Recently, I discovered that I can go  out in public in one of my conservative, glamorous outfits and I pass very well. I have a serious question. What do I do when an attractive heterosexual male shows an interest in me? I do not think it's fair to sit there looking pretty and desirable and not let him know that I am simply a cross dressing MTF transgendered person. If a relationship advances my gender will become obvious; however, in those early days, hours, minutes; when and how do I let him know.

Thanks.

Jacqueline

Thanks Christine for the serious and sound advice. Your comments are always of great importance to me. At the moment I'm thinking that I might inform such a man a tiny bit before he has his tounge down my throat.

With my best thoughts.

Jacqueline

I don't have an answer, but would love to have this 'problem'!  : )

Hi Jacqueline, you don't actually have to tell him direct..... Just sit there and talk about yourself non stop for an hour or so without pausing...he'll soon realise your gender! xoxo

You have to play it safe first and foremost, the real world is not like the fantasy one you read stories about. As Chrissy said, be up front right from the get go. If he is interested in you still, at least he knows, but you also give him the time to back off. Men can and do get violent with trans girls even when they know they are trans to begin with. It's not unusual for them to turn violent after sex. (Not that it's necessarily going that far). 

 

Be careful, be honest and enjoy it. Who doesn't like being flattered? 

I found out that is was better to let them know as soon as possible...preferably before they are pulling your panties down. LOL. Telling them in a public place, like at a restaurant, is safest. After you tell them, you should avoid getting intimate with them for quite a long time in order to see if their interest is genuine. That way neither one of you  will be "let down".

Above all...be careful.

Doanna Highland said:

I found out that is was better to let them know as soon as possible...preferably before they are pulling your panties down. LOL. Telling them in a public place, like at a restaurant, is safest. After you tell them, you should avoid getting intimate with them for quite a long time in order to see if their interest is genuine. That way neither one of you  will be "let down".

Above all...be careful.

I think that's pretty good advice. It does seem that avoiding intimacy for too long could be a tricky balancing act. Still, best to take things slow. I agree. I'm not the best to comment though, as I have no idea what genuine interest from a guy feels like, and probably never will.

Oh Madeleine!! Sit down and look at all the positives about yourself! Tall, sexy, great personality etc and carry that forwards!
If you think negatively that's what you'll project.
Sure you will get interest, it's just a question of when! And, none if us knows that! xx

 Madeleine, You do have to think on the positive side of things... Lots of "GG's" don't "put out" that quickly either and further more...you have to stop thinking of youself as "not really female". Linda T said it well.

Thanks Doanna and Linda : )

I'll just clarify...

First, my comment about avoiding intimacy too long wasn't necessarily about putting out or not. It was more about just being careful to avoid playing games or too hard too get when our chances to find someone may be so rare.

Second, I do think of myself as female. It's just very hard to feel right about it all while still in a male body. I'm more concerned that men think of me as female and attractive, that's the hard part.