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    • January 12, 2004 3:42 AM GMT
    • Regarding the website's content, it could be a little friendlier, or at least less confrontational (you might not want to say "f*** off" on your home page, for example LOL). Chances are, you won't have to worry about would-be trouble-makers who visit your site actually being able to bother you, so there's no need to try to run them off like that. They won't care what you say, anyway, but legitimate visitors who might actually care about what you have to say about yourself will probably be turned off by that type of statement. However, you might achieve your intended goal by politely stating that there is no adult content (or at least no adult images) on you website, and/or that it's safe for visitors of all ages (assuming you decide to clean up the language a bit).

      Also, the text could have more of a flow to it and not be quite as disjointed. Someone who knows you very well might get something out of reading your random thoughts, but strangers who visit your site might consider the text as a lot of rambling and leave your site. I think I see what your intention was with "Scattershot Thoughts," but while a random thought, stream of consciousness thing sounds artistic, it rarely translates well to the Internet. The fact that you set this up as a website rather than just keeping it on your computer implies that you do want others to be able to follow it, so you might want to make it easier to follow (for those people who don't happen to be you). I'm not saying it has to read like a boring documentary, but a little formality wouldn't hurt.

      You have a link called "Tranny Shop" that links to a retail site. It might be a good idea to state whether you are involved with that particular shop, or you just list it as a resource.

      I know you asked for comments on content rather than presentation/design, but this involves a bit of both. You might want to consider dropping the two-tone text and the neon text colors, as well as the random paragraph placements. To use your phrase, it's "too incongruous." I know that fits with your whole concept (assuming I get it), but it makes for a very tedious read, regardless of what you have to say. I think readers will be pushed away rather than pulled in by that format. Perhaps you could have one page set up that way, as an example of what goes on inside your head, illustrating the chaos and/or contradictions in your thoughts, feelings, and perceptions as a tranny. I just wouldn't do the whole website that way, assuming you want others to read it.

      Whether you keep the site as an "all about me" sort of thing (like a blog), or start to include a lot of general TG/TS/TV/CD issues and/or resources, just remember to keep the site functional. It can be fancy or simple, but it should always be easy to navigate, and visitors should have a good idea as to why you created the site and why you want them to care.

      With this website, you are introducing yourself to the world, so be clear about the way you present yourself to your intended audience. Do you want other trannies (strangers) who find this site to consider you a potential on-line friend? Do you want non-trannies to gain some understanding about trannies/you and what makes trannies/you tick? Do you want to have this website available as a possible resource for friends and/or family members to whom you reveal yourself ("I explain myself on my website, so feel free to go there and read...")?

      I think you've got some good material there to get things started, but it needs some organization if you want others to get the significance of the content. Don't stop the flow of imagination, just structure it enough so that it can be followed by someone who knows absolutely nothing about you (or trannies in general, depending on your intentions). If I've misunderstood your site and its purpose, I apologize.

      By the way, I love New Model Army. I remember when the "Thunder and Consolation" CD first came out (1989), and I was so glad it included "White Coats" (my favorite NMA song - which wasn't available on CD until then) as a bonus track. That whole CD is great, though. It's been a while, so I'll have to get it out and listen to it now.

    • January 12, 2004 2:43 AM GMT
    • Purple, I moved this topic from the "Tranny Psychology" forum to the "All About Us" forum.

    • January 12, 2004 12:18 AM GMT
    • Nice pix. Site comes across as psychedelic and intense. Do you like your visitors or not really?

      Being a tranny is a minority interest in a hostile world. You need all the friends you can get.

    • January 12, 2004 12:03 AM GMT
    • Hi

      I'm a bit nervous about posting this and I hope its the right place to do it but......seeing as you're reading stuff in this forum:

      I've just started my first site and I would really appreciate some feedback/constructive criticism. Not such much on presentation/design (its basic yahoo and is really a first draft)but on the content & writing - is it a good read or is it crap! I would stress that is only my own personal take on things not a manifesto or theory.

      So if you fancy a read please visit:

      follow the yellow links and p'raps let me have your thoughts: be kind tho' its the first time i ever put any of my writing out there. Thank you

      Take Care

    • January 9, 2004 1:49 AM GMT
    • Katie, based on the pictures of you that I've seen, I'm surprised that you can even pass as a man. You seem to have a naturally feminine look.

