August 3, 2009 9:59 PM BST
Tammy (and all others)
Great thread, luv!
**sighs**
I'll admit to being 45 this year, but have given great thought to what my life will be like 10, 15, 20 years and more down the pike. I'm both new and old to living en femme; in one sense I was growing up "girl" before I knew I had gender issues but have really only come to grips with this since roughly 1994-1995 or so. (Hey--that means I'm
still a teenaged girl!
)
I intend to age gracefully. I know I'll be on hormones probably until I die. I intend to live my life--either with the SO or alone--as the woman I've become, to the fullest. (I
really want to surprise the docs at my autopsy.) I'll probably have a wig with some silver in it by the time I'm 55 or so, and a fully silver wig by age 65. I'm not afraid to look my age; as a lifelong epileptic I'm going to be glad to simply be alive at that point.
You shouldn't be afraid to look your age either. Nothing is sadder to me than someone my age trying to pass for a 22 year old hottie. Clothes like that were built for that size and age group for a reason. Go to the pool and look at some of these guys, middle age, spare tire, balding, in a speedo a size too small. (You'll get what I'm saying really quick...along with a case of the screaming giggles.)
But, this is something we all need to consider. None of us are getting younger, and old age ain't for sissies. (Sissies in more ways than one, I might add.)
You youngsters out there, the 18-30 crowd, you've got to think about what your life holds. Start living like a woman now, get used to it. Leave no trace of your manhood, and embrace your new life as a woman.
30-50? Enjoy what you can, when you can. At this point, better start thinking about what you might be leaving behind if you go full time. I have, and I am prepared for the consequences, including loss of income, loss of spouse, and family rejection.
50-75? Get moving. Enjoy your womanhood--you've earned it.
Everyone--please don't spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been. I'm glad I started down the road I have...I wish I could have started sooner. I wish I had known more about this sooner, to start. But, I'll take being the woman I've become/I'm becoming any day over being the man I was.
And I'm looking forward to cuuuuute young men calling me "Ma'am" in my 70's and 80's. By then, I'll have earned that right.
Luv 'n hugs,
Mina
August 11, 2009 5:21 AM BST
Thanks everyone for some inspiring insights. Sorry for not getting back to this post, just some on going medical issues....Ah yes ..."getting older is not for sissies" ......you have to have a sense of humor for sure. Hopefully all this will be over by the end of the year, or shortly after.
The very point of this post, was to get a point of view from ladies in various stages of life. Hopefully, our younger sisters will look forward, and learn from those that have gone before them. My story is not so different, it just parallels the paths of so many others.
Minako, you really hit the right note .........Quote..."You youngsters out there, the 18-30 crowd, you've got to think about what your life holds. Start living like a woman now, get used to it. Leave no trace of your manhood, and embrace your new life as a woman."
This really says it all for the future of our younger sisters.
These forums enable us to pass on our trials and tribulations, and lets us realize how close nit of a community we have. Our future is really in our hands, as we so wish it to be.
Thanks everyone, your thoughts have really helped me for sure. For this, I am so grateful.
Huggs....Tammy
July 25, 2009 3:39 PM BST
Respect, courtesy and consideration, same as any genetic females. Plus old horny reprobates, saying, ''OMG you hav'nt changed at all, you still look hot'' That will do me.
Cristine
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July 26, 2009 10:51 AM BST
Hi Tammy,
the compulsory military stints had ened by the time I was a teenager so I missed the real John Wayne stuff but did all the other stuff and from late teen to late fifties presented myself as a skinheaded scruffy guy wearing shoes, jeans, sweaters that were a disgrace but most of the time it disguised the femaleness but every so ofetn someone would spot soemthing female and then the usual crap started...and I moved jobs, houses etc...I could have been one of the earliest sex changes actaully as in 1961 at 14 I did try to get the family doctor interested in my case but he ran out of house rather than talk to me or get any help - that was probably a good thing as the cure for TS then was loony bin, testo shots, electroconvulsive therapy etc..
now I've a nice new apartment, no real money worries, health is OK and I come from a line of people who all got into their eigthies so I might have a lot of good years ahead...l have lots of plans for the next couple of years and right now I' just typing out a proposal for a medcial device that maybe some medcial diagnostics sompany will pick up on so who knws...I'm not turning into a vegetable like s many 'normal' peole are...
regarding the shrinkage of our bodies its due to the fact that as the estrogen lessens the muscle it also lessens the pads of cartilage etc so the entire skeleton shrinks in...one transitioner called Bernadette over here was surprised to find the she could no longer span as many organ keys...have a look at http://www.pfc.org.uk/node/968
this estrogen effect in MtFs is the opposite of what happens with FtMs and also lesbians show a similar effect due to a trick of hormones affecting them. I'm trying to figure out if there is a corresponding effect in homosexuals but haven't found any research to back me up yet..
Interestingly I now find that my days aren't long enough...
Rose