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    • June 17, 2010 12:34 AM BST
    • My wife took a short class on beading and just loved how easy it was to do. We went to the craft store and purchased some odds and ends but never have really set aside time to make anything. Maybe now with most the kids out of the house we can once again give it a try.
      Hugs,
      Marsha

    • June 16, 2010 5:53 PM BST
    • On the lighter side, has anyone else tried beading? I love jewelry of all kings--earrings especially, but necklaces and bracelets,too. A friend was recently talking about her beading projects, how much fun they were and how much she enjoyed wearing jewelry she made. So I gave it a try. With a few inexpensive tools, a beginners book and a handful of supplies, I've been enjoying it immensely. (In fact, I wearing a pair or earrings right now I made this morning in about 15 minutes!

      Earrings are especially fun, since finding nice non-pierced earrings with a little flair is not easy.

      Just wondering who else does this for pleasure--or even profit.

      Emily

    • June 7, 2010 3:20 AM BST
    • Thanks Karen, I will order a copy from Amazon today.

    • January 3, 2010 6:03 AM GMT
    • Thanks for the info. I will see if it is in my library :D


      Stephenie

    • July 12, 2008 3:20 PM BST

    • Thanksfor thelink Sarah.

      I ordered a copy yesterday.

      For anyone who wants to get a copy, there's "loads" of options on Sarah's link to Amazon.

      Hugs,
      Angela. xx.

    • July 5, 2008 2:15 AM BST
    • Hi...
      A while ago there was a question about how one should choose clothes to emphasize the right parts, while de-emphasizing the masculine traits of: big hands, broad shoulders, thick neck, heavy ankles, etc. Since then I have found my copy of the book that answers it all! "Flatter your Figure", by Jan Larkey, 1991 is an absolute bible of how to dress. She tells how to analyze your own figure, giving codes to those areas that are either problems or assets. Then there is a graphic section describing necklines, hemlines, skirt shapes, pants, sleeves, shoes, and anything else that affect how you look when you dress - even colors and fabric patterns! It goes on to tell which figure attributes can be emphasized or diminished, depending on the style you choose.
      When I got the book, I studied it thoroughly, and have had no trouble feeling good about the way I look every time I dress. In drab I look like a fat old guy, but I have no trouble passing as a chic, confident woman when dressed! Once you have mastered her suggestions, you can develop your own style, but her hints are invaluable to any woman wanting to choose clothes to look her best.
      Has anybody else used this fabulous manual?

      Karin

    • December 4, 2009 3:14 PM GMT
    • http://www.thefrisky.com/[...]ref=RSS

      A great tip on using GREENLAND WAX to windproof and waterproof your winter clothing. It is a product used by outdoorspersons when camping and hiking. This means your tights, for example, can be far more effective against winter winds.

    • October 17, 2009 7:31 PM BST
    • Warning on their wigs though in that their adjustables seem to go only to a 22" head...lots of bigger girls, myself included, need a 23"....and if you're inexperienced, you do NOT want to wear a 21 or 22" wig on a larger head...it will look silly and probably keep moving on you...

      If anyone knows differently about their ability to service the "large" wig sizes, I am all ears!

      Thnx..


      Traci

    • October 17, 2009 3:54 PM BST
    • I have 2 top tips to give...
      1. How to make your hands look feminine...
      I use a couple of great products and always do it before i go out (takes about 20mins though, but is worth it). Firstly i soak my hands in warm water, then i use half a sachet of 'Champneys Manicre Miracle Softening Scrub' - this stuff is AMAZING! If your rub your hands with it for a couple of mins your hands will be sooooo soft and clean, i then use 'Champneys overnight sensation hand car cream', but not overnight! I put enough on a realy massage in to my hands - if you have time you can put in to plastic gloves and leave for 5 mins, but if not then you will be amazed by the results anyway. You can get either product from http://www.champneys.com/[...]roducts or from one of their shops. Expensive, but a good investment.
      2. The PERFECT WIG...
      I have to share this one with you as i struggled for ages to find the right wig and now i have found loads!
      Wonderland wigs sell a huge range of wigs and have lots of styles to suit. I have bought 3 now and am really impressed with them. The owner (Sam) is really nice and will help you with styles etc. They also have lots of advice about styling and care in their ebay shop pages. Trust me it's well worth a look http://stores.shop.ebay.c[...]nd-Wigs .
      This is my fave from them...

