October 12, 2004 10:42 AM BST
Frankly, I'm sick and tired of people telling me how I should live my life. I grew up at a time when you went to Church or were ostrasized by society. If I listened to people telling me how I should behave because it makes them look bad or uncomfortable or is "bad", I would never wear feminine clothes or makeup. I would be hiding in a closet, thinking I was El Macho while trying to get my foot in a stocking. You know what is bad for society? Oppression. If prostitution was legal, it would not be nearly as dangerous, for the sex workers and their clients. If drugs were not illegal we could use the money wasted on a losing war on drugs to treat the addicts and relieve the social conditions that lead to addiction. Instead we make illegal drugs so expensive that a large portion of the world is run by narcosyndicates instead of governments. Money that supports terrorism would be stopped and taxes on marijuana could be used to fight terrorism and provide for homeland defense. Where does it stop? Not here at TW. When I came here there were those who would tell me how I should behave, when I should dress, what priorities I should put on my life. MY life. MY transgenderism. ME.
My family had no right to force me to go to Church because not going would reflect badly on them and because it was "good" for me than people have a right to tell someone how to live their life. Express an opinion, certainly. This is the "forum" for it. But not everyone agrees with The Truth. If someone is not directly hurting me, or someone else, more power to them. Just because a third party abuses a second party over what a first party does is NOT the first parties responsibility...unless they choose to make it so. The problem lies with the third party. They are the sick ones. We are each responsible for maintaining our own self respect. We can group together to do it. What we should not do is insist on conformity. Viva La Differance! You either stand up for yourself and take it like a woman or live like a sheep and be herded around. Don't make it someone else's job to change their life to make your's easier.
In my old neighborhood, when drug dealers/gangs were shooting people down in the street, injuring those who tried to organize against them. People were afraid to stand up to them. I went out and dealt with it. It was that or let it continue to get worse. My ggfriend did it with me....then a few people joined in...very few. When we left the neighborhood, those who did nothing, came foward and said "But you can't go, who will stop the drug dealers?" They had never spoken to us before. They had not taken responsibility for their own lives. Ladies, you do it yourself and don't make it somebody else's responsibility. You don't demand respect, you command it. Be a lady and you will be treated like one more often than not. There will always be the ignorant and cruel. That is life. Deal with it. One in three women is raped during her lifetime. My ex, at 5'3", left her attacker with a bloody nose begging her not to hit him again. She was attacked, by students, three times teaching in South Central L.A. and is still teaching over 20 years later. I did the same thing as a sissy "male" growing up and will do it again as a t girl. If I don't, it will be my responsibility. I don't expect any of you to alter your lifestyle to fit MY needs or sensibilities. Will I be scared, probably. Courage is facing fear. Not being afraid is stupidity.
JJ, you do what you feel is right with your life girl. I'll deal with mine in my own way.
Hugs, Wendo X
. I mean if all it intales is meeting a gemelman @ his hotell (loby not room) and being his date for the evning for a special event then I see nothing wrong with it. However if it involves anything more that that than I say Yes it is prostution.