      Oh... I hope that's taken as a compliment, because that's what I intended. LOL

    • January 8, 2004 9:50 PM GMT
    • So Katie, to bring both topics together, how about a couple of new pics of yourself with your hair long?

    • January 8, 2004 11:03 AM GMT
    • Hi girls,

      Yes, my SO has known about my pink side right from the start. She does like my hair longer than most but now it's starting to get very long for a man.

      She just thinks it looks untidy but I dare not visit a barber because I really need every millimetre and simply can't afford to have an inch off all round to tidy it up this week.

      When I visit a ladies hairdresser next week, they can do all that and if society wants me to cut it all off the day after my big night out, well so be it.

      I did think about having my hair colored too and then dyed back to my original color the next day. Perhaps that's going too far though and it may all fall out!


      Katie {

    • January 8, 2004 2:00 AM GMT
    • Catherine - Katie's S.O. knows.

      However, I'm also interested in knowing what she has against Katie's long hair.

    • January 4, 2004 12:17 AM GMT
    • As someone who has posted pictures since the feature first started I agree it is nice to see how we look. I have just passed 5000 views of my pictures and am working on changing some and adding more. Just keep clicking

    • January 3, 2004 9:46 PM GMT
    • Does your SO know you're a tranny? Sounds not if he/she doesn't like your hair long. How did you manage to spend a whole day dressed and made up? I'm intrigued. And wistful. Enjoy your night out!

      Catherine xxx

    • January 3, 2004 8:47 PM GMT
    • The picture galleries are a great feature.

      Before we had them, I had dozens of requests to provide an area where the girls could put their pics. However, now that we have them, very little use is being made of them. Where are all the people who were asking for galleries? Come on girls, let's get our photos up there!

      As for hair - well my SO is already moaning about mine being too long. It's really not that long at all. Not even down to my chin yet.

      I need to keep growing it for just a short while now because Katie is going out on the town in a couple of weeks time and she does not want to wear a wig.

      I spent the whole day dressed and in full make-up yesterday and when I saw myself in the mirror, the hair really made a difference. Can't wait for Katie's night out.



    • January 3, 2004 8:25 PM GMT
    • I understand. Having long hair and working as a guy does limit my options. I have a good, steady job, but I don't make as much money as I could. It might even be easier to get a new job as a woman than a new job as a 37 year-old guy with long hair.

      Too bad about that missed opportunity. I took advantage of similar opportunities, but nothing ever came of them, so maybe you didn't miss anything.

    • January 1, 2004 11:32 PM GMT
    • Tranny pix are a great feature of the site and it's a shame that more us haven't provided them. I'll get my own up there soon as, but in the meantime here's a description in words.

      I'm 5'9", 160lbs, short dark brown hair and blue eyes. Nice legs (well I think so anyway). When I get the opportunity to dress, I like to wear black. My ideal outfit would be an LBD with stockings and (probably) 5-inch heels - anything higher would be impractical for going out.

      I prefer my hair long, but there are limits to what I can get away with in the male state. I agonised for some time over developing an androgynous hairstyle that I could use as both male and female, but decided the time wasn't right - though I see Katie has resolved to grow her hair long this year.

      Missed opportunity of my life: as a teenager when a (real) girl I knew quite well told me unexpectedly that I'd look good dressed as a woman. I stalled and the moment was gone. If only...

      Catherine xxx

    • December 28, 2003 7:51 PM GMT
    • The new stuff should work perfectly on Macs, PC's and with all browsers.


    • December 27, 2003 4:12 PM GMT
    • Can I share in the general angst about this. I'm an Apple user and my browser is Safari. I guess that's not supported either. If I find a PC with IE6 on it, I'll have another go. Meanwhile here's hoping the new chatroom software does the job.

      Catherine xxx

    • December 19, 2003 7:48 AM GMT
    • Hi,

      We're trying to save up the last few pennies we need to buy a new, tried and tested chatroom and I hope it will be installed and working sometime in the new year.

      Hope that helps.



