March 2, 2005 12:37 AM GMT
Same thing happened to me, though no bikers involved. I told a friend, years ago, he told a friend, his friend made assumptions and told someone else who told several of my friends…
All of a sudden, everyone “knows”, or thinks they know. Whether you face your friends and tell them like it is or avoid them for a while probably depends on who your friends are. But when the truth outs, it’s never as bad as you think it’s going to be.
Just be proud to be you my dear, you’re a lovely person.
xx
March 2, 2005 9:19 AM GMT
Pips
Even if people tell other people stuff in confidence they often just can't keep it to themselves. They think; surely if I tell just one other person it won't matter. Everybody ends up telling just one other person thinking it won't spread. I've had a similar thing in the last few weeks with my "lovely" wife telling her friends and family all about me. Some peopole have kept it to themselves but others I know have spread it around "just a bit". People tell their partners, partners tell their best friends and so on. I'm off to a party on friday night and I know that at least four people there now know, and it's the first time I will have seen any of them since they found out. Should be fun!
.. But, if they all think they are the only one who knows and they don't mention it to each other then it will be OK ... won't it! Is that what they mean by an open secret?
I hope it blows over for you quickly. I appreciate that certain bits of your gossip have implications for third parties, at least I don't have to deal with that.
Take care
Cerys x