January 9, 2010 3:03 AM GMT
I've never tried to go out and try to pass as a woman, except for walks at 2am, when in this city there is still a few people out and about
I have gone out wearing womens clothes in stealth. Last winter I'd go out with a skirt or a short dark dress with a pair of leggings (partially for the weather, and partially to blend my lower half so it wasn't obvious on a first glance that I was wearing womens clothing.
I've gotten several looks though. Two times coming home carrying some groceries, though it was on separate trips. One was a guy that was giving me double, triple and quadruple looks. I just pretended I wasn't noticing and kept up the pace. The other was a woman I passed by very close to home. I had managed a glance back, and I could tell she had been looking back, and had a smile on her face. This second time was "obvious" that something was a bit different about me, as I wasn't wearing the leggings, and it was 8am on a cool November morning, carrying a couple bags of groceries
One other time was last winter when I went skating on the canal. While putting my skates on, I noticed on man staring at me with neither a look of approval or disapproval, just a very extended period before the typical Eureka moment when the light finally clicks on that something appears to be different
The easiest way to draw looks is to wear something or appear to be out of place. I started to relax as I was out an about in stealth because as long as I didn't try to be noticed, I knew most people wouldn't register that there was anything unusual.
If you are trying to pass as a woman and get read, most of the looks of approval from the male demographic you might get are from gay men, TS's or very open minded guys, as most straight guys would be likely horrified that the chick he thought he saw, was infact a 'dude in drag'
January 9, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
I still have not gone out dressed up but i believe that the best thing would be to just do your work and dont look towards the people.Suppose if someone tease you harass badly Keep a pointed pen and thrash the person with it.Keeping a knife is an offense in india but not a pointed pen.
January 9, 2010 3:47 PM GMT
Following what Cristine said a few posts earlier, a good way to get read is going out in groups with other TGs. I know there are support groups that recommend for your safety that you always go out in a group or at least with someone else, but talk about putting a target on your head, especially if your head or someone else's in the group is way up high. Once one of you is made, every last one of you is going to get scrutinized from top to bottom and read or assumed that you are TG like the others. Now most of the time it would unlikely be a problem, just keep in mind your surroundings and avoid strolling past Joe Bob's Real Man's Bar, lol.
Happy strolling,
Marsha
January 9, 2010 5:31 PM GMT
Hi Marsha,
The trick is to have your Tranny Night Out at the same venue as the Tall Women's Support Group uses...
Best,
Melody
January 11, 2010 6:13 AM GMT
Very true, going out in big groups is a sure way to draw attention. Now not that I am against attention, lord knows how I like attention. But two girls out is just a passing glance. Usually I enjoy watching reactions.
Now, get a group together, leaving a club at closing time with a number of girls drunk, in a straight environment, double trouble.
I have been there, this one T girl that I will not go out with any more, when she is drunk ( which is often ), no sense, she'll make issue with Billy Bob, she did this on the streets of Ann Arbor, Mi. Or a guy standing in a dark door way with a hoody on, yes you read right, I could not believe it, being the senior member I told everyone to keep moving, and fast. Good god, did I give her a piece of my mind, only to have her friend minimize the situation, luckily there was no problem. I could go on about groups, but you get the point, like some others have stated here.
I think passing some of these stories along will help others not make this mistake, going to a gay bar, no problem with groups. Straight clubs, two is perfect, three is iffy, at least for myself, or two girls with a few male friends, no problem.
Huggs...Tammy
January 11, 2010 3:25 PM GMT
I must say that i hate teasers.No one has the right to harass anyone.Many people here have got nothing to do apart from gazing at you ,teasing and pass lewd comments.Our police is perhaps the worst police department in the world.I am not hurting anyone by being what i am..These people have no right to tease me.I will never change my ways for these criminals.I have decided to keep something like a sharp pointed object for my defense and will definitely use it if required.
January 16, 2010 9:37 AM GMT
Oh jeeze Crissie, thanks for that. But think back some 6 or 7 years, our ladette period, walking down Oxford street deliberately drawing attention to ourtselves, hooking the back of each others skirts up with brollys, lol. The incident in the Black Cap, both Coming out the loos with the backs of our skirts tucked up in our knickers, just to draw attention to ourselves, not to mention the episode of using the gents toilets. Or were you too drunk to remember lol. It is not just me, lol. But love you so much, you never complain about my arms when I am giving you a cuddle.
Love Cass.