November 23, 2008 10:19 AM GMT
I'm very aware of this, Marsha.
However dressing like a whore or drag queen is frowned upon whether the dresser is tg or gg. I have endured a certain amount of that social disapproval as a nurse. So has Stephy. Yet she endured it as a male and as a TS and I as a male in different ways. Was I to bow to social "disapproval" or discomfort with my role, they would have lost 35 yrs of my being a very good nurse. and caring for a lot of the same people. I have personally restarted hundreds of hearts. This is where society can run off the track of what is best, even for itself. Yet the first official "nurses" were males...Knights Hospitalers. Society often screws things up. A lot of males in health care, who care for them, are gay or tg. They are good at their work. Yet, when I went to nursing school, openly gay men were still considered unacceptable candidates. My classmates had to distract more than one fireman, or other macho type, who hassled me to save him what they knew was a certain trip to the Emergency Room if he pushed it. Back then I was VERY busy proving I was NOT GAY. Society not only kept a lot of good men out of nursing, but it put pressures on those of us who went into the field.
This social redirection is damaging to society because of it's loss. You missed the years of women dying in abortion butcher shops that led to today's laws. A woman's life was as over then as a gay man's if her pregnancy was outed. I don't agree that society should have the right to legalize that kind of oppression. It's bad enough what it does in it's ignorance. People have a right to verbalize their opinions of what they don't approve of. They don't have the right to threaten, harm or terrorize someone for their behavior. Society can well be more restricting than a law. Not always. A law can give or deny permission for such abuse.
Smoking minority ignored the needs of their fellow humans and damaged their health until laws forced them to stop. Social pressure did not. Yet, laws prohibiting littering did not stop them from throwing butts all over. The current combination of laws and societal pressure has made them usually behave as they always should have around others. I have gone from wanting tobacco sales outlawed to not caring any more. These laws effect everyone equally. Male, female, gay, TG, white, black, Christian and Atheist. It is a fair law that denies no group it's rights based on their group membership...and it provides that smokers and non-smokers can co-exist.in relative comfort.
It is wrong for society, legally or socially, to force a group to not have the rights that it grants another group, with certain "sensible" exceptions....and HERE is where we run into problems. Women shouid have been allowed to wear pants. In school, women had to walk to school in snow pants and change to skirts in the cloakroom for school; changing back to go home. That was just WRONG. The same way it's wrong to deny males the right to wear a skirt if they want to. LADIES DAY is illegal in CA. You can sue for $1000 in small claims court for every time you are denied equal treatment because of sex......and that is under the old laws before TG equality was passed. It is because society can do so much oppression in it's vast ignorance that laws are set to ensure that interpretation is very clear.
I agree that society can set strong pressures on behavior. That can be difficult to face up to. Let's not make it worse by giving them a law to oppress with so that we all have to start off by being arrested over and over to get our rights, as many groups have done in the past. At least then we only have to face up to individuals not an entire society all at once. Most of my harsh feelings towards organized religion comes from growing up in the highly oppressive society of the fifties and early sixties that was, by and large, due to their influences. I see small communities outside Los Angeles today where churches set the local mood and it can be downright oppressive still. Being a WICCAN in such a town is not easy. It's far easier to be an outlaw biker. The problem with "morality" is who decides what is "moral". I refuse to allow someone else's "faith" and a piece of rewritten, historical fiction to determine how I live, just as I refuse to allow armed criminals to tell me how to live and refuse to be socially pressured into participating as a spectator to sports. These are the same people who decided Chinese and Blacks could not marry Whites. The same people who said it was God's will that Blacks be slaves. Do we really want Society off the leash? They wield enough power as it is.
I don't disagree with your statements, Marsha, in fact I believe very much in Social Pressure's significance.
And, as a student of first propaganda, advertising and then fashion, I have long expounded that fashion is dictated to people far more often than they dictate fashion. (as a straight male I hated fashion and was studiously tough male. Today I love my en homme designer clothing and my stealth en femme designer clothing (no it doesn't fool the girls, just the guys, lol) It can be very interesting discussing whether oral contraception or pantyhose or Women's Lib caused mini-skirts to take off.in fashion (in fact they did not until another product, "GOGO" boots were introduced.. As a friend has pointed out, teenage music is often driven by balding, middle-aged businessmen in Hollywood offices (see Chubby Checker and The Twist) and men and women's fashions by gay designers.(do NOT see Ralph Lauren). We often do not know where our influences come from. Usually, however, they are social and economic. At a time when poor women labored outside, wealthy women had scrupulously pale skin (and less skin cancer). Today, poor women work and rich women have time to tan, so tanned skin is in. Before the 1940's, blue was the girls' color and pink the boys'. Now there is social pressure for you.