October 9, 2008 1:56 AM BST
Hi All.
I have been reading a couple of blogs and the subject of the moment seems to be CYBER BULLYING.
firstly may I say that I have not experienced cyber bullying what ever that may be.I have witnessed percieved either ganging up or ridicule etc by posters in forums on other sites. But my view is words are only words and we decide whether to give them any power or not. My approach has allways been to only take notice of firstly comments and opinions from those I actually know,secondly to take any points of note or new things to learn from what someone has posted. If I ever got laughed out of a forum, being such an egotist and superiour human being I would just laugh at the attempts to intimidate me or make me feel small and know that recieving such a reaction would prove I had hit a soft spot,a raw nerve in an other person. It would be their problem not mine as I never make any posting a personal one. BTW those who know me know that I am not serious about knowing that I am a superiour human some times my dry and self depricating humour sails above mosts heads.
Suggestion:
I use many other sites and forums (much livelier and with higher postings than in here at TW) and in one or two site's there is a time out position that a posting gets moved too. These are usually postings that end up for what ever reason turning personal and thus moved to the back door of a forum so to speak where they can still be read but no one may add to the thread kinds od kills the vitriol that may occour.
So my question I pose you is this. How can someone be bullied by mere words?......I am always amazed at how people react to a posting that they dislike,disagree with or misread and get personal with.
Too many start posting when under the influence of anything and everything other than common sense.
Still Long live free speech.....
now dont all you regular Posters get all defensive here but just an observation from me.
I visit many many Ts sites and forums populated as ever by many from here in Uk and around the world. Some sites have many thousands of members and some not as many. In some sites the quality of the postings is very high as there are a lot of very smart TSwoman out there and Tv's too I may add. Now what I wanted to say is this......in some sites I can go in each day and there can be another 10-20 new subject postings and the number who contribute to the forums can be many .
Being in so many different sites over time I see a pattern emerging from all and every site.
There are the regulars people who will invairiably post with advice to every posting.
Those who respond to postings that apply specifically to just them as in what ever group / label or the topic that applies in their lives.
And the occasional dipper of a toe in a forum.
The trouble this may cause in a persons eye is that there is a clique of a few people and they are top dogs/cats whatever in the forums. So this tends to make those who might post frightened of having a say.
Remeber this happens in all sites I am not pointing a finger here at TW or any members here making just an observation.
To me the healthyist sites are the ones where there are plenty of forums postings keeping people coming back every day to see whats new what is the hot topic etc.
I know I rarely contribute much here I dont in most of these other sites either unless I feel I having something of real value to add or say or can give sensible advice.
For the world of Tvs and TS the topics are generally over the same subjects / topics and questions which I could list easily enough as they get posted so many times everywhere.
A site is only as good as the members who belong and contribute to it and the regulars do their bit.
How do you get others to add contribute ? when you look at membership numbers of a site such as this it is disapointing that more of them dont join in add / query/ question/ joke etc and contribute to making the forums more lively and poss more interesting.
There is one site I use and visit daily only to read the forums beacause there are so many people who post with such a wicked sense of humour that I am guaranteed to find a smile on my face by at least one posting...often very surreal and off the wall the humour may be twisted often but very funny indeed.
What am I trying to say here ? I dont know other than i would love to see this site flourish more come alive to see more people contribute.
Remember it may be a site for the TG community but we do live out there in the real world full of music TV programmes,politics,religions,Arts,astronomy,physics,biology,transport ,holidays,sites things of interest and LIFE that can be discussed and talked about.
Remember no one can bully you with words online we have the power to see them for what they are and not take a personal offence even if personally aimed now come on fire some juicy insults at me spice up my night
So what are your thoughts about what I have said ?
Any suggestions such as (get of the stage ) lol you know what I mean suggestions to increase rates of postings and subjects covered ?
Sarah (quite a bore at time) he he