August 19, 2008 11:57 PM BST
Hi, all--
I find I am not in agreement with Marsha on one point: The dressing issue
is relevant, if only to make people aware that it may be more than a "gay" thing. If Larry actually
was TG in some way/shape/form, then there may be deeper issues than "flirting" with hetero males. We are talking expression of the femme side here; and that for a 15 year old is often expressed through hormonal floods that are hard enough to control when considered "normative."
From an earlier post: “Larry had been dressing en femme at school since January 2008. This could lead to an issue of what were Larry's rights to dress as she chose.” Schools have the right to dictate certain things in order to keep the peace. Do the students have certain civil rights? Sure they do. Illegal search and seizure of their lockers, backpacks, etc.
I’m sorry to disagree with you too, Wendy--the kids shouldn’t always have the right to wear what they want. In some areas, that causes more trouble than making them all wear uniforms. It becomes a pick ‘em at that point in time, and some school districts have chosen to fight the uniform battles than fight clothing that is provocative, out of good taste, and possibly gang related. Peer pressure in today's teen society looms so much larger than it did when we were younger, and stuff we wouldn’t have dreamed of wearing when we were in high school is almost considered normal now.
Back to Brandon: in my less than expert but
somewhat trained opinion, he certainly could not handle being called gay. (For all that, most hetero 15 year old males can't...where I come from, "Them's fightin' words.") Again, peer pressure in today's teen society looms so much larger than it did when we were younger. “Kids threw wet paper towels at him in the boy's restroom.” This has passed mere name calling.
Whether or not Larry was gay/TG, there
was a murder committed here. Again, from the article: “…although more than a year ago he had begun attending meetings of a support group for gay, bisexual and transgender youth at the Ventura County Rainbow Alliance in Ventura.” That says to me at least that there were some questions, questions that needed answering.
Should Brandon be tried as an adult? Absolutely. Marsha, your own words prove that: “…who is to say in his adult life he would not consider the same thing. A murder is a murder.” Should Brandon get some help before, during and after his trial?
You bet. This kid has a sad history, I grant you. (That’s no excuse, by the way.) "This whole situation is extremely upsetting and sad…this poor kid (Larry) didn't have a chance, but it's not like Brandon had a chance, either." Even though there are better ways to handle things, here is a young man that truly needs some help to deal with things.
Sadly, I’m afraid he won’t get it.
Luv 'n hugs,
Dr. Mina Sakura
August 20, 2008 1:18 PM BST
Marsha, you are correct. I thought I had caught all the transpositions of Brandon and Larry caused by a confusing article read earlier.
Oxnard is in Ventura County and not part of the Los Angeles Unified School District as it is in another county. This is only readily obvious if you know the local geography and boundaries.
What may overrule any school dress code is CA recent State laws protecting TG rights. This is where there may be legal questions as State law overrules Local law.
It seems likely that the school had failed, as they have historically, to stop bullying. Possibly Larry had discovered that his tormentors homophobia could be used as a weapon to discourage attacks on him. Clearly, this was a poor choice. Larry may also have been certain that Brandon would never react violently, as most students seemed to be shocked by Brandon's behavior.
There is no necessity for the parent's case to have legal merit. Anybody can sue anybody for anything, no matter how absurd. The success of such a suit is not guaranteed, however. I won't get into the legality of all this as there is no telling. If the state does defend the student's right to dress en femme in school, as some schools in the US have done, it will have enormous ramifications for adults in CA.
I wasn't aware of or intending to indicate that anyone should be able to wear anything they want. Larry should certainly have kept within either the male or female school dress code but it should have been his/her choice which gender he/she expressed as.
February 28, 2013 12:21 PM GMT
as far as im concerned dont dish what you cant eat there is no excuse for murder life is unique and it should be sustained my thoughts go out to everyone involved but to say i didnt know things about my child is border line if not in fact neglect of your child and how does a boy get a gun they not cheap and how does a school allow such behavior to go on this is not the children's fault this is a fail of all the parents teachers that stud by and did nothing and they cant say they didn't know as thats incompetents its 1 of the main parts of been a teacher a person who is there to not only teach but protect the well being of all the the children they are in charge of brandon may have been a bully but those who bullied him should also be held accountable he needs help mentally to get over this he probs thought the only way i can stop this is by making it out that im not gay by killing the person everyone says im with that is also a fail in teaching by both the parents and teachers i can say for a fact that he def told the adults that were there to protect him i live in the uk and bullying is ignored just as bad its a big problem and its all to do with lack education to parents teacher and children alike if a trans like me got bullied i would make the person say if it was a boy live like a girl for a week just to give them that same trapped feeling i feel every day living as a man as some people don't know how to imagine living in others shoes like i do i would never bully someone because i know what its like i can imagine what its like to have problems maybe thats an issue children lack imagination these days
This post was edited by Rebecca Armstrong at March 9, 2013 12:35 PM GMT