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TG friendly shops/pubs/restaurants whatever they are ?

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  • I recently joined a local TG society and due to a resignation of a former member - I was appointed as events organiser. We were discussing various Pride events and they seemed no problem But then we started talking about a meal (should have been held nearer Christmas but postponed) and several members then started asking about whether certain estblishments were TG friendly or not. Now that is something I have never bothered about. If I am hungry I go into pubs, cafes, chipshops or restaurants and just order what I want. Sometimes I am with friends other times I am on my own. I think nothing of it. If I want to buy clothes - I go in and buy them - again sometimes on my own or sometimes with other ladies. My money is the same as anyone elses and to be honest everywhere is glad of the custom. If I had bad treatment from the establishment staff or other customers - I would do something about it (probably get what ever I wanted on the house). I even offered to meet those that were bothered about somewhere not being 'TG friendly' at their car or from the station and escort them in. But they said that would intimidate them even more. There was a copuple opf other clashes of personality as well and I left them to sort it out themselves.

    Now what do others think - should we set up these barriers? Should we have the right to just go whereever we want to - I do and have had no problems at all - in fact it is usually the opposite. I get on the train - people speak to me - they don't shun me. For the first time in my life I can walk into a certain poub in Londoidn and all the staff not only welcome me they know me by name. I go shopping with other girls - doing what they have been used to all thier life and the assistants treat me the same as them. They encourage me to try things on and some even ask to see me in them.

     

    Nichola

     

      March 30, 2016 3:29 PM BST
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  • How exactly would your group define TG friendly? If they will only go somewhere that has a sign on the door saying "TG friendly" then they will never go out, apart from perhaps The Village in Manchester or similar where one assumes staff are used to our sort of people.

    I've found ALL establishments who are taking my money to be TG friendly, and anyway it's basically against the law now to not be so.

    I think you should stick to your guns, as long as everyone behaves themselves appropriately to that establishment then you should go where you like. I don't feel any more welcome in a gay bar or trans club than I do in a Michelin star restaurant.

    You're not in North Carolina are you?!

    No, I'm guessing UK, can I ask whereabouts?

    xx

      March 30, 2016 5:36 PM BST
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  • I have left that group for the monent - I will leave them arguing over a non issue. I am In Swindon Wilts.

      March 30, 2016 6:01 PM BST
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  • Nichola, you are quite right to say you should go anywhere you want, times have changed and being TG is not the issue it once was. I am in agreement with Lucy in that if girls only visit TG friendly places, they will never go anywhere else, and that would be a shame. 

    Businesses want your money and are not likely to cause a fuss these days so you should just go to a suitable venue of your choice. There are always some pubs and bars you wouldn't want to go, TG or otherwise, but that is the same everywhere. 

    A restaurant receiving a group booking with a possibility of future bookings coming from it will not be lost of the managment. 

    For what it's worth, I have never been anywhere near a 'TG friendly' place and have never had any problems. I have been to Swindon lots of times over the years and I don't believe you would have any issues as long as you avoid the dodgier venues, as I said before. 

    Every woman is beautiful, some show it with their faces, others show it with their hearts.
      April 3, 2016 3:47 PM BST
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  • I am not sure if you grasped the reason for my post Nikki - I don't have a problem anywhere - I just go in - I don't stop or even hesitate. It was the local TG group that had a problem - so much so I left them to sort it out. I think these people like to set themselves apart from society rather than integrate. A sort of reverse discrimination. I agree with your points - I just would not go into those places anyway and never have - self preservation. I don't have issues - I was born in East London and I certainly don't have issues with any reatioler, pub, restaurant anyway and hopoefuly never will have. if I did I would sort it out and I think I would do alright out it.

     

     

    Nichola

      April 3, 2016 4:32 PM BST
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  • I did understand the reason Nichola, and I was referring to the TG group when I said 'go where you like'. Perhaps I should have said 'take them wherever you like'. 

    TG people need to go into the real world, the more of us out there, the more normal, and accepting, the rest of society will become.   

    Every woman is beautiful, some show it with their faces, others show it with their hearts.
      April 4, 2016 6:09 PM BST
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  • Yes with you now. I won't be taking them anywhere - I realised I was banging my head against a brick wall. I left them to sort it out themselves. I totally agree - TG people need to go into the real world, the more of us out there, the more normal, and accepting, the rest of society will become. Thats my philosophy totally. By them only going out as a group they won't do this and I hate to say it they will draw attntion to themselves by not integrating. I have appeared on daytime TV here many times and even spoke on topics - so people here see me on their TVs and have got used to me. I go into anywhere I chose and don't expect anything except total respect from the shop staff. I was hoping I would be tolerated, expected to be accepted but in most shops, pubs and restaurants I am positively welcomed.

     

    Nichola

      April 4, 2016 6:19 PM BST
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  • That has been my experience also Nichola. We are just another paying customer at the end of the day. Which is as it should be.

     

    It's a pity about the group but it's a familiar story. I underastand that not everyone wants to or is able to go out in public, but many do want to and just need to pluck up the courage. We've all been there and the first time out is not as scary as you imagined it to be. It does sound as if you will get nowhere here though. What a shame for them. 

     

    Every woman is beautiful, some show it with their faces, others show it with their hearts.
      April 5, 2016 6:41 PM BST
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