      Hope you find these tips useful. I have been dressing for approx 10 years now, and these are a couple of my pearls!
      xx

    • September 29, 2009 12:54 PM BST
    • Hmmm well for me it would be voice because even though I am six foot tall and a nice "handsome" face etc etc, the thing that got me outed before was my voice ALL the time.

      So yeah I suppose it would be voice. Get that and I think you got most of it made



      Stephenie

    • June 12, 2008 7:54 PM BST
    • My best tip is "Have a support group." Don't be afraid of asking questions. As the saying goes "Give a little, get a little." TW is my best bet.
      hugs

    • June 12, 2008 4:53 PM BST
    • For me it`s the voice,you could look like the perfect female but if you sound like Barry white when you speak,you will never pass! So work on perfecting your female voice.
      Hugs and kisses Michellexxxx

    • June 12, 2008 9:43 AM BST
    • For me, its wear soming you feel comfortable in. If I chose to wear soming a little more daring than usual I can end up being self concious and concerned with what others think. On the odd occasion I have spent times not being able to relax and not enjoy myself as much as I should have. We all live and learn. I supose its a matter of taking little steps and working up to ones aspirations. X penny.

      oh, quick tip.. I went to a Mac Shop and had a sit in test for my foundation. I got the perfect foundation and Mac is really good for beard cover too. A little expensive but worth every penny in my book.

    • June 11, 2008 11:22 PM BST
    • For me, its definately deportement. Its how you carry yourself. Its the basics. Men slouch, slump, crawl and scratch their nether regions at will. Women walk tall and proud. Shoulders back, breasts forward, stomach in and bum out. Its the walk.

      [Ok, I'll admit way too many of the younger gg's want to morph into slouchy guys....]

      My tuppence anyway.

      Much love

      Rae xx

    • June 11, 2008 9:44 PM BST
    • Dress your age. Enough said.
      Hugs,
      Marsha

    • June 11, 2008 7:06 PM BST
    • Mine is simple, go into the real world and watch GG's. See how they dress, how their make up is worn at various times of the day and the often subtle differences in their body langauge.

      Watch and learn and you will blend in without difficulty.

      Nikki

    • June 11, 2008 6:10 PM BST
    • If you could give one single tip to your TG sisters, on make-up, clothes, shoes, nails, wigs, passing in public, getting the best look or whatever, what would it be?

      Hugs,

      Katie x

    • September 29, 2009 12:52 PM BST
    • Wow thanks a lot for the info.

      Not sure I seen anyone put it so well before. Thanks




      Stephenie

    • June 14, 2008 6:09 PM BST
    • Hi!

      A few moons ago I spoke to someone who was up for SRS who asked me for some tips and information and I figured I'd post some of my tips here in case anyone is interested.
      These are just some practical tips, I leave the medical stuff to the people who know about them =)

      You will be spending a lot of time lying on your back, probably almost an entire week at the hospital and even more when getting back home so the tip is learn to sleep on your back. I am/was used to sleeping on my side and pulling my knees up a bit and spending so much time lying flat on my back gave me serious back pain. In fact, the pain in my back was far worse than anything that had to do with the surgery.

      Build up some muscles, especially legs and abs.
      When you are able to move around a bit after surgery you will need to use these muscles more than you are used to and they will be seriously weekend from spending so much time in a hospital bed . I know most TS don't like to build up any muscles but if there is a time to get some, it's before surgery.
      Also, get in shape. You will be weak after suregery and even a few weeks after coming home, you will still get tired really quickly from doing everyday things like shop for groceries and go for walks.

      Buy lubricant as you will be doing a lot of dilating.
      First, go and put lots of it in your shopping bag. Then go back to the shelf and get twice as much as you first planned for. No matter how much you buy, you will eventually use it up. I like the silicon based ones as they aren't as messy as the water based but to each their own.

      Buy sanitation pads.
      You will need them, you will need lots of them and you will need them for a long time.

      Buy comfy cotton underwear.
      You will be sore, swollen and possibly in and out of pain. Comfort comes before looks now.

