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    • October 26, 2018 2:34 AM BST
    • Hello,


      My name is Cassidy and I’m a college student at NYU. I have made this 15 minute survey about voice use and how it affects the quality of life in transgender and cisgender women. If you are interested at all, please click this link and participate! Thank you and have a great day!


    • August 28, 2018 4:47 PM BST
    • it is really unfortunate. it causes a bit of confusion at MD's offices, as names do not match. always an embarrasing moment when "Mr Fowler" is called out. Unfortunately, our voice is not that big, even in the LGBTQ community. Def a wait and see kind of situation. ; (

    • August 19, 2018 9:34 PM BST
    • Robin w
      Sorry to hear of your troubles.
      Maybe we can change all that.

    • June 8, 2018 1:36 AM BST
    • Just to follow up Chrissy Charlands Aug 2017 post:
      Prior to Trump Admin, I had my Social Security card changed to my new name. This past March, i turned 65 and received my Medicare card, in my old name. I had to eventually call SS Admin to find out why. He. the SSA rep, said, "We have you as Robert now. You will have to change it by filing a form i will send to you." The form requires identification, one acceptable proof is a "birth certificate issued at time of birth." !!! So my amended birth certificate is not proof of identity. This is a change from the Obama Admin, where i was issued a SSA card in my new name with a stamped probate court document and amended state birth certificate. So the fascist ppl put in charge are carrying out Trump's disdain for transgender ppl.

    • May 22, 2018 7:13 AM BST
    • I understand completely and didn't really expect to get much response on it, but I figured nothing ventured is nothing gained...hopefully she and I can figure it out, she already had the surgery pushed back a couple months to give us time

    • May 21, 2018 5:55 PM BST
    • Sorry, but we don't know when someone is genuine or not, unfortunately some of us have been conned, taken advantage of in the past.   So we don't contribute to go fund me pleas, but if you are genuine in your support of a friend, good luck.

    • May 20, 2018 1:13 AM BST
    • I have taken on the role of moral and emotional support for a beautiful young woman I met online about a year ago. I have helped her through all the ups and downs of transitioning, and she was finally approved for reassignment surgery, then a month before the surgery her insurance company revealed that it would cost about $8k due immediately...does anyone have any ideas or the desire to assist? She has set up a GoFundMe account.

    • December 5, 2017 4:05 PM GMT
    • We are under incredible attack with the Trump Admin. I had filed a complaint with US Health & Human Services before Trump was in office, for sex discrimination by ab insurance company. I received a reply and a case number. Since then, the case has been suspended. The head og H&HS is an anti LGBT asshole. Appointed by Trump of course.

    • November 10, 2017 8:50 PM GMT
    • September 17, 2013

      A transgender woman has reached a $50,000 settlement with her former employer in a discrimination case in South Dakota, the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) announced Monday, the latest in a string of cases that say transgender discrimination is applicable under Title VII of the U.S. Civil Rights Act.


      Something I have just  found, bit late I know.


      American Bar Association Publishes Legal Guide for Trans People

      American Bar Association Publishes Legal Guide for Trans People

      The American Bar Association has released a groundbreaking legal primer for transgender adults before, during, and after their transitions with regards to numerous legal spheres that in many U.S. states remains murky.

    • September 22, 2017 7:27 PM BST
    • Chrissy
      Sorry that it has taken a while for me to read your post. I appreciate you for saying what is happening. Unfortunately this nation is losing its creditability worldwide - let's hope we'll get it back.

    • August 27, 2017 5:25 AM BST
    • Recent years have seen a lot of changes in the U.S. Trans community. We've found ourselves the center of attention and in many ways that was a good thing and well to be honest, it still is. The more visibility the trans community receives the more society becomes aware. Lately things in the U.S. have taken a turn for the worse. And that's okay. I have faith in the American people but not so much in the current leader of this fine country. His narrow minded views seem to be taking us back a decade or two. 

