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    • May 2, 2014 7:06 PM BST
    • Rosie, thank you for the warm welcome.

    • April 27, 2014 1:45 PM BST
    • Dont worry Amethyst ,  We all had to start somewhere and I guess we were all nervious the first time either comming on line or especially going out for the first time --- the first step is the most difficult -- then it just gets better and easier  -- thats how it was for me, and will i hope be the same for you.

      Rosie

    • April 27, 2014 12:18 PM BST
    • Heya Everyone, Thanks for the welcome.

       

      I cant help but think how much this feels like going to a new school... But this time learning to be myself!

      This really is the first time I have ever joined a site like this and is really quite a big step forward for me

      and like most schools, I still feel like running to the safest most empty place possible :)

    • April 24, 2014 11:56 AM BST
    • Thank you Rosie for the welcome.

       

      Amanda

    • April 14, 2014 9:51 PM BST
    • Thank you very much for the warm welcome.

      I appreciate it a lot.

       

      Kayla

    • April 5, 2014 6:20 PM BST
    • Hello Jennifer welcome hope you enjoy.xxxx

      Blessed be.xxxx

    • April 5, 2014 5:43 PM BST
    • Thank you Rosie for the welcoming!!

    • April 4, 2014 4:54 AM BST
    • hey everyone!

    • April 2, 2014 3:28 PM BST
    • Thank you to all who made me feel so welcome here. I am looking forward to getting to know you better and learn a LOT. We have to first of all come up with a new name, but I am sure that I am getting ahead of myself. I have that tendancy many times. So much to do. LOL. Thank you for the welcome.

    • April 1, 2014 10:23 AM BST
    • Thank you for such a nice welcome to the site!

    • March 15, 2014 11:23 PM GMT
    • Thanks for the welcome Smile

    • March 12, 2014 9:43 PM GMT
    • Hi Penny, I think you are indeed the Penny I think you are----- giggle

    • March 12, 2014 7:08 PM GMT
    • Thanks for the welcome Rosie, it is nice to be back x

    • March 11, 2014 2:42 AM GMT
    • Thank you for welcome .. Lady :) 

    • March 9, 2014 8:34 PM GMT
    • Hi Rosie I would like to say thank you my love for your welcome it is really sweet of you and I can't wait to get started on this lovely forum with all you lovely darling people.xxxx

      Love and Hugs Marcie.XxxxX

    • March 4, 2014 8:38 PM GMT
    • Thank you for the welcome :) So far, so good.  I came across your forum by chance and I must say I love how active everyone is :)

      I look forward to making some meaningful connections with you all xo

    • April 27, 2014 7:31 AM BST
    • No need to be shy girl. We're pretty friendly here. This is the internet though, so don't be throwing out personal stuff you aren't or shouldn't be comfortable putting out there and be careful, but don't be shy. We don't bite : )

    • April 27, 2014 5:45 AM BST
    • I am not new here! This was a joke thread. I was just attempting to cheer myself up . I needed a break from the serious stuff going on at the time. I will say welcome to you though.

       

      Take care , Julia .

    • April 27, 2014 1:00 AM BST
    • Hi Julia,

      I'm new here too, welcome :)

      still getting used to this website myself.

      However i do have a bad habbit of going shy :/

    • April 24, 2014 1:09 AM BST
    • Hello all, I'm also new here. I found this site whilst browsing FB, I'm 57, 5ft 5inches tall, a little tubby(I love food, cooking and eating), I live in Tasmania , Australia and live with my partner of 20 yrs , Phil. I transitioned in 93 and had surgery in 95. I was a nurse for 28 yrs, but retired from nursing when it became apparent that a lot of my colleagues were slightly distressed about my lifestyle change. I hope to meet some new friends here as I live in a rural isolated area and getting to chat to likeminded people is almost impossible. Sory if my intro is a bit long winded.

       

      Amanda xoxox

    • April 23, 2014 4:50 PM BST
    • I'm not 39, I'm 21 with 18 years experience : )

    • April 23, 2014 4:09 PM BST
    • Well try to think what its like to be almost 70 julia --- id love to be 60 again lol

    • April 23, 2014 3:51 PM BST
    • Thank you Madeleine nice to meet you too , you will have to show me around the site. I think I am working it outSmile.