    • November 14, 2003 8:15 PM GMT
    • There does seem to be a problem with the chatroms. Sometimes the screen goes blank and eventually refreshes. Are you running Internet Explorer 6 as earlier versions sometimes cause problems. Thee also seems to be a greater problem if you are in North America. Hope you can solve it and hope to chat to you soon.

    • November 14, 2003 5:59 PM GMT
    • Your message came throught ok so I guess your computer is working ok. I've encountered the same problem with the chat room. When you feel like talking with someone - no ones there. Oh well, it's tough talking to yourself. Here I sit, all gussied up and no one to hear me tell what a good job I did with the makeup. Keep trying love, we know someone is out there.

    • November 14, 2003 12:42 AM GMT

    • December 22, 2003 9:42 PM GMT
    • Hi there Catherine and welcome to our world. I had much the same problems as you until my wife found out and now I have a supporter. I no longer feel I have to hide - hence my presence here but I am still afraid to venture out too much.

      There is lots of help and advice on this site hon - please feel free to use as much as is necessary. You can see my site by clicking on the www button below.

    • December 22, 2003 4:23 PM GMT
    • Hi, my name's Catherine and I live in Surrey in south-east England. I can't remember when I first started to cross-dress, possibly early teens, always in secret and using whatever female clothing I could find. I had a hang-up about this for a long time as I always felt guilty afterwards - something to do with having an evangelical Christian background I think. I would go for long periods without dressing. Even now I haven't felt able to come out.

      Anyway I think I have now come to terms with the fact that I am a tranny by nature and I don't feel guilty any more. I take any opportunity to dress up - has to be when my wife's out as I'm not ready to tell her (not sure I will ever be). So I am sitting here in a black dress as I type this. I have been looking round the local second-hand shops for some suitable shoes and other dresses which I will need to store somewhere secret here.

      I think at some point I will visit one of the Transformation shops for a makeover and then post some tranny pix on the site.

      My dream would be to go out in public as a tranny and pass for a woman. I might manage it sometime when I'm away from home on business.

      Meanwhile, you girls out there are my only contact with the tranny world. If anyone wants to say hello, feel free to send me an email.

      Here's to a tranny present and future!


    • November 23, 2003 12:13 AM GMT
    • u passed lol

    • October 1, 2003 8:11 PM BST
    • Hooray! It works!



    • November 21, 2003 1:08 AM GMT
    • hi dette im also from the states and i also wear my female clothing under my male things love phylis anne

    • November 19, 2003 4:35 PM GMT
    • Welcome to the site hon. There are an awful lot of people in the same state as you are. This site helps to overcome the fears and help with any questions you want to ask. Just join in and you will find a lot of kindred souls.

    • November 19, 2003 6:14 AM GMT
    • I'm new to the site. I have been dressing for years and while I am and will remain a male there is somthing about womens clothes that I realy love. My wife used to help me with make and such but now she has gotten to a point that she is not very receptive to my thing. When she helped I could look good enough to go out with her at least at night. Now I am trying to teach myself some of these things. I have already picked up some tips here and soon I should be able to at least post a pic here. I also were female under clothes a lot under my regular stuff.

    • September 20, 2003 10:43 AM BST
    • We've all been there Paige. You are by no mean unique. As Stevie said, just take a look around these forums. You are but one of thousands.

      Hope that helps a bit.



    • September 20, 2003 9:37 AM BST
    • As you can tell by reading this message board, you're not alone.

    • September 19, 2003 7:31 PM BST
    • Hi ladies...ok so here it is...I am 25 yrs old and i have been crossdressing since i was 7. I am currently in a relationship with a guy that i love very much. He recently discovered my crossdressing (VERY uncomfortable scene). We talked about it and he told me "I don't want a female lover." I am just now coming to terms with me and i know that I am a woman inside. I don't even know if i'm attracted to men. I don't know what I am. (I have dated male AND female). I have been thinking about taking hormones but that would require coming out to EVERYONE (nobody but my S.O. knows and HE found out by chance). I need someone to talk to...for the love of god, would someone E-mail me ( and let me know that I'm not alone...I feel almost too unique. Thanx......-Paige-

    • September 15, 2003 6:38 PM BST
    • and so the show goes equipment and tools were retained by the window cleaner.and i cant get them back.he dismissed me after i fgained 200+ more customers for the round.
      I got mugged.
      Got busted ribs.
      But 15.9.03 started a job in directory publishing ad sales...boring to some.but relatively fun and east for me.....1st day made 4 sales........more to come no doubt.