      This leader cannot change the mindset of a nation. He can only slow the progress he opposes. He is not the leader of a nation but the leader of a business and America is so much more than that. The trans community has survived much worse and we will survive his narrow minded obsessions.  

    • June 30, 2017 2:34 PM BST
    • Thanks for the replies everybody. Cory have you heard of any sperm banks in particular? I've being doing research and from what I can tell this may be the best option for me in the future.

    • June 27, 2017 5:21 PM BST
    • Yes Corey...that is a viable option if you wish father children in the futre after you've begun HRT.  


    • June 27, 2017 3:55 PM BST
    • I spose you could, perhaps it is something I would have considered, unfortunatel or fortunately I was unable to father children having being born with an AIS condition, which rendered me infertile.

    • June 27, 2017 3:05 PM BST
    • I'm wondering the same thing!!! Someone told me to freeze my sperm before starting hormone replacement therapy. Has someone here done this before? 

    • June 26, 2017 6:01 PM BST
    • ^like Crissie said^...also, your former "male" libido will flip tons and you will begin to view life and also sexual things far differently.  As an example, males are "visual" them a picture of a pretty woman and they "spring into action" rather quickly with only one thought on their minds. (smile)  Women on the other hand, will usually require far different things to get them "sexually" or "emotionally interested.  These could be things like scents, sounds, touches, words, caresses, or even a gnetle brush up against something when wearing an item that "tingles" when touched...alos, expect orgasms to become entirely different as well.  Men will go from an "inward to outward" explosion, quite pleasurable but also rather quick and then it's over!  When your body is running on estrogen, the "process" of an orgasm can best be described as beginning outward in your extremities and working it's way "inward" where it then reverses in an outward wash of warmth and tingling that is difficult to describe other than I'd say women have better orgasms than men do!!  They can repeated over and over.  You most likely will not "ejaculate" anything like a male other than a drop or so of clear something...but you will "spasm" to levels you never thought possible.


      You will reach a "point of no return" in your journey with HRT and you must truly desire to reach that "end game" for you will never again be able to satisfy a woman (or man) thru penetration.  It just won't work and it also will most likely shrink lots as well.  Hormones are NOT "play toys" and the effects of useage are not something you can "put away" when you're done's all or nothing hun...


      Best wishes always!


      Traci xoxo

    • June 26, 2017 4:52 PM BST
    • Depends on the dosage and how long you take it, then you will suffer permanant soft ons and your sperm count will be drastically reduced.

      suggest you consider it carefully and get advice from a doctor, who should check your blood, T & E levels and evaluate your general health before prescribing.

    • June 26, 2017 4:15 PM BST
    • Hey all,

      I'm a bit new to this.. MTF.. wondering how HRT will effect my fertility?

    • April 7, 2017 3:04 PM BST
    • Alway be aware of this kind of scene, sometimes they are giving you various print materials just let you know they are reliable as they maybe are not.



      Maurine of

    • February 7, 2017 12:52 AM GMT
    • I'm right around the Troy-Union City area. The closest doctor I know of is somewhere in Memphis but I work weekdays and the office is closed on weekends. So I was wondering if anyone knew a closer office to where I am? Preferabbly an informed consent clinic but I'll take anything at this point. I hope for some good answers from you beautiful people!!

    • December 10, 2016 9:20 PM GMT
    • Amy Carter said:

      As long as we live in a world ran by corporate greed, lifestyles will always be diffcult, especially if this is yours.

      There is no such thing as "corporate greed."  A corporation is an abstract entity.  When you pierce the corporate veil, you find raw human greed.

      As to "lifestyles," yes, the lifestyle of prostitution and human trafficking will always be difficult as long as there is law enforcement.

      The aforementioned "lifestyle" has nothing to do with human gender identity or the situation of a human's internal or external sexual organs or secondary sex characteristics....

    • December 10, 2016 2:48 PM GMT
    • Are you new here? The aforementioned Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services URL does not provide any coverage for the aforementioned Transgender condition for treatment by the aforementioned Doctors in re Plaintiff's complaint and allegation regarding the same.