      It is nice to be here Rosie and find your welcome forumWink I am not a figbox of your imagination but I am old! 57 This year! Do you realise that is just 3 years off 60 ? I just cannot imagine me being 60. Its going to take a lot of botox to sort me out.

       

      Take care , Julia xx

    • April 23, 2014 9:01 AM BST
    • Hi Julia, PMSL  -- how good of you to join us  -- It just goes to show you are not just a figment of our imagination -- lol xx (and you are not that old -- just wait till you are my age HE He)

    • April 23, 2014 8:56 AM BST
    • Hi Julia,

      Nice to "meet" you  ; )

      Maybe I'll introduce myself here too some day : )

      Madeleine

    • April 23, 2014 8:44 AM BST
    • Hello everyone I am new here! WHAT?????????? I am , its true I have never ever introduced myself in this thread in the hundreds of years I have been here on and off.

      So my name is Julia just in case you missed it.

      I am a 56 year old Transexual woman. I am a bit like marmite! You either love me or hate me or sit in the middle.

      You cannot see my profile unless you are a friend so here is a bit about me.

      I have already mentioned I am really old , that stuff on my head is my own hair. I stand a tall proud 5ft 9 inches without my heels. I am to slim but working on it , I love music but do not watch TV because I do not want to pay the BBC money to watch other channels , I liken it to shopping at Tesco then paying Asda , a bit stupid if life was like that. I am very single and staying that way.


      Well I think that will do , I think I may like it here but as I am new be gentle with meSmile .


      Julia xx

    • April 1, 2014 2:36 PM BST
    • Hello Nicole,

       

      I have been dealing with my feelings for something like 3 years now.  If I can provide any insight it would be a) the feelings will NOT go away, no matter how many times your purge, and b) you really should get counseling, as well as building a support network - you can and will get through this, but you cannot do this alone.  You reached out to this group which is a great first step.  As hard as it is, don't stop reaching out for help.  You are a beautiful person - don't ever forget that.

       

      Hugs,

       

      Elizabeth

    • March 30, 2014 5:33 PM BST
    • Hi Nicole-

       

      You are going through a situation that most of us here have experienced.  Just carefully think about things and resolve how to peacefully get through your situation  Just let nature dictate what you do, and let reason help solve the proper course. I did the same over the years, and have now resolved things so that I regard my life as incredibly fulfilling.  My wife does not participate in my female activities, but we greatly care for one another and have worked out our differences.

       

      You will get through things eventually and life will be good.  Just relax a bit.

       

      Jacqueline

    • March 28, 2014 7:19 AM GMT
    • Dear Nicole, you should not worry about your perceived lack of writing skills. There is much information available here, and elsewhere so nobody should feel that they are Ill-informed. You do need to seek treatment for your depression though. I realise that the system is somewhat different in the US, but the overriding issue are the same everywhere. The true you will be discovered. The only advice I will offer is to be completely honest with yourself and those around you. You will find many online who fail in that simple principle.
      Good luck with everything as your journey continues.

    • March 28, 2014 3:01 AM GMT
    • Looking at the blank page is scary.  I never know where to start writing.  I am not a formally schooled writer so bear with me.  I am a 40+, I don't know.  I don't know if I am just a crossdresser, transgender, transsexual, or what.  I am starting to actually think it through.  Marriage has been rough and I know I am the cause of most of it. I am partially in the closet.  My wife knows but does not approve, normal, and my two sisters and brother know I am transgender.  Was sort of forced out during a fight but that is a whole different story.  I have been through the purge cycle and know it happens all too often.  I have not been dressed in years but hope to some day.  Don't know how since I don't own anything anymore.  I know I miss it as if there is something missing in me.  I am also suffering from depression but have not delved into therapy.  Started looking in to some but in the rural area I live, but is difficult to find a therapist who is familiar with gender issues without driving 40+ minutes.

