available on Dr. Saran because simple enough, he does not have a track record. Next is a very close friend of mine had her SRS with Dr. Saran in November 2009 and has yet to experience orgasm. Also after her surgery she experienced severe swelling in one leg that at times had her worried she may lose her leg or life. They should be able to easily check their records to figure out who I am referring to. Every doctor is going to have surgeries that don't go perfect so I don't want to suggest Dr. Saran is bad, only that he does not have a sufficient track record at this time for a prospective client to make a fully informed decision about.


    • June 4, 2012 8:22 PM BST
    • Wearing high heels are the main part of dressing up but overtime calfs will hurt, be sore in the morning, tightness in the calf's.


      these types of problems can link to sport type pain, my experience and how i sort out this problem to massage both calfs. im not sure that it may help you but it works for me, plus i do massage course's


      getting the blood flowing will help the process of healing faster, from stimulating and manipulating the muscle tissue (stretching in diffirent direactions). important to do these slowly and ensure that you rub the places that hurt, painful but so worth it after.


      you don't need much to make this work. using baby oil, massage products or can do it in a bath. best done after a wash, your body most likely to be warm enough plus from the warmth of shower or bath will soften the muscles.


      my way of helping the calf pain is using baby oil, towel and a tin can or bottle (make sure that it is full, not empty, it will be crushed and willnot deliver the benfits) i prefer using a tin because its flater surface.


      Tin: putting on the oil over the calfs, ensure that you are on the towel (stops any messes from happening). place the tin under your calf and role it top to bottom. better lifting your leg and bend your knee, the calf becomes more loss and no tense in it. use the tin up and down or diffrent direactions around the calf.


      thumbs: best using your thumbs to target the pain (mostly it would be everywhere). using your thumbs, press hard on the painful area's and rub up and down, and try using both thumbs to stretch the area in the mutiple places.


      parm's of your hands: this is good for presuring large amounts of area of your calf. you should do this after you done with your thumbs, depending on how long you have massaged the calf with your thumbs, overtime there will be blood building up in some places. where the pain is there will be dead cells that are no good and have to replaced. with the right pressure, the parm will push the blood though the calf and get rid of dead cells to increase the healing process.


      exercise's: does not have to much but don't not do any of these if the pain abit much, but if it's an sorness and you feel ok with it, you can do the following:


      ankle bounces: just raise your feet to your tip toe and let go to your flat feet and again raise them as much times you can. this can strengthen the calf's and become more resistant in use of high heels.


      calf stretches (hold for 15 or 20 seconds): place hands on the wall, put 1 knee forward and the other to the back and push against the calf.

      another: go on your back, raise one of your legs, grab your foot and pull against it, you should feel the pull in the calf (depending on your flexiabilty, you feel the pull in your hamstring aswell)



      hope this helped, im not an expect, but i do these to sort this type of problem out, it works for me very well. hope it works for you.


    • April 29, 2012 8:23 PM BST
    • Hi Louise

      I found Evans to be good for larger sized jewellery and would also recommend the above comment of shaving off the hairs on your hand. sometime use a epilater for longer lasting effects

      Gemma x

    • March 26, 2012 12:56 AM BST
    • Hi everyone,
      I have HUGE hands from working outside (construction) most of my life - they are like catcher's mitts!

      One thing I found is when using nail polish, i do not apply polish to teh whole nail - i leave maybe 1/16 inch on both sides to give the illusion of thinner fingers. I am staying away from bracelets, as much as would like to have them, as I think it would only draw attention to teh very thing I am trying to hide. Hope this helps!

    • January 29, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
    • Oh, I forgot to mention stretch bracelets (and rings) that are very popular right now. They'll fit most any wrist (or finger) since they are basically a gussied up elastic band that stretches to fit just about anyone.


    • January 29, 2011 2:17 PM GMT
    • Hi Louise,

      I too have rather large hands, though my wrists are on the skinny side. I look for bracelets that are hinged to put on, so you don't have to get them past the hand.

      For line bracelets or chains you can buy inexpensive "extenders" that will give you up to an inch added to the circumference.

      As for more rigid bracelets, like bangles (I love the sound of my bangles clattering as I move my hands) I can get ones that almost go over my knuckles and thumb by lubricating my hands with soupy water. They'll glide over to your wrist.


    • January 29, 2011 7:24 AM GMT
    • Hi Louise,
      You can find larger bracelets or bangles at Lane Bryant, it's a store for larger ladies.
      Covering large veins can be diminished by some makeup or finishing , bronzer powder, I am sure there are other ideas out there.
      I am fortunate, for having small hands. But I have noticed girls with longer finger nails seems to elongate the finger and give the illusion of a more feminine hand, and do not use to many rings to call attention to your hands, less is more. And you might want to have hair removal, if your serious about this area. I had all my hair removed on my hands and arms, this made a big difference.
      Hope this helps....Tammy

    • January 29, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    • Hi,
      Firstly, are there any effective ways to reduce or else conceal the size of "man" hands? Similarly, what to do about very obvious veins on the back of the hands? Thirdly, where can larger size bracelets and rings be found? The ones in the stores/shops are for "average" size wrists and hands.