    • November 17, 2016 12:15 PM GMT
    • Hellooooo :)

      I'm part of a group which is trying increase support for gender diversity by developing an app to make access to gender neutral toilets easier

      We have conducted loads of research to inform our ideas but are in desperate need of some good feedback 

      It would be really helpful if anyone could have a look and give us some feedback on it

    • July 5, 2016 4:35 PM BST
    • Hi Sisters :-)
      Just checking in and checking things out , wanted to say hi to my Girls .
      I'm a TG MTF aka WOMAN of the Punk Rocker Variety , married to a beautiful Anatomic Born bombshell Norwegian girl , lovely , and as nuts as me .
      Nice to be here , and HELLO :-)

    • June 7, 2016 9:14 PM BST
    • Unfortunately Katie, the moderator can't find any way to get rid of the minus, so she added 2 reputations for you, and I'll add a reputation whenever I can, so the one negative won't mean anything. I'm so so so sorry. You can give me one if you want! It's kinda wrong that they even give an option to decrease reputation. And on my tiny iPhone, I was trying to hit the submit button when I accidentally hit decrease, I was then wondering why nothing happened (didn't see the change) and hit submit again...

      For anyone who reads this and wants to read my response, then Katie's response to me, go to ...and welcome her while you're there!

    • June 7, 2016 6:11 PM BST
    • Oh no, I was trying to increase your reputation, Katie, and I accidentally hit decrease! I'm going to have a moderator fix this, but I also just wanted to say I kinda replied to your post in your Welcome New Members post. And I like what you said! Okay let me go and fix this problem, I blame my clumsy fingers and this iPhone!

    • June 6, 2016 10:36 PM BST
    • I don't have this issue. I'm very sexually liberated and always have been. Our bodies are wonderful vessels for both giving and receiving pleasure. Guess it's hard for me to see anything wrong with it when we're designed by nature that way.


      However, I did recently make the accquaintence of a fella who felt this way. He grew up in a strict religious household and though he was aroused by me, he fought hard to stiffle his feelings. It had been a while since I was with a man and--dammit I had needs! But I also had to respect his wishes. Anyhoo, eventually things did start to get a little hot and heavy and I'll never forget him basically crying and saying, "this is so wrong but it feels so good!" Suddenly I was appalled at myself. I felt I was using my goods to force him to compromise his morals. I just snuggled with him and held him the rest of the night because I didn't know what else to do.


      I don't know if it's my place to feel this way, but I've got to admit: I was sad...I felt bad for him and others like him who think the things we do that feel good, are, simply by virtue of feeling good, somehow bad.


      In the end though, he was a stronger person than me and I had nothing but respect for him. 

    • March 25, 2016 8:33 PM GMT
    • Jacqui   I hope you realise that you're not alone.  I've been lied to,
      just like you. Lose that guilt. Think "whose problem is this?" - it isn't yours. So be yourself.

    • March 18, 2016 10:08 PM GMT
    • Shame is that inner feeling caused by the expectations and rules set by other people, to conform to expected social norms, or their own self imposed boundaries. guilt obviously caused by ones own feeling of not living or sticking to those peoples  confines.   Regardless of religon, most people have a natural sense of values, that won't permit them to hurt others, you don't have to be god fearing to know that it is wrong to rape another person, hurt them maliciously, steal, whatever, by the same token some of us are born differently, I have found that it helps to not make excuses for what we do, are, but to find out why we are what we are, why we have different desires from so called preconceived social norms.   I believe that some people are evil, some are deluded, finding excuses for what they do that would be against a 'normal' persons inborn moral code.    Live the life you need to be contented and happy.

    • March 16, 2016 6:10 PM GMT
    • I can't really relate to this Jacqui as I am not religious, but you should realise that your feelings are nothing to feel guilty about. Sex is normal and without it none of us would be here! Who you have sex with is up to you and is based on who you are attracted to, not because of a social construction that decrees sex must only be heterosexual. How boring would that be? Whether you are attracted to males or females is irrelevant, it is the desire to be with that person that counts so you should listen to those feelings. Would you rather have sex with someone you didn't find attractive in any way? I doubt it!!