      But still. theres this unsettled feeling, this otherness, this want and unfulfilled aspect.........and solving the issue seems currently out of reach.

      I still need that miracle.........

    • September 3, 2003 3:50 PM BST
    • there are many tribulations since that period of life ended. a continued dissatisfation with thwe man bit of me.........
      Got used as a young person as i am considered by others as attractive. The gay scene saw more of me than anyother part of life.

      Now the tempestuous and erratic party party party side has slowed to a virtual stop.
      And i find i am requestioning who the hell i am.

      I know theres more female in me than man, and yet there are no resources available on my part to sort any issues out.

      And frustration builds on frustration.

      The job side of life. since 1990 at least has been relatively consistent - a lot of hard work for no progress forward. My own business for a while. And I lost the lot in 2000.... that was to be my source of necessary funds, if you know what i mean.

      After 2000 i worked at a place, who secretely underpaid me. When the director concerned left, this was exposed that introduction fees, and commissions were vastly underpaid, and that he was drawing 4k a month over his agreed monies. and underpaid a few people within the company to finance this.

      A phoenix company was born from the ruins. Then a decision was made again to my detriment that although i'd stuck by the senior people at new formation time, that my "usefullness" was no longer cost effective. ( whatever that may mean)
      And so now i cleaning windows. not for myself, but working for someone. and the pay is barely survivable.
      I havent given up.
      Just growing increasingly distant from my male identity that it is or seems necessary to maintain for survival. I live as a male. but dont identify with it. its like watching a poorly written play being enacted infront of me.
      With a flat zero progress towards a brighter future.

      Kirk Douglas once said.... I am basically unhappy unless something happens to give me a happy moment...

      And so:
      I wish i was basically happy unless something occured to temporarily change that.
      I need a miracle i'm sure.

      I feel betrayed.
      I feel lost.

      I have shared this POTTED summary, as the crass details that exist, and the mistakes, and other's "abuse" of me, and the current levels of denegration others place upon me, are boring, irrelevant to others lives, but hey, you all know what its like in some shape or form.

      This post wasnt planned. It was written from the heart.
      So my apologies if it fails to entertain or inform.

      Just needed to write it.

      (as this is yet another day where i have not got any work on.)

      (i think i should be starting back at work on monday - but who knows)

      (hummin).........When i'm cleanin windows.


    • July 25, 2003 8:51 AM BST

    • Thanks Julie- what a nice easy narrative style you have.

      I for one would be very interested to know how Life is treating you at present and how you are coping.

      Welcome Home Hugs

    • July 25, 2003 5:27 AM BST
    • Thanks for giving us a peek.

    • September 8, 2003 10:08 AM BST
    • Hi Alex,

      As Tina says, you are a very lucky girlto have such an understanding partner. Have fun


    • September 5, 2003 5:17 PM BST
    • Welcome to our world Alexmarie. You should be glad your partner is so accomodating - many girls do not have that luxury - look forward to speaking to you in the chatroom

    • September 5, 2003 1:52 PM BST
    • As I've just joined I thought I should introduce myself and tell everone a little about my life.
      I'm 32 and have been dressing since my teens after a fancy dress girlfriend suggested we go as each other and she let me borrow her skirt, blouse, lingerie, stockings and heels for the night and spent the time to make me look fabulous. As you can imagine I found it very difficult to understand why I felt so good as a girl and spent many years wondering about my sexuality. About 4 years ago I realised I was a normal, straight guy who enjoys womenswear. Then I met my partner and I tried to subdue my feelings until about a year ago I had to tell her. Since then my life has been great. My girl loves me for who I am not what I am, she accepts my dressing and even thinks I look better in a skirt than she does. We are still taking things slowly and getting used to my dressing being out in the open.
      I live in SW France and would love to hear from anyone else in the area.

