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I am ignored, no one will answer any questions i have , charingcross treated me like dirt and were rude to me on my first appointment , i feel so alone with no family or anyone to help me, changing sex has been the same result 2 years on as if i had killed myself as a man , because i have lost all hope of being female now , I work as a NHS nurse and i dont even want to do that anymore, I ddint realize peopl ecould be so hurtful by ignoring you , no returning calls or letters, my GP even told me to go private for my sex change , I dont know why charingcross took so much offence to me on my first visit, I really am so unhappy everything i wanted for the past 20 years has been taken away from me , i feel like a helpless child and i know i will try to kill myself again as its the only thing left they cannot stop me doing , if someone came to me and told me this over two years ago i would have eneded my misearable life then or section myself, i look in the mirror and i am not female i am one bog joke and no one in the NHS cares
oh dear this is a an all to familiar story of girls who have been to charing cross. the feeling of being alone is terrible and i understand that the feelings are strong but please hun resist them and if you ever want to talk or ask a question please get in touch
love
hannah
thankyou, i dont know why they took a dislike to me , i wasnt confrontational i was quiet and when at the end of the meeting of me being asked about my history , i asked a question before we got up to leave , i asked about SRS and she turned round and said" you do know when you cut it off you cannot put it back on again" this made me feel very distressed as i have never had children or straight forward relationships because of my issues in this deptment , so to say that to me was very unpleasant and she didnt know me well enough to say that to me, during the meeting she asumed i had a normal sex life !,
I have had the same from my GP , shes isnt interested and just offers me anti depressents , she said that the gender clinic will make my life hard and delay my treatment , just because i complained about how i was spoken to , as a nurse i have to act professionally , even after being hit by male patients i havnt been rude to pateints , its a dignity thing , seems i have non , gender clinic wont even comment or repsond to me its like i dont exist , i am just told what to do , i feel like a mental pateint in an asylum
I am sorry to hear of these experiences but it isn't the end of the world. You dont need anyone's permission to live full time as a woman, legally. If you want to live full time, you can change your name, your gender, and do it. Be sensible and make the changes over time as you would via the NHS/Charing Cross but you can live as a female if that is what you want. It may not be perfect but life rarely is, so if you are stuck with the option of not having surgery, well, no one sees what is in your knickers unless you allow them too and by that time they should know your physiology anyway (but that's another story).
I say this because due to my particular circumstances, I am currently unable to access the NHS, hormone therapy or a gender therapist etc but so what? I know what I want and who I am and have lived full time for the past two years and have been completely accepted as female. On retunring to the Uk I will be able to gain access to HRT etc and hopefully have surgery but if not, I will continue as I am, and I am far happier now than I was a few years ago.
There is always a way. You simply have to fnd it. Good luck to all those girls in similar situations as the member that started this thread.
Nikki
I looked at this thread from outside when I was a former member and this is not an example of Charing Cross.
All of the receptionists are very friendly and the professsionals are very professional. When I first read it I thought how could the former member have this experience of a very pleasant place? . As the member cannot respond now I can only look at what she has written to try to work it out.
I can recall the member was from Norfolk my old home county. It is a long journey from there and I done it by train and tube many times. So why the post about being treated like dirt? Looking at what she has written she said she was quiet! That is a long journey to go to be quiet the idea of it is to talk .
I remember my first appointment and they could not shut me up , I needed to talk.
I have always been shown the greatest respect by everyone there , it is not a bad place as it is made out to be by the person who started this thread. I can only guess that person was not willing to talk or ask questions or if they did then did not like the answers. They would have been asked questions! Being quiet is no help.
On a typical visit I make there I press the intercom and hear a voice saying come up Julia. I check in then ask for a cup of tea , my response is , Julia you know we cannot make you cups of tea , my response is yes but you will because you love me really , then I get we don't even have time to make ourselves a cup of tea , so I say yeah but I have come half way accross the country and I really need a cup of tea , they have tried telling me there is a Cafe nearby but I tell them if I went there first I would be late. My cup of tea arrives and I tell them every time I said you loved me thank you for the tea.
Charing Cross is funded by the NHS , It is a gift to us here in the UK . People treat it bad and that is a fact , I know one person on this site who said she put her appointment down the toilet and never even cancelled it , then kicked up a fuss when she had trouble getting a new one. I know of many others that cancel it on the day , so that valuable time has been wasted as they cannot get another to come at such short notice , that is genuine people that are on the waiting list.
When people treat Charing Cross the way they do then the current demolition party that runs the UK will cut its funds just like it is accross the whole of our NHS.
The person who started this thread says she is a nurse working for the NHS . I never pick out people for spelling mistakes I make enough of them myself but, for a nurse that spelling is bad , I would not want her caring for me , imagine her writting down what injection you needed or pills! Who knows what you may get if they cannot spell it?.
Now this 6 year old is smart. http://youtu.be/M2f_FcK7zGU She knows the system.
