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  • Erm that's nice Travis, but the name of the thread is New Questions For Men, so my question to you is what is yur question for men.  Also you do know thqat his isn't a dating site?
    I do apologise if I am being rude to and I do honest hope you find your perfect woman whoever that will be.
      May 28, 2016 9:41 AM BST
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  • Hello, my friends.  My name is Travis, I'm 45 and divorced with no children and I live in southern Michigan.  I'm also transoriented.  I happen to be attracted to trans women, those who were born male but now identify as female.  I lived my life as a bisexual man for many years and gained wonderful experiences from relationships with each binary gender.  But, more recently, I'm looking deeper into my desire to somehow find someone who has "the best of both worlds."  And, no, I do not mean that in a physical or sexual way.  My motto is: I choose who to be with based upon personality, not "plumbing."

    What I'm searching for in a woman is strength and devotion to the relationship but also the fortitude to stand up to me should I make the inevitable mistake.  A woman who will stand beside me and, when I need it, will move behind me to deliver a swift kick to the behind.  Well, in short, folks - I'm looking for a partner.

    It has been a while since I was in any type of relationship with another person.  And, like so many others, it didn't end well.  But I'm not going to give up.  There's a woman out there for me.

    I'm disgusted, by the way, with the treatment of the LGBT community.  I wish there were something I could do to produce change and raise awareness for the problems that affect you and those who love and support you.

     

      May 28, 2016 3:37 AM BST
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  • It's true Matt, people do come and go and I am in that category. I used to be very active here but now just pop my head in the door now and then, but it does seem rather empty without some people like yourself too. It's nice to have a variety of different people here and I feel that, at the moment, we are sadly lacking in men! 

     

    Let's hope some of them make their way back here, I'm sure I am not the only one that would like to see them. 

     

    Every woman is beautiful, some show it with their faces, others show it with their hearts.
      March 10, 2016 7:26 PM GMT
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    I don't know Nikki to be honest, at times work takes over for me & then there are personal challenges that crop up but just like some of the girls the guys seem to be here for a while and then move on. Sad but true by the looks of it....

    Not to borrow the strength of another, nor to rely on one's own strength; to cut off past and future thoughts, and not to live within the everyday mind... then the Great Way is right before your eyes. - Yamamoto Tsunetomo
      March 10, 2016 1:18 AM GMT
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  • Here's a question.....

    Where did all the guys go??????

    I know I haven't been on here regularly but they seem to be non-existant these days. What happened? 

    Every woman is beautiful, some show it with their faces, others show it with their hearts.
      March 8, 2016 8:31 PM GMT
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  • That is my little brother, Matt.  Isn't he just so nice?

    "A live lived in fear is a life half-lived." - Native American proverb. "Inside every man is a woman who was drowned in testosterone before birth". - Wendy Jeanette Larsen "It is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you're not." - Andre Gide (French writer)
      January 19, 2016 12:16 PM GMT
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    I admire open ness & honesty, there are some people here who I would be proud to address as friends or even honorary 'sisters' & those are a few of the people who have my admiration

    Not to borrow the strength of another, nor to rely on one's own strength; to cut off past and future thoughts, and not to live within the everyday mind... then the Great Way is right before your eyes. - Yamamoto Tsunetomo
      July 30, 2015 8:21 PM BST
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  • Do the admirers admire you admiring the admirers?
      July 28, 2015 11:14 PM BST
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  • Some people especially the men don't like the word admirer, don't confuse the genuine admirer from the deluded closet gay or the common tranny shagger,  There are a few real genuine admirers real gentlemen, lovely personalities, great sense of humour and realy care on here, the thing is not to confuse this site with the other meat markets.   I admire the admirers we get on here.

    Cristine Jennifer Shye.  B/L.  B/Acc
      July 28, 2015 10:23 PM BST
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    Cristine, Shye (GS Admin) said:
    Marsha said:-

    I also believe in the end it is the TS's decision which way to proceed. I think it is wise to listen to doctors, family and friends before making a decision, but in the end, the TS needs to be comfortable with whatever she chooses.

    Anna said:-
    Marsha, SRS isn't the be all and end all of matters.

