Hey... so this is my first post on these forums, my name is Alex and for the past few years now, I have began to believe I am transgender MTF, I have been having huge issues with this and its affecting my life dramatically, I was just wondering if I could chew your ear off and ask questions you have probably answered a million times before, I'll try my best not to write my whole life story and ramble on forever.. ok so,
All my life I knew something was different about me, but not in the usual ways transgendered kids are, I was a usual boy in every way pretty much, but found I was far more sexually aware of myself, I was that weird kid that would compare penises with other kids at school, kiss them, take photos of my junk when I got my first flip phone etc etc...let's just say I wanted to have sex badly...before I even knew what sex was,
growing up I was always interested in girls but was never shy to a guy.. I mean my first 3 kisses were guys lol, but it wasn't till grade 11 that I came out as BI, then a year out of school, it suddenly hit me like a tonne of bricks that I was a girl, I have spent the past year obsessing over the idea, I have hung with friends dressed up, practiced makeup etc, but I have also spent a good deal of that time in counselling (without parents knowing any of this) because I have grown up with ADHD,OCD and later on in early teen years got depression, anxiety and developed tick disorder from my OCD, so its hard for me to know if this is real or just my attempt at an escape from myself as I have been depressed for ******* years.
every day I wake up, its the first thing on my mind and the last when I go to bed, I see girls and feel jealous like crazy, I am friends with mainly girls etc etc... but I still snap back and forth between thoughts of "im a girl ...no im a guy" all day every day ... and quite intensively so... my over active brain won't leave me alone and I am incapable of not thinking about things...and this has been first and foremost in my brain for a whole year now! I am totally guyish for the most part, I grew up playing video games, skating, playing guitar etc and still do all of them today, I build and repair consoles and computers, own every console you could possibly imagine and over 20k games both digitally and physically etc... so my interests have never been girly until trying to accept this,
the thing that messes with me is that I feel like I'm trying to accept this too much, unlike every other trans person who fights it off till they no longer can, I feel like I'm forcing this and one day ill wake up and go "****...what did I do" I know I can be as guyish as I want and I plan to be a tomboy skater girl, but its hard to say if that's who I am or who I could feel comfortable being cus its close to still being a guy.. this is my mental space every day and its exhausting.
to cut a very long story short, I only feel truly happy when I am dressed up, otherwise I constantly feel like a 13 year old ADHD boy who can't grow up, but thinking of myself growing up as a man just makes me see no hope or reason to live...but as a girl I see a life worth living...
I guess my question is this, is this sort of back and forth and these experiences I have had, are they normal for trans girls/guys? cus from what I have seen, once they realise, they accept it and it naturally becomes every day.. for me I feel I need to force it.
thanks for reading if you actually did, sorry for rambling
Thank you for the replys ! I will be sticking around this site for a while, thats for sure, you have so many helpful posts and tutorials and so far everyone seems super nice,
Ill try my best not to overthink things haha
thanks again