And for the record, I do love Crissie to death...one day, some way, I'll get across the pond and we'll share some face to face laughter...Cass, treat her good or....(smile)

Enjoy the trip!

Traci xxxx

10 reasons to hate Crissie.

What was meant to be a back handed, funny tribute to Crissie's sense of humour, dedication, etc etc etc, has been suspended, ruined. Note so many threads lately being suspended because of illogical and petty personal squables. I often wonder why she bothers. anyway great night last night BBQ on the beach and a few hours in the ministry of sounds, some of us live such sad lives, lmfao .................

Cassandra Whitehead

Personal attacks in a thread that was labelled "satire". *sigh* You are right, dear. The whole thing is quite ridiculous, but sometimes you have an individual who doesn't care about others. And it sucked, because Cris deserved that thread. There are not many people who do more around here and the fact that personal attacks were launched in that thread is quite shameful and I'm sorry I felt the need to respond to one of those attacks.

Z

Sweetie, you are incorrect in your assumptions that I thought it was your fault. I don't think it was your fault. My last post in that thread was directed toward the person that I think went over the line. I got nothin' but love for ya, babe.

Z

“But there is suffering in life, and there are defeats. No one can avoid them. But it's better to lose some of the battles in the struggles for your dreams than to be defeated without ever knowing what you're fighting for.” Paulo Coelho

Translation in Zoey speak: "Go big or go home."

Z

Cristine as well as the others complaining about suspended threads, I was going to edit the negative attack stuff out of the "Bloody Shame" thread, but looking at how much I would have had to cut out, not much would have been left so I chose to just suspend it. The only relevant posts in that thread were the first post and Cristine's response, minus her last sentence, along with those from others saying stop the fighting. I'm in a damned if I do, damned if I don't situation on a thread like that. Everyone wants to think their post is valid so I'm screwed if I edit it. None of the posts were edited, if you can't reread that and see the personal attacks starting and continuing from the first reply, I just don't know what to tell you. I guess those kind of personal attacks are ok if the person being attacked is someone you don't like. I'm sorry, I think we all need to work together and end that stuff.
Hugs,
Marsha

All the bickering going on reminds me a lot of a bunch of men...always trying to get the last word in...geeeez!
I know it's difficult at times to just ignore the obvious vitriol and it does take the patience of a woman to turn your cheek the other way.
No easy answer on how to tone things down other than banning posting by those that choose to ignite or suspending threads or whatever...
But c'mon girls, chill out...
Traci the weedeater! (Oooooppppppsss...-sorry, just trying to inject a little humor)

Cristine, I thought your response in that thread was great.........until the last line where I thought you tossed in an unnecessary jab that built on Rebecca's post. Things just seemed to escalate from there and instead of using factual information as you did to refute what Trine said, it turned into others attacking "why they think" Trine said what she said. That is where the Blood Shame thread went wrong. The effort you put into your posts to provided documented information is greatly appreciated by many here.

Now if the majority of gals would like, I will edit the thread by hiding all the responses except Cristine's, edit out any referral to Rebecca's reply, and then you can start fresh. If that is ok, I will unsuspend it.

Hugs,
Marsha

I don't participate in most of the mud slinging around here. I usually am just a worried bystander. But I have noticed one thing. Things seem to go nuclear when folks start attacking a person instead of that person's words. Instead of saying "I don't agree with that at all, and here's why..." We get "That's total crap. You are obviously an idiot..." And it takes off from there.

I realize that I'm new here and some people have deep history with each other around here, but does that have to come out on the site? Why make it personal? What the hell does that accomplish? You wanted to make someone feel bad about themselves? Job well done, I suppose. But now they are going to have to hit you back to save face. Then maybe they go a step farther, then you hit back with everything you've got.

Isn't everyone sick and tired of this? God knows I am. But I'm ready with a nuclear option myself. I think it's just about time for the mods to put their heads together and say "So and so has been instrumental in having X number of threads closed and has upset these members, several of whom almost never have a problem with anyone." Then vote for that person's posts being moderated or just direct expulsion.

Aren't we close to something like this, especially the way things have been going? And if not, why not?

Z