    I think thats what is called concurring. allbeit said differently. theres too many wanting what they don't realy realise the enormalities and implications involved. Why opinions have to get so personal beggars belief, because thats all they are, individuals giving their own view on a subject.. why words like venom and hate have to be brought into a healthy debate beggars belief..

    You could'nt find anyone more feminine in her approach to life or as sophisticated as my Cass and she has no desire at the moment to opt for SRS, she is content as she is, perhaps that will change, but it won't make any difference to me. what is right for one might not be right for somone else, does'nt make for anyone being less worthwhile or less a person.


    Very well put Crissie : )
      June 3, 2014 3:22 PM BST
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  • I think I should add that getting that Police presence there on TvChix was not hard work. Every police force has a diversity officer so , if you are a member of that site and want to make a difference then contact them. Having a local Police presence could make a big difference to others safety on that website. So just contact them with your concerns then they can be there for you too. I think there is only one other force on there and that is Tyne side as far as I can remember.

     

    Again please take care .

     

     Seeing this can make a difference . Julia

    This post was edited by Former Member at March 20, 2014 8:03 PM GMT
      March 20, 2014 8:02 PM GMT
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  • Suzy you are correct most members of that site only want TG partners. Also most of them only want one thing and that is sex. Most of them are gay or bisexual and there is nothing wrong in that but , most of them are in denial. They say they only like females then follow that "With a little bit extra" In other words they are intrested in what is between the legs not the person or personality.

    TvChix is just a pick up joint for sexual head cases in my opinion , but that is just my opinion. It does nothing to help Transgenders it does the opposite! It gives us a bad reputation and makes us look like a load of sex crazed loonies not normal human beings.

     

    I recently closed my account there because I was blocking about 10 members a day. So why was I there? Well not looking for sex or a partner , in the unlikely event that I do find a partner it will be face to face in my day to day life.

     

    I was there for one reason only and you can do a search for it on there @Suffolk_Police

    It was me who got that police presence on that website because of my concerns about some members. The police did not have the resources to police it when the cut backs came so I policed it for them hence  my presence there. It drained my brain to be honest but I done my duty and had success in having some people looked into and removed from the site and that included a police officer who was reprimanded for his behaviour. Gives me the creeps thinking about some of the messages I had on there.

     

    Everyone on that website should be very aware that there are some very strange people in this world.

     

    You all take care.

     

    Julia.

      March 20, 2014 7:08 PM GMT
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  • On TvChix.com (I may have said this before) there are many TG girls who don't want any to do with men but prefer TG girls which is odd for me.  As a TG girl, I perfer men than GGs or TG girls, no offence to anyone but to me this is a natural non gay to be with a man as a TG girl.
     
    As you said Jacqueline, diversity is a good thing and we should celebrate, encourage and accept it.
      March 20, 2014 4:29 PM GMT
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  • Madeleine and Suzy-

     

    I am really glad that you revived this important topic. The thread got way off target to another important topic so I am glad it is back again.

     

    I have had many years  to think about this question, and I have come to the conclusion that life is simply a rainbow. You can articulate the various vermetations and combinations yourselves.  I think that the reason that some men prefer TG, crossdressing girls, is that this is the spectrum of the rainbow which their psyche has decided is most pleasing to them. Nothing perverted, but just a consequence of their thoughts given to the subject and their own natural passions. All perfectly healthy and grand. Unfortunately, I cannot speak from experience, but I fantisize about being intimate with a lean handsome guy ----as well as a TG, crossdresser. As a matter of fact, it is my observation that MOST of the conversations on TG sites where sexual relations are discussed revolve around two TG "girls" becoming intimate. This is just another sector of the rainbow. Diversity is a beautiful concept, and I believe we should all just let nature take its course and enjoy living. 

     

    One aspect that my psyche does not understand is that, apparently, there are MANY people in the GS who are TG people who want to be as feminine as possible, but wish to have no sexual interactions with either men or TG people. Viewing that sector of the rainbow from my part of it does not seem logical, but I praise their resolve to be who they want to be.