      Take care of that ass.
      Sitting down will not be something you will do a lot of for the first week(s) after suregery. Get one of those rubber rings pregnant women sometimes uses to sit on. Believe me, it will come in really handy.

      Rethink your morning ritual ahead of time.
      You will need a lot of more time to get ready for your everyday life and if you can start working 50% and then move up in time, this will help in finding your morning ritual and get back to an everyday life.
      Different surgeons have different dilation schedules but you will probably be put on 30-45 minutes in the mornings to start with. 30 minutes means even more time in practice since you need preparation time and clean up time too. The problem is that you don't just ”do it”, there is a lot more to it than just waking up, placing the dilator where it belongs and wait for 30 minutes. Plan for at least an hour of extra time added to your morning routines for this. There is no room for cheating here, sorry. In fact, for a while after surgery you will feel that dilation is your entire life.

      Also, I found a rather nice page on the internet that might get you some ideas about what to expect and perhaps ask you surgeon about. http://www.intelleng.com/zen.html . A little warning, it's not entirely safe to read at work for instance.

      Hope this was interesting to someone.... =)

    • September 29, 2009 12:49 PM BST
    • When I run out of sandpaper I just use my face LOL
      But seriously, my beard is almost all grey now and VERY coarse.

      What I do is bath and soak in hot water. I shave after soaking at least 15 minutes. Then when I shave I go both directions as Sarah said. Ok so after this I finish my shower etc etc.
      Then I put on moisterizer on my face and let that soak in for half an hour.. Now IF I NEED TO HAVE A CLOSE SHAVE FOR A LONGER TIME THEN USUAL then I shave once more using moisterizer instead of shaving cream.

      With this I can be stubble free an extra 2 hours I found.
      The moisterizer seems to plump up the hairs just that tiny bit more that I need in order to get an even closer shave.

      However I can not do this more then two days in a row as it is VERY hard on my skin. How your mileage goes may vary however,

      Hope that helps out someone



      Stephenie

    • December 30, 2008 10:15 PM GMT
    • THE best way for a perfectly smooth shave is, use hot water as hot as you can take it (that softens the hair and skin), shave in the direction of hair growth, reapply shaving foam or whatever, then shave against the growth direction. and dont use aftershave, just warm water alone is best...... SERIOUSLY, THIS IS THE VERY BEST WAY TO DO IT, with out permanant removal.

      Hope this helps

      Emma:)

    • July 17, 2008 7:20 PM BST
    • LOL Katie, you mention electrolysis hurts as if laser doesn't. I've been doing laser treatments for a year now and can give you a money back guarantee that Laser does hurt, lol.

      Wynonna Rose, I don't know how proficient you are at shaving but typical shaving right after showering or using a hot towel over your beard will give you the best results because your follicles and pores relax exposing more of the hair.
      Next a sharp razor will provide the cleanest shave and multiblade razors are worth the price. Also use a shaving gel versus cream.
      First shave with the hair growth, typically downward. Use a maginfying mirror to get a closer look at the direction of growth, this is more important than you might think. Rinse the blade frequently.
      Second is to shave against the grain. If you took a credit card against your face you would hear it drag across the hair. It is very important to rinse the razor frequently.
      It is not over, next apply a moisturizer with your finger tips. You should be able to feel any areas that still need attention. Just use the moisturizer as the lubricant and shave those areas again. At this point you probably have the closest shave you will get.
      After completely shaving, and applying the moisturizer, allow the moisturizer to absorb into the skin.
      This is how I use to hide beard shadow before I had laser: Use a yellow tinted concealer on the beard area. Then use a small amount of orangish red lipstick to add a little more color. Blend it well outwards. Now apply a full coverage foundation. It takes some practice but eventually you can shave and apply your foundation in maybe 10 minutes tops.

      Wish you the best,
      Marsha

    • July 17, 2008 1:59 PM BST
    • Unfortunately there just isn't a cheap and effective way to get around this problem if you have a significant beard growth. Sooner or later you will need either laser or electrolysis. Laser salons are more abundant and often cheaper but it is still going to cost quite a lot, however, you can usually pay in installments or per session to ease the burden.

      As Katie says, do a search for a salon somewhere in your area and discuss payment options with them.

