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  • OK Ladies,

    My question to you all is what things have you learnt during transition or from going out en femme about yourself or your society that you didn't expect?

    I'd be interested to see how things have been different around the world and how similar other things are.
    To love what one has is to be resigned to never get what one wants. Natalie Clifford Barney.
      October 26, 2010 10:07 AM BST
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  • I feel I have learned a great deal since I began my transition nearly 6 years ago. First and foremost is that most of the fears I faced were baseless. Just as the media tends to go by the principle "If it bleeds, it leads." we seem to want to believe the worst in all the what if scenarios we come up against. It just isn't so. Most of society has been accepting and if anything, curious when they learn about my transition.

    I have also learned that gays and lesbians have been very accepting of me. I initially had heard the stories and we have discussed it somewhat here, that gays and lesbians don't like us primarily because they are into men and women of their own gender and see us as something else. The gay guys treat me like a lady, never hinting of any desires beyond being a friend. The lesbians likewise treat me as a friend and have even asked if I plan on being lesbian after my surgery, lol.

    Not such a good thing as the two items above, I have learned there is division in the community where you would least expect it. I have recently learned that this same division goes on in the gay and lesbian communities. I'm not talking about conflicting ideas such as political views and laws. I'm talking about a division between the haves and the have nots. This has nothing to do with finances or possessions, but instead, who's life is going well and who's is not. To be told you need to tone it down about the good things going on in your life because there happens to be others around who are not doing so well and it hurts their feelings is beyond comprehension to me. We talk about how we are a supportive community, then how is it we are suppose to give hope to newcomers if we only discuss the suffering in our community?

    Hugs,
    Marsha
      October 26, 2010 1:54 PM BST
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    Sorry, slightly off topic but I just have to chime in and say how pleased I am to see you back with us again Fiona. Remember our night out at The Taxi Club in Sydney?

    Hugs, Katie x
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      October 26, 2010 10:34 PM BST
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  • Hi Katie,

    I do remember that night in the Taxi club. It was a lot of fun and I was so glad to meet your good self.

    I like to pop in every now and then. I always miss the site when I'm away for too long.
    To love what one has is to be resigned to never get what one wants. Natalie Clifford Barney.
      October 29, 2010 1:19 AM BST
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    Wait till you see the new site!

    Hugs, Katie x
    Success is the ability to go from one failure to the next without any loss of enthusiasm!
      October 29, 2010 1:53 AM BST
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