      Sadly, there are many in the religious world who refuse to understand anything LGBT and no amount of education will change their views so it's better to distance yourself if you want to find happiness. 


      Act on your desires and your needs, not someone elses. 

    • March 16, 2016 8:34 AM GMT
    • Take a look at this Jacqui and you can see who the guilty ones are.


      Sorry broken link. I will find a new one later.

      And here it is.


      Take care , Julia xx

    • March 16, 2016 6:42 AM GMT
    • Hi Jacqui.

      It is your life and if your mother and father had not had sex you would not be here. Take no notice of religeous figures telling you how to live your life even if is only ingrained in your mind by the past.


      Hypocrites is all they are , they tell you one thing saying it is wrong then they do it. How could the human race even be here without people having sex?. And they bang on about same sex or sex with a trans person being wrong and do it themselves. No one on this earth are more hypocritical than those that preach that bullsh*t , just google how much has the catholic church paid out in child sex abuse cases settled out of court , it is billions.


      Be you and live your live the way you want to and get that guilt out of your head. They are the guilty ones not you. My guess is you get one life and when it is over it is over so live it just how you want to "It is your life". When you are in a wooden box at the end of it you don't get a chance to go back and start again.


      Nice to see you back. Take care , Julia xx

    • March 16, 2016 4:48 AM GMT
    • Overcome what, your healthy sex life or your guilt for feeling that way?


    • March 16, 2016 3:18 AM GMT
    • I'm not religious anymore. I am actually what most people would call an atheist or agnostic. I don't really believe there is a god, but if there is then he or she has no rational reason to have an interest in our personal lives. But that subconscious programming is the problem. And it's not just in my sex life. It affects other aspects, but I want to focus on sex right now. I know being with men is right for me because of how I feel when I look at or touch a guys penis. I am also becoming less and less attracted to women sexually as I get older.

    • March 16, 2016 2:45 AM GMT
    • miss Jacqui. i do relate to this conditoning.For i was brought up the same way.

      For i have "servants of the lorrd " (preachers ) in the males of Both  parts of my family.

      Yes i grew up where sex was a sin and dirty and gayness will send you straight to hell.

      These teaching have made my male side asexual and to the female sex as to have apearances to apear to be gay

      to them.

      yes i feel guilt every day when my females desires kick in.

      For the Damnation speaches of my life played in my head

      When i act ed on myfwomenish feeling anfd act out  and or  want the attention of the male gender.

      To TRY to over come this  i had to move away from family and be basicly on my own.

      Be cause my therapist said by my responses to some of her questions, that i was being eaten alive from inside.

      And that Michelle is more powerful than Mitchell. One would basicly take control.

      Being that said .that i have either to relase the beast (the female desire and feelings)or have more pyscholical problems than when i started to her for therapy.

      Basicly this is to,let you know that you are not alone on fighting this battle of religion and the inner soul.

      There are many here that are next to you with the sword in hand..


    • March 16, 2016 1:09 AM GMT
    • I am a young trans woman in Mississippi. I grew up in a "Christian" environment. I was taught sex was dirty and something you should be ashamed of. Being gay and everything remotely close to it was also shameful. I've come to realize my love life has been difficult because I still feel guilt about my desire for not just sex, but my increasing desire for have sex with men. I have a more than healthy sexual appetite, but struggle to act on my desires because of my irrational guilt.

      Does anyone else deal with this or know someone who does? If so what do you think is the best way to overcome this?

    • April 27, 2016 7:00 PM BST
    • I love your passion, Briana! I agree with you!!! And thank you for posting Mary Grace. Great topic!

      Great documentary to check out, I think it's called The Corporation...I saw it a long time ago, but it relates to what you're saying.

      Also, you must must must check out Where to Invade Next, Michael Moore's latest documentary (should be coming to iTunes, Amazon, etc soon). There is nothing wrong with criticizing the country you live in, especially if you love it and want to improve it for all lives. Basically he goes around to many countries and showcases the great thing about that country, in the hopes that the US will take note and do something about it!