      Nikki

    • July 17, 2008 1:26 PM BST
    • Hi Wynonna Rose,

      I find the best way to get a really close shave for that special night out, is to grow a beard for a week first, then shave it off using a razor. Unfortunately my beard starts to grow fairly quickly so by a few hours later my shaving area looks like Homer Simpson's.

      However, I am now saving up to have laser treatment which is quite expensive but effective. Depilatory creams just don't seem to work on male beards and electrolysis hurts, so laser it is.

      The laser emits a beam, which is absorbed by the pigment in the hair and within two or three weeks, hair that has been damaged by the laser is shedded. As the follicle is disabled, hair regrowth is significantly reduced.

      If this sounds like what you want, just Google for a salon or clinic that offers laser treatment near you, but start saving too 'coz it ain't cheap.

      Hope that's useful.

      Hugs,

      Katie x

    • July 17, 2008 3:39 AM BST
    • I need a facial hair removal tip to help me to not have facial hair show or even a shadow from a beard or a way to be sure to shave closer and have it not noticeable. I am a Pre-op early stage TS MTF Not yet going through permanent facial hair removal. I shave my face as well as I can and as close as I can but often I find post shave I can still see hair and feel it too. If I put my face on I have to use a lot of foundation to compensate for the hair just to hide it. Then I look overly made up and that could lead to being read as a male and not seen as a female. Does anyone have a tip that is useful to help with this serious problem until I can get through to a more permanent solution to the facial hair removal?

      Sincerely
      and Humbly

      Wynonna Rose

    • May 15, 2009 6:10 PM BST
    • A lot of transgenders are facing problems with social fears, inhibitions or getting started with the transformation.
      Hypnosis is a powerful tool to dissolve these problems and to develop a positive mindset.
      The mind controls what the body is doing- It is one of the oldest and best explored forms of psychotherapy.

      To help the transgender community, I have developed a set of powerful mp3 hypnosis sessions.
      You should listen to them with headphones (eyes closed) in bed or in a comfortable chair.

      They are available FREE of charge at my blog: http://mistress-catgirl.b[...]pot.com

      Testimonials of my subjects (so far more than 10.000 downloads) are available, showing impressive results.

    • January 6, 2009 9:38 PM GMT
    • The Wonderbra I mentioned, code number 7925 is called a "Lightweight gel Push-up".
      I've tried loads of Wonderbras and this is the best for cleavage if you have small breasts.
      There is another one I use - the Panache Atlantis Flirt Gel Bra.
      I have a 36AA, which fits nicely but a 34 would probably be more "effective". It's heavier than the Wonderbra, not quite as good a killer cleavage effect, but almost, and it is more invisible under certain types of light, tight clothing, where the outline of the Wonderbra's moulded cups can show through slightly.
      It has taken an awful lot of experimenting to find these two bras that work so well, and I'm not sure if I will ever try anything else; they are just sooo good. Once you find the one you like (or the two in my case), buy one black and one white and they should do for all your outfits. Though I've yet to find the perfect strapless gel bra that gives a great cleavge. I think I've given up on that search though, will just have to wait a few more years for my breasts to grow some more and I won't have to rely so much on gel bras.
      xx

    • January 6, 2009 6:42 PM GMT
    • Thank you girls, as usual you have all the answers. I'm going to combine your 2 suggestions. After looking at a couple sites for Wonderbras, I've decided to order a 36A and an extender. I will try the 36A first and determine if I need the extender. There so many to pick from, any suggestions for max cleavage. I have so many bras for my D forms and have always bought a 40D bra for the comfort level. This is a whole different reason for changing band size. I'm excited about ordering one to try. If it does the trick I will buy several different styles. Thanks again girls. Thanks And Kisses, Lauralea .

    • January 6, 2009 4:37 PM GMT
    • Hi Lauralea.
      I’m probably a 36A, but use a 34A Wonderbra for maximum cleavage effect. If you can squeeze into a band size smaller it will bring the breasts together just a little more, and as Marsha says, 38A or B is easier to find than 40.
      There are loads of Wonderbras out now, the one I use has the code number 7925, not sure if they are available in the States. Have a look here to see one on ebay.
      Not sure if they do 38A, but if the cup size is bigger than you need you won’t get as good a cleavage effect.
      xx

    • January 6, 2009 12:35 PM GMT
    • 40A and B's are really specialty items, even my wife who has a larger frame complains that finding the right bra is difficult because the bra makers seem to believe larger women all have boobs down to there belly button. 38A and B's can definitely be found just about anywhere and most bra departments or online sell what are called bra extenders that easily convert a band size up to the next size, so that would be my suggestion.