     

    Jacqueline

     

      March 19, 2014 2:49 AM GMT
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  • I have to say that I did meet a lovely gentleman online several years ago and unfortuately lost contact with him.  He liked me for being Suzy and nothing else and it didn't feel that he just wanted to hook up or anything but I did feel that there was a connection between us and wish I was still in contact with him.
      March 5, 2014 12:34 PM GMT
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    I haven't read all the posts yet, but this is a very interesting thread...

    Is there really such thing as a true gentlemen who might truly like a girl like me? One who would be patient, caring, and understanding?

     

    p.s.  I stumbled across this old thread, hope it's okay to have revived it...

    This post was edited by M G at March 2, 2014 10:01 PM GMT
      March 2, 2014 9:59 PM GMT
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  • Marsha said:-

    I also believe in the end it is the TS's decision which way to proceed. I think it is wise to listen to doctors, family and friends before making a decision, but in the end, the TS needs to be comfortable with whatever she chooses.

    Anna said:-
    Marsha, SRS isn't the be all and end all of matters.

    I think thats what is called concurring. allbeit said differently. theres too many wanting what they don't realy realise the enormalities and implications involved. Why opinions have to get so personal beggars belief, because thats all they are, individuals giving their own view on a subject.. why words like venom and hate have to be brought into a healthy debate beggars belief..

    You could'nt find anyone more feminine in her approach to life or as sophisticated as my Cass and she has no desire at the moment to opt for SRS, she is content as she is, perhaps that will change, but it won't make any difference to me. what is right for one might not be right for someone else, does'nt make for anyone being less worthwhile or less a person.

    Cristine Jennifer Shye.  B/L.  B/Acc
    This post was edited by Cristine Jennifer Shye. BL at January 19, 2016 3:26 PM GMT
      August 5, 2010 12:11 AM BST
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  • Zoe hon, i've said what i felt had to be said & its time i dropped the matter, cos life is too damn short to be bitching all the time. Its just 1 of those things & there are some things that myself & Marsha will never see eye to eye on ( & NO i'm not bringin them up.....lol).



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    Anna-Marie
    "When the world gets in my face i say HAVE A NICE DAY"
      August 4, 2010 10:32 PM BST
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    WHOA!! WHOA!! WHOA!! Everyone take a freakin' VALIUM!!

    Look, from my point of view, this little spat began with my question. So, let me enlighten those on both sides about it.

    I don't know where anyone else wants to be in this journey. All I can speak on is what I have observed and what my personal experience is like.

    So, this is it. I know several women who I would classify as "TS" who have no desire whatsoever to have genital surgery. They are happy with what's South o' the Border. They are not planning on SRS, nor do they in any way desire it.

    I'm a litle different. I need SRS. I think about it often and it hurts me everytime I even think about it. My pain about this is acute. It hurts every day.

    So, from my point of view, I know girls who I would call (lots of people would call them this) "non-ops".

    There is a great big umbrella over all of us, with a legend reading "The Transgendered". It's meant to unite us, not drive us apart.

    Zoey

    One note: Anna-Marie. I have only been at this site for a short time. However, I've seen you attack Marsha personally in several threads. Is there THAT MUCH animosity between the two of you? Really, this ongoing fight between the two of you is one of the few things that makes me pause before coming here. Not taking sides, just something that makes me really shake my head with frustration.
    I am the itch, after it was scratched.
      August 4, 2010 3:33 PM BST
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    Well thank you for your words of kindness & honesty Penny
    Yes we are a part of this community & have questions to ask while we are learning more about our 'sister's' and of course it is only fair that our 'sister's' would have questions for us too.
    I am happy to answer questions asked because it can benefit all of us by improving understanding that we all have towards eachother.


    P.S. My dear Sister's can we stay on topic please, this thread could prove useful to all of us............
    Not to borrow the strength of another, nor to rely on one's own strength; to cut off past and future thoughts, and not to live within the everyday mind... then the Great Way is right before your eyes. - Yamamoto Tsunetomo
      August 3, 2010 11:19 PM BST
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  • Marsha, WHAT makes you such a god-damned expert on the subject when you are NOTHING of the sort!. You're no better or worse than the rest of us! so what might be right for you personally, may not be right for the next girl. Like i said SRS aint the be-all and end all of the matter & the sooner you realise that the better. It might be what some girls want but please do not presume that you know best, Its down to personal choice. Me Personally......i'm prefectly happy as i am TY very much



    Anna-Marie
    "When the world gets in my face i say HAVE A NICE DAY"
      August 3, 2010 11:10 PM BST
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  • I felt that Marsha wasn’t telling everybody how it is or should be but more explaining her observations from listening to her friend's stories.