      love and hugs

    • August 22, 2003 9:03 AM BST
    • The sun was early on that balmy southern California morning. I woke to the quite stillness. The sheet barely covered me as I found myself on my stomach. I glided my hand across the sheet and noticed it's frailness. On my mind was a man I once knew. He would look at me all the time. I would be repulsed by his stare. I knew what he wanted. But this morning he was the first thing on my mind. I wanted him. I turned and saw my girlfriend as she laid next to me a beautiful lock of hair in the pillow far off in sleep.
      I slid off of the bed and gently walked to the bathroom. I felt so naked, like how he would make me feel with his stare. I could hear the seductive sound of my feet across the polished cement floor of the big open studio and made my way in. I looked into the mirror and saw my smoldering image in the cool dark room. That’s when I knew that she woke me.
      She woke me, and this time to leave she would refuse.

    • August 11, 2003 9:33 PM BST
    • As I said to Andrea - welcome to Trannyweb - join in and you will find that there are a number of people who talk a lot of sense and also a number who don't. I hope you continue to enjoy the site and see you in the chatroom.

    • August 11, 2003 8:04 PM BST
    • Like Andrea, this is my first messsage to the outside world. I found this site only 3 days ago, and am I ever glad that I did! I signed up immediately. Who ever started it a big thank you for the opportunity to meet and chat with so many other girls.

      I've been dressing since my teens, and am now 39, and I LOVE IT. It's the greatest feeling. I still dress in secret, I've never been out in public as Rachel, but maybe with all your support, I'll gather the courage.

      It really has been wonderful to read over the last couple of days about problems that we all have, and advice on how to deal with them, from others who have faced them. I know that I'm going to get a lot out of this site and hopefully from all my, dare I say it, new girl friends.

      Here's to a improved future for this particular TV.

      Lots of Love


    • August 2, 2003 10:29 PM BST
    • Size 6 dress??? You must be tiny. I have trouble getting into a 16!

      You're very welcome. I hope you find what you are looking for here. We're all very friendly.



    • August 2, 2003 9:08 PM BST
    • Hi everyone,
      I thought that I would say hi to every one. I am a 28 year old tg-girl from New Jersey. I have wavy brown Hair and wear a size 6 dress. I would Like to find some other girls to talk to and maybe meet up and go out for some fun . The only problem is that I am kind of shy and I am scared to leave my house sometimes. I may just need some support. Anyway I talk to much so I had better shut up.

      P.S great site
      hugs, amanda

    • August 1, 2003 3:17 PM BST
    • I don't deny my transvestism at all and I realize it's something that is with me for life. I love being and thinking feminine. It gives us all a very keen advantage over all the testosterone dripping, macho pigs out there that will never understand how to be a true human-being.
      The video/movie is a great idea. It would have to be a good one though, not something where the guy still looked like a guy per say. When I go for it, like I talked about earlier, it's intense. Very hot and very very sexy. If you're gonna do it, do it right.
      It's really nice to be able to talk about things and I appreciate any comments.

    • August 1, 2003 1:56 PM BST
    • Hi Stephanie,

      I think that you will find that there are many members like you on this site. Sharing our TG side with others is invariably difficult, especially if there are kids involved. I sometimes think that if it weren't for these restrictions, the world would be a very different place, with trannies out enjoying themselves everywhere.

      As for telling your partner, only you can have any idea how she may take the news. In moral terms, it's best not to have secrets in a relationship, but if you think that telling her may ruin your partnership, then it may be best to keep quiet.

      Have you ever thought of watching a video with a TV theme and trying to gauge her reaction to men dressing up. You could always say something like 'I wonder what sort of woman I would make?'- and watch her reaction!

      Hope everything works out well for you anyway.



    • July 31, 2003 10:56 PM BST
    • It's been almost two years now since I have done the full monty. It is truly exciting to remember back, but in reality how can something like that become a lifestyle for someone. I couldn't go to work with shaped eyebrows and no hair on my arms without someone noticing and then the kids would notice. They actually did ask questions some years back even when they were younger about why my arms didn't have hair.
      I came upon this site just days ago and have really enjoyed the reading. I know there are so many different levels out there. I am thankful that I have someone to talk with about this. At least chating about different things and maybe some of my techniques and experiances could be fun.