      Hugs,
      Marsha

    • January 6, 2009 4:25 AM GMT
    • Hello again girls. I'm wondering where to get a bra that fits me. I've been reading some forum comments that say that they fill out an A cup and with the right bra can create a good cleavage. I've plenty of chest fat and could easily fill and A and maybe A B cup. trouble is i'm a 40 around . What I want is to find a place to buy a bra that not only will fit a 40A or B but create a cleavage. I really want to fill my own bra naturally instead of with forms. Thanks girls I know you will have the answers. Thanks & kisses, Lauralea

    • December 31, 2008 3:53 PM GMT
    • Hi there,

      some of you may,in the not so distant past,have purchased Maxima Breastforms-in particular those with a Velcro-based system for attachment to the chest- only to be caught flat by said company ceasing manufacture of the necessary Velcro patches. Help is at hand! Teeter (you are wearing heels aren't you?) on down to your friendly local department store with a haberdashery section,or,failing that,tailoring and dressmaking shop, and look for self-adhesive Velcro. Comes in white or black.Then pop into the chemists and purchase a roll of elastoplast.

      Using the template which came with the breastforms outline their position on your chest and then apply the elastoplast, following the outline as closely as possible.Then stick the appropriate pieces of Velcro onto the elastoplast-the longer the better.The reason for this is that I don't know whether the adhesive on the velcro is body-compatible in terms of both chemical composition and adhesive strength.It's far easier to remove elastoplast than something which may resemble super-glue............

      Then 'stick' your tits on,put on your bra, and Roberta's your Aunty!


      Happy New Year,

      Lynn H.

    • July 14, 2008 1:56 AM BST
    • A popular product is called "Pedals". Do a search on the web to see them. They come in various sizes for different shoes. Many Bridal Shops carry them. So check your local Bridal Shops.

    • April 9, 2007 9:04 PM BST
    • Shoes above size 11 or 12 only come in whole sizes, no half-sizes. Many of us must wear shoes in this size range. How to get shoes to stay on without having them too tight and risking damage to your foot....

      They sell inserts with peel-off sticky backs for about a dollar or so. Putting these in the shoe where the ball of your foot rests will make a too-big, whole size shoe fit properly and stay in place. They are particularly helpful when wearing high-heels, as they keep your foot from sliding forward and jamming your toes in the toe of the shoe.

      I discovered this recently when a pair of flats did not stay on my feet and I knew a size smaller was unacceptably tight. The shoe store salesperson was very helpful when asked how to deal with this problem.

    • April 29, 2008 7:10 PM BST
    • I really dislike body hair, REALLY DISLIKE it. I started out just cutting the pubic hair short, then I tried shaving. But no matter what I did, I got nasty red shaving bumps. Then I tired an electric razor which worked out well at first. But the last time, I got thoes nasty bumps again. Anyone have advice or a great tip?
      I don't have a problem with the genitals themself since I can shave them with a razor with incident.

      Thanks,
      Bosco

    • April 11, 2008 3:09 PM BST
    • hi girls,

      i just found a great way to hide them hairy arms, i know some of us can just say to hell with it and shave or use some other removal product but there are loads of us out there that just cant do that as we have our daily routine as guys to consider and some may feel the need to protect there identity.

      i bet you all ready know this tip but i just found out about it and im so excited with the results. i have found that having hairy arms isn't really that much of a problem, the problem is the dark color of the hair ( it's that simple (omg)) i just picked up a cheep light blond hair color and used it on my arms FANTASTIC. try it yourself it really works, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, read the instructions carefully and then READ THEM AGAIN. coloring treatments can cause skin problem and you should always test the product first.

      anyway I've gone on for to long, try it out have fun and be safe.

    • April 9, 2007 12:49 PM BST
    • Hiding your 'thingy'!

      I can't take any credit for this as I cut it from another forum, but it makes sense for it to be here. It descibes how to make a gaffe to give yourself a smooth front when dressed.