    Matt and Keef, I have a lot of time for you both and a lot of respect. You are both honest and open and seem quite comfortable with who you are as human beings. It seems you don’t mind being asked probing questions that when I am all to often asked in public, I find quite offensive. I’m sure you can appreciate that a lot of men treat girls as sex objects with no further requirements or depth to our personalities. You are both great examples for other men to follow.

    Hugs and Kisses
    Penny
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    Just an ordinary girl finding her way in this strange life. - What will it take to get everyone to realise that everyone else is also a human being that deserves just as much respect? - How does someone tell their doctor they have hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia? - When I was a student I specialised in Alcopology. It always starts with Alco and always ends with pology. - Waiter! There's a hare in my rabbit pie!
      August 3, 2010 11:57 AM BST
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  • Hear! Hear! Donna.

    I have touched on this before but I'll mention this again. I is my experience, based on decades in mental heath work, that when people endure direct and indirect criticism of their Self for many years....they get touchy on some subjects. We,, as a group, are like this. I do not exclude myself. I've related how I blew up at a party where a TS (absent) was being laughed at. I realized later that it was a button and it got pushed hard. I reacted with anger. (My friends do not like it when I'm angry). I see this same reaction here frequently. Perhaps it's safe to react and get angry here where doing so in the real world would likely get us pummeled. When one of my Sisters gets upset here, I try, very hard at times, to look beyond the front and try to find what is going on to cause their behavior. I admit, that years of being used as an emotional punching bag at work have refined this ability. What I love about GS is the peace and acceptance here. I guess I am invested in keeping that ambiance, so I try to address the other persons core issues instead of what they present with. This has turned potential enemies into friends and respected acquaintances, although we may remain, respectfully, adversarial. It's not easy, it takes work, but some of my closest friends are people I could not stand when I met them. What I'm trying to say is that we carry a lot of cultural baggage with us. The male world deals with things differently. I have chosen to attempt to reject that interpersonal path and take the distaff way to deal with adversarial situations. I implore all members of Our community to try that approach. We have as much to unlearn as we do to learn. Reach out to an angry Sister. She's probably more like you than you think. We have a lot of rejection to work through. It is better to have friends than make enemies but no garden grows flowers without gentle care.

    The best part of it? Aside from having a lot of friends and friendly acquaintances here that I would not otherwise have, I think that when I successfully maintain this attitude it is what moves ggs to chat me up in stores about what is essentially girl-stuff. Women want to talk and I guess I seem emotionally safe, if not very feminine. That was a totally unexpected benefit. So if you can not make the effort for others, make it for yourself.
    "A live lived in fear is a life half-lived." - Native American proverb. "Inside every man is a woman who was drowned in testosterone before birth". - Wendy Jeanette Larsen "It is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you're not." - Andre Gide (French writer)
      August 3, 2010 10:56 AM BST
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  • Melody, Marsha,

    Time to "lighten up" girls!!
    I "believe" that a good hug is in order right about now!

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    "and my needs entwined, like ribbons of light...and I came through the doorway, some where... in the night"
    <p>Doanna Highland</p>
      August 3, 2010 6:11 AM BST
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  • Face it Melody, you screwed up on this one. You were in such a hurry to attack me that you didn't take the time to make sure you knew what I was even talking about. And one example after the other I showed you were wrong and that still doesn't stop you from spewing your hate at me. Of course I use qualifiers because I am expressing my opinion, and I make no qualms about it being my opinion. But I do care when you, Anna, or anyone else takes my words and twists them around to mean something I clearly didn't intend them to mean. Your hatred of me went overboard this time and it showed in a big way.

    Marsha
      August 3, 2010 3:01 AM BST
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