    • March 25, 2014 6:54 PM GMT
    • Every profile photo you upload is saved to an album on your profile location, the last one you upload will appear on all public pages as your profile picture. only full paying members can accesss their own or other peoples albums.

    • March 25, 2014 6:40 PM GMT
    • Click "Membership", then scroll down to "Upload Profile Photo". Then the next dialog will ask where the photo is located on your computer, most likley "My Photos" folder or a file location where the photo is located and then when photo is selected, click "Upload".

       

      Phoebe


    • March 25, 2014 5:19 PM GMT
    • Hello!  I know this forum is for welcomes, but I couldn't find this topic covered anywhere else. 

      Am I able to add a photo album as a basic member?  Or is that strictly for upgraded members? 

      If I can, how do I do it?!  Please any help is appreciated. 


      All my love <3 Maxxine

    • March 23, 2014 5:16 PM GMT
    • I used to be interested in gender reassignment. After I first expressed interest in gender reassignment treatmnent options - I started getting the abominable advertisements from my profile picture and the attachments to this post on every website I visit. I bet that when anyone of you visits the Harper's Bazaar website you do not get to look at the same garbage. My mailbox got overcrowded with advertisements like "I want to be recycled", "Fight cancer", at some point these advertisements used to switch more than once per minute (I keep the screenshots with the computer time stamp). The intention was of course "therapeutic" (or should I say commerciial?!) - I was expected to "start hating my own body" and "apply for gender reassignment". As a result of this ugliness campaign I now like only my own, intact, unmutilated body. I only need help stopping the ugliness attacks on me and my friend.

    • March 20, 2014 2:22 AM GMT
    • Thanks again for all the kindness

    • March 19, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    • How sad, but lovely story at the same time, no resentment, just love.   its things like this that realy touch me.

       

      loadsa love Cristine, xxXxx

    • March 19, 2014 5:21 PM GMT
    • Marissa. I guess she still loves you too, and perhaps, who knows, can help you on your way.  Youe WERE brave enough, but better, Marissa, you were brave enough and strong enough to put her first.  I admire you!

       

      Hugs,

      Amanda

    • March 18, 2014 4:28 AM GMT
    • You are most welcome.xxxx

      Blessed be.xxxx

      Love and Hugs Marcie.XxxxX

    • March 18, 2014 2:32 AM GMT
    • Thank you for your kindness

    • March 17, 2014 8:15 PM GMT
    • Thank you for sharing your story it is so touching and you are so loving towards your wife as your wife was to you.On this forum you are amongst friends.xxxx

      Blessed be.xxxx

      Love and Hugs Marcie.XxxxX

    • March 15, 2014 10:10 PM GMT
    • I've strug­gled with ­who I was ­supposed t­o be and w­ho I am my­ entire li­fe. I trie­d over and­ over to d­o the "man"­ thing wi­thout any ­lasting su­ccess. I k­new at age­ 4 that th­ere was so­mething di­fferent ab­out me. I ­was the tr­ue bane of­ my mother­'s existen­ce. I met ­my true so­ul mate at­ age 25. S­he has bee­n and alwa­ys will be­ the one t­rue love o­f my life.­ I grew up­ in a time­ when the ­word trans­gendered h­adn't be t­hought of ­yet. My wi­fe tolerat­ed my fora­ys into fe­mininity a­nd occasio­nally join­ed me. I t­old her of­ my desire­ to transi­tion and s­he gave me­ her appro­val. Yet, I cou­ldn't do i­t because ­I felt it ­was not wh­at she had­ signed on­ for. Or m­aybe I was­n't brave ­enough. I ­knew I did­n't care w­hat people­ thought o­f me but I­ cared dee­ply about ­what peopl­e would sa­y about he­r because ­of what I ­considered­ to be a s­elfish req­uest on my­ part. I h­ave no ide­a why she ­chose me o­r why she ­put up wit­h my sh*t ­for so lon­g.
      But I'm ra­mbling...
      ­
      She died l­ast August­ after a  long struggle with a t­errible il­lness that stol­e her brea­th away. I­ never kne­w the mean­ing of the­ words alon­e or lonelyh until th­en. I know­ in my hea­rt of hear­ts that sh­e loved me­ every day­ of the 40­ years we ­had togeth­er.
      So now wha­t?
      I have no ­one left i­n my life ­that I can­ offend or­ drive awa­y because ­of the gen­der I feel­ I HAVE to­ be.
      And so I h­ave begun.­ And I wil­l continue­ to work o­n my trans­ition in a­ny way pos­sible for ­however mu­ch time I ­have left.­.
      This I hav­e to do fo­r me....

