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A Yard stick perhaps ?

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  • Hi peeps some of whom no doubt know me and are still frequent visitors to this site and the forums themselves.

     

    Its been what only 4 years since i went full time ? how time flies. I only came here because a member here reccomended a friend to me ..........certainly a suprise seeing how i have been totally inactive here.

     

    Still i thought i would make a post to mention this.

     

    I used the internet to do my reserach RE my gender condition. I also used it for some social functions meeting Katie Lucy D and many others.

     

    But all I seeked was Normality ( i can now see the debate about what is Normal following that statement :-P ) , so I did what i needed to do never talking about any part of my transition but passing on information when i saw rubbish being spouted in various forums as and when (here and other such sites) that was say in my first year or so of transitioning.

     

    I found the whole process quite natural easy peasy and no stress at all more a case of 100% relief.

     

     

    So this Yard stick then ?

     

    well it struck me how alien this site ( that includes all other such sites of the gender varience ilk that i have been a member of) having browsed the same old topics in the forums it feels alien to me.

     

    I honestly cannot relate to most of what I see and most of what i hear and read by many.

     

    So how shall I take this ?? how should you take this ?  not ment as an insult just that i have become just another women of the world with normal everyday concerns seeking that perfect man ( well certainly never learned there just like most women then  Undecided) career home friends etc.

     

     

    So I guess what i am saying is this. I think its very healthy not living an online existance like so many i have met living in a kind of nether world ( this is mor for those of the transgendered male / females    than those enjoying their transvstism/ cross dressing  times)

     

    I know not all is black and white but for many who found themselves out of kilter with what they really are and doing something about it returning to a site such as this though i am sure i could impart much experience and some wisdom concerning the whole gender change  issue. I actually have no inclination to do so or desire to do so. having said all that i thought important many moons back.

     

     

    So my own yard stick being in here today was OMG this is strange , this is weird i feel so out of place here. 

     

    I guess you could call that progress. Cool

     

     

    May you all find who you are .

     

    Best wishes

     

    Sarah

    flowering into the woman I always was.
      August 8, 2011 5:04 PM BST
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    Hi Sarah, it sounds to me like you have simply moved on.  You have been full-time for four years so perhaps you don't need a site like this anymore.  The people who come here do have a need though so please don't think for a moment that because you have successfully progressed that sites like ours are no longer needed.

    In fact, it is we who need you.  Many, many good people like yourself have come here over the years, looking for information on transgender issues and friendship (which many cannot achieve offline because of their circumstances).  Then after some years they have transitioned and some have said to us, "I don't need you anymore, I'm a real woman now", and left, which I have always taken as a slap in the face and it hurts.

    However, others have spent years here and living full time in their chosen gender and have then transitioned and realised that they now have a great deal of experience in this area which is very sought after by those who are following in their footsteps, perhaps a few years behind.

    Some have stayed with us after their transition, to give something back and to help people who need the knowledge they have acquired already.

    If you want to stay with us and pass on the benefit of your experience to others then you will be very welcome.  If not though, I will understand.

    Hugs, Katie   x

    Success is the ability to go from one failure to the next without any loss of enthusiasm!
      August 8, 2011 9:59 PM BST
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  • Hi kate .


     


    not for one minute did i imply that a site such as this or others have no place or are not needed.


     


    That was never my intent.......................more a case of explaining maybe to those who have known me of where iam and why iam no longer seen around.


     


     


    Your site does stirling work i was just shocked by my own reaction i felt like a fish out of water when i logged back in. which for me as a yard stick is a good thing.


     


    Unlike (unfortunate but something i have seen so many times.......) many who create hierarchies within Tv and Tg worlds that are purely existant only in the minds of those creating such hierarchies. As can be seen by many of my postings in the past i have stressed the SPECTRUM that exists within gender and within sexuality.


     


    So if my posting gave any impression of the I do not need you now kind of expression thats strictly not how it has been. I have given of my time posting in pertinant pots passing on the knowledge and experienced gained.


     


    But I have helped many elsewhere both person to person as well as within countless TG forums online my gained experiences.


     


    I just wished to express how being away from such sites for over a year has shown me where i currently am and i hope shows others treading such a path that in time they too will reach a place where they maybe no longer feel a need to have such an online presance.


     


    I never forget friends and i know others have found the whole process much more difficult than maybe I have but then it is also surely a positive thing to hear of anothers positive progress too iam a firm beliver in spreading good news rather than bad news.


     


    my post was in essance for the likes of you and others who met me back in 2002/3/4 at a critical stage of my own acceptance and realisation.


     


     


    and i have passed on this web addy to many during those years.


     


    again i wish you all the best and congratulate Katie for her continuing and tireless work within the gender field. I have done my own in the quite bit as well directly with Cx and indirectly via user pressure groups there.


     


     


    You all count never forget that :-)


     


     


    Love respect and peace to all


     


    Sarah.

    flowering into the woman I always was.
      August 8, 2011 10:19 PM BST
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  • Smile Heyyyyy   Sarah, wondered were you had  gone, Gawd is it that long ago since we all met in manchester and had a meal.  smiles nice to see you, nothing to report I am still sat on the fence I dont change. Wish you well, yah always was a woman.  Janey. xxx. ps nice to get an update from you. xTongue out

      August 10, 2011 3:56 PM BST
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  • Hiya Sarah,


    Glad to see you are doing well :)


    There seems to be a lot of judgemental people wherever I go and I realised that these people try to live up to the standards they think others have and hence set themselves those standards as well. What is important for me is that I listen to my heart and not what others have to say about how I should live my life. I'm glad you seem to have a similar approach :)


    Love


    Penny


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    Just an ordinary girl finding her way in this strange life. - What will it take to get everyone to realise that everyone else is also a human being that deserves just as much respect? - How does someone tell their doctor they have hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia? - When I was a student I specialised in Alcopology. It always starts with Alco and always ends with pology. - Waiter! There's a hare in my rabbit pie!
      August 12, 2011 4:58 PM BST
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