    • April 21, 2016 9:05 PM BST
    • Thanks for your  help 
      Now to get the American members to read.

    • April 21, 2016 8:21 PM BST
    • It is beyond insane where these things are going in the US - a corp is an entity with actually more rights than the individual - not pay taxes, control people's pay and level of benefits, take their land and strip mine it, have limited to no liability, and not see you as a customer if they choose - very sad indeed.  
      In the tax category - what is sickening is the fact that many of these corporations receive tax breaks from the US laws as it is with their lobbyists constantly leaning on the system. Worse, they can legally offshore their money and hence not pay tax on it. Further, they have no obligation to build their products here. I'll use Apple ( no offense to those who like and use their products ) as an example. As an American citizen on average the most you can do is be a salesperson in one of their stores or a customer service rep - yet they build their items in China and claim they know how to do it there and we don't. Their money is transferred from one place to another and is based in Ireland, hence they pay very low tax rates. Imagine if you or I coud do that with our money?
      How many times do we as citizens hear of one company after another causing air, water, and land pollution, not to mentions dangers even death to people yet few if any of the corp leaders are taken to jail and merely pay small inconsequential fines at best.
      There is a concerted effort on the part of the Republican party to side with these corporations even more so - selling and even giving them federal lands, allowing strip mining, in the case of fracking to allow toxic materials to be pumped in to get at the natural gas and oil. Notice the campaign where many of them want lower taxes on the wealthy so as to help us all they claim. Hate to tell people that in the 1950s and 60s the tax rate on the wealthy was nearly 90% yet America was an excessively prosperous place with the greatest amount of building, production, and creation of livable-wage jobs in our history. 
      Now there is the push to have 'religious freedom, liberty, et al' laws where the owner of the business can decide T people can't use the bathroom and can also decide not to sell products or provide services to anyone the owner deems violating his/her religious disposition - mainly all members of the LGBT community. It's one thing, which is still wrong, to not sell someone a cake for their wedding as was the case for a gay couple - what if, the business made or sold medicine - can a person tell an LGBT member - 'too bad'? Why does not one news commentator ask such a common sense question but then says they have to present 'both sides' - as if there are two sides to this argument - a person not willing to sell or provide service for a person due to their opinion - we need to realize this - religion is just that - one's opinion and nothing more. Also another critical question - why does no one state to the business owner - 'sure you have your call for religious rights - though you are misusing the 1st ammendment -but do you realize that all rights, including the ones you invoke must be balanced against public cause and public good? There are no rights that are absolute and infinite. 
      Back to the corporate person point - People are the center of the issues, the laws, and the matters that matter - corporations, like money, and the rest are simply imaginary concepts we invent to create means to do business, communicate, and and the like. People are real and people matter. 
      Sorry for so much ranting, but thank you for bringing this to the forum for discussion.
      Bill Moyers site has a lot of great news and people there who express these points of view. He used to be on TV, then no longer could be. 
      Thanks, hugs, Briana : )

    • April 21, 2016 7:30 PM BST
    •  I looked up the meaning of "oligarchy" and I can see why the term is being used lately.
      The claims that 1 percent of the citizenry is controlling 99 percent of the wealth seems to fit but it doesn't sound right to me. For some strange reason corporations are considered individuals - why? They're businesses so the should be treated as such (IMHO). They should be taxed fairly.   Any opinions?
      It appears that if you want to run for any office, you have to have the money to have your name in front of the people. You have to make promises, it seems.  Any opinions?
      There used to be an anerchist here - I wonder what happened?

    • December 8, 2015 11:11 AM GMT
    • Hello from northern Oregon! I'm new to this site. I'm definitely willing to connect with anyone online.

    • October 19, 2015 5:15 AM BST
    •  Hello!