    • August 26, 2011 1:38 PM BST
    • That's the advice I've heard as well, and it really works!

    • January 29, 2011 4:52 AM GMT
    • Hello,
      That is very practical advice which I will remember, but on the other hand ... don't you get some thrill out of seeing an imprint of your lips in cherry red lipstick on the glass rim?

    • October 13, 2010 6:10 PM BST
    • Ever take a sip and find your lipstick all over the rim of your glass? Moisten your lips before you put the glass to your lips, perhaps moisten the rim of your glass too for extra effect. The glass stays clean and your lipstick does not need to be redone after having a drink!

    • January 29, 2011 4:45 AM GMT
    • Hi Christine,
      On the web sites you referenced, numerous choices were presented; are there specific instances of the control thong and the tights that would be most effective?

    • December 8, 2010 1:42 PM GMT
    • Hi Janis,

      I did that too. It was a real pain to pick up the book from the floor with my little belt on. An extra incentive to maintain poise...


    • December 8, 2010 7:03 AM GMT
    • Melody,
      Now that is a long, long way from practising walking with a book balanced on your head.

    • December 7, 2010 10:53 PM GMT
    • Hi All,

      Here's a tip I'll bet you've never heard before...

      Long ago, when I was young, I had a lot of trouble getting the feminine walk just right. I seemed to drift from over-exaggerated cat-walk gaits to reverting back to male walking from the hips.

      After some thought I realized the problem was I was forgetting to treat my hips as my feminine center of gravity. We natal males have it up around the chest and shoulders.

      At the time I was co-owner of a custom bike shop and had access to metal working equipment. I cut a strip of steel 2" wide and 1/4" thick. Then I heated it with a welding torch and formed it so it would closely follow my body around my lower hips, just below the joints where my legs started, a very laborious task I must say. The result was quite heavy and looked like a medieval torture devise of some sort. But, it lowered my center of gravity from chest to lower hips.

      I would put it on with a pair of high heels and practice walking one foot in front of the other in short steps. I soon was walking in a rather fetching feminine manner. I eventually could walk the same way without my little creation.


    • June 29, 2010 10:31 PM BST
    • Hair is all important.

      My tip is to get a good wig, that's not tarty or over the top. A nice ladies hairstyle cut that doesn't draw attention. And buy the new French lace frontals.

    • June 17, 2010 5:00 PM BST
    • Katie,
      I love clothes.. and I know how to wear them to get "Maximum effect", but if you can't do the makeup properly...the clothes won't help you in a face to face situation.
      Once you get a "look" you like from makeup, you should then try many different looks. I can look like two completely different girls in the same afternoon if I want...
      Never be afraid to experiment.


      "and my needs entwined like ribbons of light...and I came through the doorway...some where... in the night"

    • June 17, 2010 11:16 AM BST
    • Hair and makeup.
      I know it's two but I honestly think if you can get those two reasonably ok then your a good deal of the way there.

    • June 17, 2010 8:45 AM BST
    • 1. Study your Color Season.[...]is.html

      Your eyes, skin tone and hair will give you your color season.

      Know your colors. Carry a list.

      2. Know your complementary colors. Study a color wheel.[...]el.html Know what adding white, black and grey does to basic colors. For example, red with white = scarlet.

      Match them up with paint cards in a hardware store. They are free. They show different shades of your colors. Carry them with you when you shop for clothing, jewelry, accessories and even shoes. When you know what goes together and have your matching color cards you can know instantly if that thrift shop or sale item will go with your color season/wardrobe. This will help give you a "put together" look in colors that make you look radiant.

      3. Know your body type and facial shape.
      They will help you pick clothing styles and wigs that make you look good.

      4. If you are transitioning, at least read DRESS FOR SUCCESS to learn how to put together a work wardrobe. While dated, it is useful.

      If you do these things, even if you do not pass, women will admire how good you look. You are more likely to pass a cursory examination in public than if your wardrobe screams "she has not got a clue how to dress". At the very least, you will have pride, and that goes a long way for self-confidence.

    • June 29, 2010 10:15 PM BST
    • Speaking as a crossdresser, I think to be a convincing woman, it's best to wear clothes that reflect the age you are and the woman you're trying to convey.

      For me, I would never wear a skirt shorter than knee length and prefer calf length skirts. I am thankfully blessed with women's legs, so I could wear my skirts shorter but choose not to as I am trying to be a smart lady late 30s/early 40s.