    • March 16, 2014 10:25 PM GMT
    • Hi Maxine,

       

      Thank you so much for the kind words.

       

      You ask some difficult questions - but there is no need to apologize for asking them!

       

      How do I feel about being married?  My wife is my best friend, and sometimes it feels like my only friend.  I do love her, but she does not know about any of my gender dysphoria issues.  I decided years ago when a therapist first diagnosed me with gender dysphoria that I would simply deny it all, accept my male body, and just live as a male.  Sounds like an easy enough plan - right?

       

      Well, I have finally learned, this is not something I can repress.  In fact, the more I repress it - the more self-destructive, high-risk behavior comes out.  

       

      I have an appointment to see therapist to talk about these issues.  Hopefully, I will learn more about what my options are and how to deal with all this. But I do have mixed feelings about being married.  In spite of the positive aspects of it, I feel locked in a male role.  My wife enjoys my male body.  If I were transition, it would be very hard on her and most likely end our marriage.  I don't know if I could subject her to that.  On the other hand, I wonder how long I can keep up the act.  It was my 42nd birthday today.  I woke up thinking: I have statistically 35 years left to live.  I don't know if I can continue being a chameleon for that long.  On the other hand - will I feel any different if I transition?

       

      You asked do I like being with a woman.  I assume you are getting into the issue of orientation.  First off - I envy her body - :)

       

      It is weird, it never has felt natural for me to penetrate a woman during intercourse.  I have to imagine myself as female in order to really enjoy it.  I have always been attracted to women.  Though as I get in touch with my "female" side I do think about being intimate with men.  I have actually had a few experiences with men.  Even though I don't dress as female, being sexual with a man makes me feel very feminine.  It is a much different type of energy - but I do like it.

       

      Thanks for your note, Maxxine!  I look forward to corresponding with you more in the future!

       

      -Morinth

    • March 13, 2014 4:11 PM GMT
    • Wow Morinth,

       

      First of all, thank you for sharing. 

      I am a fellow nerd and Mass Effect was one of my favorite games.  This is a beautiful metaphor to describe your feelings. 

      How do you feel to be married?  Do you like being with a woman?  She seems very nice does she know how you feel? 

      Sorry if I am crossing the line and asking too many personal questions. 

       

      Your hair sounds nice!  :D 

    • March 13, 2014 8:36 PM GMT
    • Hi Maxxine my love,I have known for a while I have not been Christian it's not that I hate Christianity it's that I have fallen out of love with it.For instance in my opinion I do not feel balanced because you have a religion that is dominated by one sex that being male (the father,son etc)and to me there is no female presence except that of Mary and she is just childbearer and that is very sexist in my opinion,in paganism and Wicca if you have God then you have Goddess it's a balance.Also when I was a child some could say it was a vision or a dream,I dreamed that I was a princess being took to a castle and I spied a beautiful witch at the entrance to an enchanted forest,in the end of the dream I am with the witch in all her glory plus I have had other signs and magic happening and I self dedicated myself to paganism at the last full moon.The princess and the witch dream I had a second time the same dream only in January this year so that was when I decided to change my beliefs officially,it was in my opinion a sign to change.Going back to when I first had the dream as a small boy to dream of being a beautiful princess was an unbelievable thing to happen and that's what got me wearing women's clothes whenever I could.I love my music and I love reading,I used to read horror and thrillers but I found them tedious,there is so much badness in our beautiful world why read about it so I love feminine books like romantic novels and I also read female magazines.I still love my sport though like football and the two rugby codes so I haven't abandoned everything of my male side.The only person who knows that I have worn female clothing is my wife but we don't talk about it really as she doesn't like the whole thing as you can imagine.Well Maxxine love I must go to bed now as I need my beauty sleep but I would love the chance to speak more to you and thank you for your reply to the original post.xxxx

      Blessed be and may the Goddess protect you through the dark hours.xxxx

      Love and Hugs Marcie XxxxX

    • March 13, 2014 4:21 PM GMT
    • Hi Marcie,

       

      Welcome!  May I ask what is drawing you to the wiccan culture?  Were you religious before?