      So, we all know how hard it can be to navigate through health insurance let alone doing it when you are transgender. I am trying to change that, at least within my company. Name changes, gender markers, routine health care and surgery are all things that are extremely necessary, yet they are often overlooked in our community. I am in the process of putting together a proposal for a Trans Care Advocate position within my company and need some input from the trans community. I am asking to see if you would be willing tofill out this short, 5 question survey about health insurance and the trans individual. It is completely anonymous and will only take a minute, but with this data perhaps I can convey the large need for health insurance to be more inclusive, understood and supported. Thank you for your time!



      Thank you again!

    • October 6, 2015 8:31 PM BST
    • Well the jama party was great - I arrived "fashonably" late. Picked up that habit somewhere. Had to twist my own arm because I couldn't shut up. I was in a "me,me, me" mode. Sorry ladies. I hope I'm forgiven.
      Let me know when we will do it again - please?
      xxxooo Gracie

    • September 26, 2015 10:02 PM BST
    • I do hope you'll make the PJ party next Saturday. I'm all set - look at my new picture. Well, what would expect from an 83 year old CD?  I looked through the Victoria's Secret selection and decided "oh well."
      As the old saying goes "Be there or be square"
      Remember I live in the Central Standard Time Zone and London, England is 6 hours ahear. Check your smart phone.

    • September 12, 2015 4:50 PM BST
    • Thank you Briana Q. I'm happy to see someone else is reading my babble.

    • September 11, 2015 10:16 PM BST
    • There needs to be more postings on the forums - that's the message I got when signing in. If I'm correct then here goes... What's going on in my life? I'm getting older (note: not old but older) and I'm treated with some respect which is a new experience for me. Doors get held open - wow! Do I appear "needy"...  I guess and I definately say "thank you" to the nice people.  What else... I'm avoiding all the campaign nonsense. I wish we had a specified time for election campaigning and anyone avoiding that restriction should be fined. Wishful thinking.   I have been avoiding by using my computer to watch old movies and tv shows. I have to say it wasn't planned. My own tv died; it had served me well. So I started to watch programs on Youtube and I get to see all I missed. Even way back. I even watched some "Silent" movies - I wasn't born at that time - I swear.  Life can be fun xxxooo to all

    • September 6, 2015 11:42 AM BST
    • Let's hope this pans out nationwide. If it's anything like Obama Care and the way states can bypass and obstruct the federal laws we may see a very uneven coverage for people. Still it is big news and a definite step in the right direction. I'm struggling to get hormones these days consistantly due to cost factors which is not good and could really use this as protection. Thanks for sharing this Emma. It is encouraging to see. 

    • September 4, 2015 1:52 PM BST
    • Dear Friend,

      Amazing news! We are now one huge step closer on the path toward nationwide coverage of transition-related care.

      Today, the Obama Administration announced proposed rules implementing the Affordable Care Act ("Obamacare"). This provision bars discrimination in health facilities and most insurance plans. These new proposed rules would make it illegal to categorically deny health care coverage related to gender transition in most private insurance plans, as well by state Medicaid programs, Medicare, Children’s Health Insurance Programs, and in the Indian Health Service.

      Though it may be months before the rule is finalized, when it is, it will be one of the biggest victories for transgender people ever.

      Learn more details about the proposed federal rule here.

      In the coming days, we will put out more information about what the rule would mean and let you know what you can do to ensure the proposed rule becomes a final rule.

      This amazing news is the culmination of years of advocacy by the National Center for Transgender Equality. Since the law’s passage in 2010, we have pressed the federal government to use its authority to make clear that all types of discrimination against transgender people by health care providers and insurance companies should be deemed illegal.

      We all know how life-saving this care is. Everyone in our community deserves full access to health care to lead happy, healthy, and productive lives. This proposed rule is a huge step towards that goal, and NCTE will continue to fight until ALL of us have the health care we deserve.

      Mara Keisling
      Executive Director 
      National Center for Transgender Equality

    • August 27, 2015 10:19 PM BST
    • Hotlines:


      Trevor Society Lifeline - 1866-488-7386

      Trans Line (I personally had a really great experience with this one): 1877-565-8860