February 9, 2010 9:29 AM GMT
OMG, its not about the survey, its about access to a platform, making comments to correct peoples misconceptions and the automatic exclusions. Causing uproar to be heard and given consideration.
Actually in a lot of cases for TW members it is about the survey as well, Some TW members classify themselves as lesbians, some that prefer men classify themselves as straight. But its about how the general populance percieve us as gay men in frocks, weirdos.
I think most of us are agreed, if your Gender dysphoric and think and present as women, your a woman, NOT a gay in a frock as is the general opinion of the uneducated. While gays and lesbians are more accepted in society, We are still being left out.
If your a woman, still with your female partner, and have a sexual orientation to have sex with women, in my opinion and a whole bunch of eminent shrinks that makes the person a lesbian. If your a woman and your sexual preferences are men, then in my opinion and the same shrinks would cassify you as straight. got it? so then you should voice your opinion on the BBC comments as to why society still sees you as a gay man in a frock.! And thats irregarless of wether your post -op or pre-op in the process of transition,
Right those of you that still prefer women how do you feel about still being labled GAY and its connotations. The term gay does'nt actually specify wether your poking somones bum, or somone is poking your bum. Its just how a lot of people in society see men in frocks.
To those of you that consider yourself straight, women, prefering men do you mind that the vast majority think your just a deviant submissive gay man in a frock?
Don't bother with the survey if you consider it does'nt apply to you, just have a go at explaining yourself in the BBC forum.
The LBG pulls us in when they need support, perhaps we don't want to be directly involved with them. They use us when the need arises, get stuck in. while you have the opportunity. Stop being ostriches.
Its not what you know you are, its about clearing up the misconceptions of how society sees us a sub species of GAY.
Marsha, its about lesbians gays & bi's,? if somone is eronously placing you in this category perhaps you should put them straight,
If you go to the supermarket and buy a tin with a label saying peaches, and it turns out to be drain cleaner, You telling me that your not gonna complain, or will you just stick it in the trifle anyway? yeh right, lol. Your always very vocal with how you percieve things here in TW, the should's and should'nt and how you view things, A previous forum, you more or less concurred with the TG's thinking and presenting as women being straight if they fancied men, define, please how you see yourself? A lesbian?
If your just dessing up in a frock for sexual kicks and giving a guy a BJ to me that in my opinion is a gay man in a frock, not saying its wrong or making a judgment, but if you are genuine women, why should you be labled as such though ignorance and misunderstanding. So your sexual orientations are directly linked to the gender you see yourselves as.
Cristine.
February 9, 2010 1:20 PM GMT
Simple enough Cristine. As you state, your issue is with access to a platform and being excluded, NOT with the survey itself. So my point is because the survey is about sexual orientation as the Head of Diversity said, it is therefore not our platform to express our views on something entirely different. Feel free to make your point to the BBC, I just think you are doing it in the wrong forum.
Basically those that think we should have been included are simply protesting for airtime so their side of the story can be told. What do you want, a lengthy piece about the sexual orientation of lesbian, gay, and bi's; followed with "oh by the way, transgendered individuals don't have anything to do with any of this." It is the wrong platform to benefit us and the BBC should be commended for recognizing the differences and leaving us out.
Hugs,
Marsha
February 9, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
Oh well, while most of society sees me and Cass as Gay men in frocks, as aboslute deviants, I might as well go and fill in the survey, keep my head down and Baaaaaa along with the rest. Cos we ain't ever gonna get a platform dedicated to the trans comunity to discuss our slant on sexual orientation in relation to gender identity
Wake up etc etc
Cristine
Baaaa baaaaaaa ba baaaaa
February 9, 2010 6:54 PM GMT
Chris, I just want to hug you because I know you have the very best of intentions with your argument. I happen to be someone of the opinion that the problem is because of our association with the LGB, and not of the belief that working together with the LGB will benefit us in the foreseeable future.
Sadly it is guilt by association. Probably one of the most ridiculous ways to judge an individual. Transgender makes up maybe 5-10% of the GLBT population at best. That is why I am against being associated with the LGB, it has nothing to do with the people themselves. With such a small percentage we have a small voice when it comes to LGBT matters. Here you are trying to scream "hey look we are different", the problem is they still can't see or hear us through everyone else out there. To differentiate ourselves I believe we need to be different, and that means separate. It doesn't have to mean we can't all work together for equality for everyone.
Hugs,
Marsha
February 9, 2010 9:03 PM GMT
I completed the survey. I said my orientation was bisexual. They also asked if i live in opposite gender to by birth gender which i said yes and asked if i sometimes assume the opposite gender to my birth gender to which i said no.
I made quite a point that it is quite imposible to discuss or portray gay, lesbian and bisexual people and life styles without including transgendered people. Although being gay and being transgendered are quite two different things no one can understand one to its entirety without understanding the other. The BBC seemed quite interested in how they portray gay, lesbian and bisexual people. They asked how well I thought they did, I said they did a really crap job considering every transgendered person gets asked "How long have you been gay?"
Thats my input! lol
Penny
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