      One of the tips I've found useful is the "Tights Method". Basically you make a gaffe out of a pair of panty hose:

      Step 1: take a pair of panty hose (your size) and cut off the elastic waist with scissors.

      Step 2: next, cut a portion of one of the hose legs so that you have a tube approx 1 1/2 feet long.

      Step 3: now take the elastic waist and pass it through the "tube"
      so that the elastic sticks out at both ends forming loops.

      Step 4: now put your legs through the loops and pull the whole thing up to your thingy. Pull your thingy back and then pull the hose up tight. It should resemble a thong panty. The front should be the "tube" part holding your thingy quite nicely. the back should be pulled up so that it's right in between your cheeks like a thong.

      Now you can wear a regular pair of panties over the "gaffe", bikini or thong style. You obviously have to put this on when you are not excited, and there's little chance of getting exicted with it on! It works really well, costs nothing since you already had the tights and can be worn all day without any discomfort.

    • April 9, 2007 12:19 PM BST
    • Yes, I never go out without my Dermablend, but its associated products are so expensive. As well as the powder I also got some “special” remover with mine, but soon realised that it comes off just fine with ordinary make-up wipes. Just about any loose powder will probably fix the Dermablend ok, but I use a pale blusher, as the red can help to hide any grey-blue shadow. The colour seems to blend in with foundation so it becomes unnoticeable. You only need a light dusting.
      I think a tips forum is a great idea, but it’s not always necessary to stretch it out to two or three hundred words, even though that’s a nasty habit of mine…
      Long or short, I hope people are willing to share their tips with each other.
      xx

    • April 9, 2007 12:37 AM BST
    • But seriously, loose finishing powder is not only less expensive, but it applies more quickly and easily, and with better result.

    • April 8, 2007 8:20 PM BST
    • 20% on a dinner check. A buck per round to the bartender. A dollar plus the loose change for cab fare under $10....over $10, 15%. A dollar a day to the chambermaid. Two dollars per bag to the redcap if you want to see your luggage arrive at your destination.

    • April 8, 2007 6:46 PM BST
    • Yes, you're right. I'm just so full of enthusiasm, that when I unveil something new I expect everyone else to jump up and down with excitement too. I guess the real world is just not like that.

      Anyway, come on girls, let's see those tips rolling in - remember, they'll need to be a little bit longer than just a couple of sentences. Try to aim for a couple of hundred words if you can.

      Just to give you an idea of little that is, this post I'm writing now contains about a hundred words.

      Thanks and huggies,

      Katie x

    • April 8, 2007 3:33 PM BST
    • Katie your to impatient with new things. It may not be a runaway thread but I'm sure it will get it's use.

    • April 8, 2007 1:41 PM BST
    • hi just a money saving tip for those who use derma blend instead of buying the fixing powder, use boots number 9 loose foundation powder which costs a lot less and comes in a a range of shades.

    • April 8, 2007 12:46 PM BST
    • It doesn't look as though this is going to be a winner. Anyone interested?

      Hugs, KT x

    • April 6, 2007 8:24 PM BST
    • Hi Girls,

      A few months back I tried to start a new mailing list called Tranny Tip on the Week. The idea was that we were going to send out really good a tip for being a girly, once a week.

      However, it failed miserably because I just could not keep up. I just didn't have time to write a new tip every week.

      I tried for about three or four weeks and then gave up. It was a good idea though and appeared to be very well received so I was a bit miffed that I just couldn't afford the time to keep it going.

      Apart from that, although I personally have been trannying for many, many years, I am not the TG oracle and do not know everything there is to know about being female.

      You do though! Between us, between our thousands of members, there is a huge knowledge and it's time that we tapped it for the good of us all.

      So perhaps you can help. We have created this forum so that every time you think of something that would be a useful piece of knowledge to pass on to our other members, you can write it up here for all the world to see.

      We're looking for tips between 200 and 300 words long.

      If you can think of anything useful, for beginners or lifers, this is the place to put it.

      Perhaps you know a thing or two about applying make-up (or removing it). Maybe shoes are your forte, passing in public, body language, nails, wigs, eyelashes, driving in heels, whatever, you can post it here.

      Then, when we have a few tips to get us started, we will reinstate our Tranny Tip of the Week, written by you.

      Please help us to make this a successful service of our girls.

      Huggies,

      Katie x