      I would never wear low cut tops, and would rather go for a chunky ladies sweater right up to the neck. I have a normal neck, but it looks so much nicer, because you're trying to cut down that wide chest and shoulder area often found on men.

      I normally wear pencil skirts, or knife pleat skirts, and modest court shoes, too, which makes me average women's height 5 feet '9.

      Thankfully, I have small hands so they're not the issue either.

    • June 29, 2010 12:29 AM BST
    • "Fix yourself a drink, I'll just slip into something a bit cooler."
      I've never heard of this before.
      Wouldn't any items become rock hard in the freezer?
      As for batteries I've always done the opposite by heating them up in the oven for a while in an emergency to get a bit more use.
      And as for the candles?
      Well I'm not even going there!
      The strangest thing I ever found in the freezer was a fish supper (fish and chips).
      I have absolutely no idea how it got there or how long it had been there.

    • June 28, 2010 11:03 PM BST
    • Don't you hate when you're putting on a pair of very sheer, new hose that you've just paid $10 for and you put your nail through it. UGH! I hate that. Or when you sit down in a restaurant and the chair has a screw with a burr on it that eats a hole in your hose? UGH! I hate that too. Anyway, if you want to make ANY of your hose more run resistant, you can still snag them but they won't run as easily, here is a tip that I saw on the local news.

      I tried this and it really works.

      When you buy your hose, or even some you already have, put them in the freezer for a day or two, one time only. It works! I had very sheer pair that caught something on the floor when I was walking on the carpet and it put a hole in the hose on the bottom of my foot, just smaller than the size of a dime. I put them on every morning for about two weeks. It never ran from the hole.

      I had to trash them when my leg brushed against some velcro. lol Who would have thunk.

      Give it a try. Batteries and candles will last longer too.

      Good luck!

    • June 17, 2010 10:42 PM BST
    • Melody:

      Debeading: That's hilarious. I can just picture it: it sounds like something out of I Love Lucy.

      Just today, I had to chase my dog out the room when I dropped a bag of beads on the floor and he wanted to gobble them all up.

      Thanks for the laugh.


    • June 17, 2010 8:23 PM BST
    • Hi Emily,

      My experience is mostly with "de-beading". My fiance had door frame to floor beads strung vertically on fishing line across the doorway between our living room/bedroom and the hallway that lead to the bathroom (it was 1969).

      My particular talent was to catch a string of the beads on my belt or boots or whatever when I was on my way to the toilet. You guessed it, line breaks and hundreds of beads everywhere. When it happened multiple times I think she thought I was doing it on purpose...

      I got out of the doghouse when we were out and her cat, Frodo, managed to break half a dozen lines of beads - must have been over a thousand multi-colored little balls and squares and oblongs scattered in every corner of the apartment. We were still finding them in nooks and crannyies months later.


    • June 17, 2010 7:50 PM BST
    • Wendy:

      One of the great things about beading is that you don't really need to take a class. Lots and lots of books out there for not too much money on the basics, and lots of the beading suppliers offer tips and techniques online.

      Here's one with some video tutorials:


    • June 17, 2010 12:17 PM BST
    • Wendy, that was such a great point about beading being good for fixing purchased jewelry. The little tools and findings come in really handy for repairs and at this point that is about all I have done with it. You mentioned the little plugs for backs of earrings, those are the greatest. I have a few probably like the ones you are describing and I also try to hold onto the tiny tubes that come with a lot of the pierced earring jewelry you purchase.

      On a side note. The first jewelry my wife purchased for me after my ears were pierced was 2" 14kt gold hoops with delicate closures. My favorite for a long time but you need to stay on top of closures loosening up over time. Eventually I lost one while I was out and had no clue where it may have been lost. About a month ago now while cleaning out my truck, there it was. It had been at least a year since I had lost it and I had cleaned out my truck several times during that period. Amazingly enough it wasn't damaged at all. Needless to say the first thing I did was tighten the closure.


    • June 17, 2010 8:22 AM BST
    • I have been waiting to take a class in basic jewelry making for years. It's right around the corner but I have never been able to afford it. It's also good for fixing your purchased jewelry.

      I found a great item at Walmarts. It is a pack of soft, plastic, plugs that slide onto the end or your pierced earrings. Alone or outside the normal holders, they keep the earrings secure. I have not lost an earring from my ear since purchasing them, even in the shower. A wonderful lady in VA showed them to me when I was buying some replacements for two I lost on a trip.

    • June 17, 2010 2:48 AM BST
    • My partner Carrie-Anne makes jewelry. She finds it rewarding as a hobby and some of the things she has made me are really lovely. She buys some of her bits locally and some semi-precious stones from the internet, As for non-pierced earings: she makes some standard for me and her freinds and some non-pierced for herself and my mum and gets the screw findings from the internet for very little money..http:///www.mailorder-bea[...]x.html
      She only makes items t ogive as gifts as it is her way. Some of her work can be seen here