March 8, 2006 6:09 AM GMT
Brina,
See, I know that it doesn't really matter if I get read, but, at my age, there is a lot more pressure to fit in and be "normal" than for someone a tad older. I've always been a bit tense, I get some pretty bad anxiety. My doc started me on something for it about a week ago and I find that the "looks" I were seeing are almost nonexistant, or that I get looked at, but it's not a bad look at all. If I think rationally about it I know I don't get clocked that much, I never have trouble w/ my voice and other than a few facial features that bug me I think I look pretty female. I'm still sure I get read sometimes but I'm not so worried as I was. Anyways, it's funny how lowering your anxiety level can help things along..
~Jenny
March 8, 2006 6:48 PM GMT
I think you may be pointing at something important, Jennifer. The greater pressure to conform, that is what I heard from my ten year younger sister when she was in her late teens and early twenties. She simply said to me: "The way you and K (my one year younger sister) acted - not trying to fit in at all, that simply won't work anymore."
I did think she was exagerating a bit, but could also see that she were right. When I talked to her about it we were in the middle of the feminist backlash of the 'nineties. My sister also confirmed my impression that it wasn't just a question of a "feminist backlash". It's a general question of social pressures to conform.
There may in fact, I think, have been some advantages to growing up in the late sixties, and in the seventies.
March 9, 2006 4:01 AM GMT
"Btw. I thing also that you have the right instinct to get dressed. " I don't understand, what do you mean by this?
~Jenny
March 9, 2006 1:51 PM GMT
Yea, I got it, thanks
February 27, 2006 4:38 PM GMT
Welcome to TW, Jennifer.
February 28, 2006 3:50 PM GMT
Hi Jennifer. I meant to write earlier but circumstances kept me from responding to much these days.
First, welcome to TW. You'll find this to be a great place. As for what you do, you strike me as someone with a good head on her shoulders, so I know that whatever path you choose should work out. Good luck.
Mere