       

      I am here to be friends and I am very curious to get to know you!  My apologies if I ask too many personal questions :P

       

      I am very open minded and my most recent transformation came when I was visiting Thailand.  There I became very interested in the Buddhist lifestyle since there is a massive gay, lesbian, TG and crossdressing community.  The thing that struck me about this place is not that this community existed but rather that they were so openly accepted by society. 

       

      I stayed for 8 months during which time I learned the Thai ladyboy secret of having natural breasts.  This changed my life I must say. 

       

      My journey has taken me here but I still have my male parts, otherwise, you cannot tell that I am not a woman.  I was lucky and have very petite genes being Portuguese and I am also very short. 

      Feel free to chat anytime.  What sort of other things are you into? Do you have friends that know?

    • March 9, 2014 6:39 PM GMT
    • Well hi,I am new to this forum and to be honest a touch nervy,I have always loved wearing girlie things especially short dresses and nighties,but always in private for my own pleasure if you know what I mean.I have always shaved all body hair so I am smooth all over.Up until this year I would have said I am straight as a pole but now I would say gay curious or bi curious or just curious.last month I self dedicated myself and now I am pagan/wiccan and I am more not so much tolerant but more open minded to all life,I would love to be friends or buddies with people on line and I am so glad to be here so thank you.xxxx

      Blessed be.xxxx

      Love always Marcie.xxxx

    • March 13, 2014 4:32 PM GMT
    • Hi Dan - or should I say Heather?

       

      Thank you for bearing your soul to us. 

      I am happy to hear that you met someone as well!  Good for you both :D

       

      Do you have major facial hair?  If so and you are interested in having none, then yes, laser hair removal is your best option.  Until then though, one thing you can try that I know will be painful but also less expensive and less invasive is facial waxing.  What part of the country do you live in? 

      Laser treatments can be expensive and you have to keep your hair a certain length and do many treatments. 

       

      If you went and had your grown in beard waxed off by a professional aesthetician, not only would your hair come back softer next time, but you can experience a week or so of a clean face.  The good thing about this is you can see if you really love it and if so, you can make plans to have it permanently removed.  That is what I did.  I didn't have a full thick beard thought, but still I have dark brown hair.  This is still the method I use for my body hair - wax wax wax.  I can't afford the overall body laser hair removal - yet.  But that is okay since ladies have body hair too.  

      Other than that, my biggest confidence builder was my breasts.

       

      Best of luck to you and keep in touch!

       

      <3 Maxxine

    • March 13, 2014 4:15 PM GMT
    • Hi Luna :)

    • March 11, 2014 7:19 AM GMT
    • Hello!

       

      My name is Lunari Natsume, you can call me 'Luna'

      I am 36 years old (3/3/78, yep just had a BDAY!)

      I have 4 great kids, all boys, ranging from ages 5-19

      I am a meatcutter at a grocery store

      I have a youtube channel where I talk about being TG http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeByDSOua9NkNL_X-fCQEpA

      I have a facebook you can see all my latest news/pics at https://www.facebook.com/lunari.natsume.1

      I was born a male, but less than a year ago I learned that wasn't true.

       

      I am happy to be here and to meet as many folks in the trans community as I can, to share stories, experiences, tips, tricks, and just enjoy the company of some new people! Hi all!

    • March 13, 2014 4:07 PM GMT
    • Hello Gerard,

      I like what Chirssy said :D

      I am lucky because I am petite.  My whole game changed when I grew my breasts though!  I am interested to hear some of your dark humor :P I personally tend to be very dry myself :)

      <3 Maxxine