    • July 31, 2003 8:52 PM BST
    • I suppose I'm not really the best person to give advice having 'come out' to my wife about seven years ago - I too thought that it would be all over but then found what a truely wonderful person I married. Looking back I suppose if she had not found out and I had come out then I too would be still hiding in the closet. I would like to think that chatting to others in a similar situation would have made me open up to my wife if I had not already done so. As to the kids - not too sure still.

      All I can suggest is that you know your own situation the best - if the feelings are true - as in my case then hopefully the relationship can prosper. Unfortunately only you can know that.

      Good luck in whatever you choose - as it will be the right choice for your situation at the time and can change in the future.

    • July 31, 2003 8:30 PM BST
    • Kind of funny since I used Stephanie as my user name. Anyway, let's go down this windy trail as quickly as possible.
      I've been crossdressing in some sort since probably 8/9 years old. Three older sisters made is quite easy, to say the least. Got caught a couple times but managed to lie my way around it (thinking about this as a halloween costume, etc.) Being brought up with three girls probably gave me a lot of the womens intuition I posses also.
      My first connection with my SO was when married at 19 years old. Casual fun, sex play, brought it up to her and she had no problem with it. Actually bought me a few things and we had our fun times. I think that I got way too into it for her. We ended up divorced a short time after.
      Second time was with a girlfriend at about 23 years old and she too was supportive. I am very slender and quite the hottie all dressed up. Make-up and my already long hair with spiked heels, she and I had fun I never knew possible. Never went out though.
      Again I slipped away from her and for ten years was "Married With Children" in the closet totally. A bunch of close calls and years of hiding and sneaking around. My SO at the time found my hide-out and could not handle the discovery. Honesty at that time was only an admission of quilt in her eyes that I was a FREAK. We divorced soon after.
      I met a wonderful woman and approached her with (not the blatent "I'm a tranvestite") just having fun. She was receptive and again I found someone to play with. We actually even went out for rides in the car and it was the most exciting thing I had ever done. Since I'm tall and really only wish to dress knock-out gorgeous, it would be next to impossible to hit the public scene. I remember once we had to stop and get gas and the guy at the pump next to us spotted me in the car and as I glanced over you could tell he had no clue I was a man. He was checking me out big-time and my girl was dolled up too. He probably thought we were headed out to a club or something. So I guess you could say that's like passing in public. I was having so much fun. We only played a few times a year, when it was convienient for me to shave all over, usually winter. I lost her. I think she had fun, but my true feel is that she was jealous of Ginger and felt like it was a competition. I'm telling you. I'm no flabby drag-queen when I put it on -IT'S HOT.
      So now (45)I'm with a gorgeous magnificent lady, my new best friend. She's got kids, I've got kids. We have a great normal life (just what is normal?) and I haven't dressed for quite some time, but every once in a while I'll get the chance to have some time alone. I'm okay with not having that connection with her, but am starting to contemplate the possibilties.
      What do I do? My track record is not good and we have kids all over the house from 10 to 15 yrs right now.
      Any suggestions?

    • July 30, 2003 11:59 PM BST
    • I'm glad to hear that you have managed to find your true self laurantalia - at least the one you feel yourself to be. I only hope that you are able to continue with your self discovery and are able to be the person you want to be.

    • July 30, 2003 8:28 AM BST
    • Hi girls

      When I joined Trannyweb last August, nearly one year ago, I was at the beginning of my long journey. Had just admitted to myself that I am a transsexual woman, still looked totally as a man and surprised my close ones with my coming out. A year has passed and an incredibly quick change has taken place in my life. My marriage ended with my coming I live alone as a woman. I might be a bit over halfway in my hormonal transition, but already enough to be a passable woman to anyone. I still have a long way to go...I want to be a 100% woman one day. But I am happier than ever before. At last I can be myself, my dream has come true.

      hugs to all of you


    • July 29, 2003 3:55 PM BST
    • dear amy my name is phylis anne and my problem was how to explain to my wife that i was a crossdresser ,we had been married over thirty years and i finally said to myself its time to tell her,well two years later i am a member of the transgendered community and i am really enjoying myself love phylis anne and wellcome dear