I am Chris, 16, from Olympia, WA. I'm looking for some help with some issues I have about my gender, but my parents cannot afford therapy sessions. I've been at least queer ever since I was about eight and it got to the point around when I was eleven to where I thought that I should have been a girl and that being a guy was not who I am. I started having dreams about being a girl and dressing as one. By the time I was like thirteen I really wanted to see what is was like dressing as a girl, but never got an opportunity since my mom's clothes were really big on me so I gave up on that. It was pretty stressful with moving around from place to place and school to school since my dad is in the military and I was pretty alone and shy. I looked at girls almost longingly and really wanted to be one. Everything about my body feels wrong except my weight and my eyes, I hate body hair it's repulsive, I hate how scraggily I look and my physique. I hate my private part more than anything, it's revolting and I hate looking at it. I started taking less and less showers too because I hated looking at my body and I felt so repulsive. Eighth grade came around at a new school again in LA and I remember my friend saying that I would be a really good looking girl if I was born that way and I remember feeling so sad because I wanted to be beautiful and I wanted to be like any other girl in the world, but that I would never be able to. I kept it a secret from my parents until last year and they thought it was just a stage I was going through and they still do because I never bring it to their attention since they push it aside and refuse to help me. I like females more than males because most females are gorgeous and amazing in general! Most guys are mean people to me and I can hardly relate to men, there are some good men, but all are ugly to me. I just was looking for some help knowing if I'm transgender and if I should persue hormonal theropy or not and any advice.

Hi Chris,

I am really sorry, but I have to ask you to leave this site. It is a painful thing for me to have to do, because people of your age obviously need help and guidance, but this is a legal requirement and this site could be closed down or censored for allowing under age people to join. You need specialist youth help that we are not qualified to give you on a personal basis.
Please make notes of the links for youth help, I know from personal experience the confusion and heartache caused at this age, and I wish you all the best for the future and would look forward to seeing you in the future when you have reached the age of 18.

UK Organisations:
Mermaids:- http://www.mermaidsuk.org.uk/ (UK based transgender teen and family support)
The Tavistock and Portman Clinic (NHS Clinic):- http://www.tavistockandportman.nhs.uk/childrenyoungpeoplegenderidentityissues
Gendered Intelligence: Is an organisation for helping transgendered youth (aged 13 to 25): http://www.genderedintelligence.co.uk/index.php
No Limits: Helping transgendered youth in the Hampshire/Dorset area (aged 13to 21): http://www.nolimits-southampton.org.uk/yp/index.php?page=breakout
Action for Children: http://www.actionforchildren.org.uk/our-services/young-people/identity---lesbian-gay-bisexual-transgender

Outside the UK:-
Gender Advocates: http://www.genderadvocates.org/Tyra/TYRALinks.html  A good place for younger users to start. Provides links to numerous youth oriented TG resources
TheTrevorProject.org: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/ - Suicide prevention helpline for LGBT and questioning youth. Available 24/7.
Boston Childrens Hospital: Gender Management Services: http://www.childrenshospital.org/clinicalservices/Site2280/mainpageS2280P0.html
Trans Youth Family Allies (TYFA): http://imatyfa.org/index.html

Another site which may be of help include:-
Laura's Playground which has a pecialised section for both parents and young people identifying with gender dysphoria which can be found at: - http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/index.php?showforum=31

Once you have copied the links to organisations which you find the most help, I must ask you to leave this site.  I am so sorry that I have to do this.
My best wishes for the future and hopefully in 2 years time when you are old enough, you can rejoin and gain some friends and support here.

Carol xx

If you do read this Chris then take heart that at 16 I also requested help but went to my local GP who referred me to a Psychiatrist. Many people could write their own ending to this story.

My concern is that your tale sounds a tad staged to me and if that is the case then it needs to be exposed as the vile act it is. However, if you are erudite and loquacious, and do have a literary flare, then you may well be more feminine than masculine.

Either way, we have to decide on probabilities about the validity of your post so the prudent and cautious action would be to call this one malicious.

I am sorry if any offense is caused but if you are valid, and you can write with such insight at such a young age, then I am sure you will understand and be sympathetic to our position.  

 

Regards

Chalice (Master of Arts)

This post was edited by Former Member at March 23, 2012 3:43 PM GMT

Hi Chris,
Your tale actually sounds very familiar, at least to me anyway, I know your underage and can't use this site anyway but email me at [email protected], I know the what you're feeling very well right now and I'll be happy to help in anyway I can if you ever need someone to talk to