Well done Vicky!  I bet your wife's acceptance was the best Christmas present you ever had and I hope you can build on your new relationship in the future!

If I may just give you a little advice though..........
I came out to my wife before we got married and 30 years later, it can still cause problems.  In my experience, a loving wife wants to support her TV husband, but not necessarily encourage him.  My wife helps me buy clothes and make up, takes me out in the car and puts up with my shaved legs, painted toe nails and pierced ears.  BUT, she married a man and at the end of the day, that is what she really wants me to be.  Sometimes, we can be lying in bed and I just want her to feminise me and suddenly she will say something like "Ooh, I love it when you haven't shaved and you have that masculine smell about you."  Frankly, it's a big turn off for me, but how would I feel if she wanted to wear a false moustache for bed and she stopped shaving her legs????  

What I am trying to say is, you have overcome a very big hurdle, but tread wearily and show your wife that you love her.  As she sees you exploring your feminine side, she will begin to worry that you are going to want to be a woman full time.  Unless she has lesbian tendencies, she will become very worried about how things progress, so continue to do what you have just started - TALK!!!  

I hope you have fun together.  It certainly helps to share your secret with someone!

Best wishes for the future

Lisa

Well done Vicky.

Most keep it secret for years, for they fear rejection. Although wives don't like the lies, they can usually appreciate that fear of rejection. I bet you feel so much better now!

I came out to my wife (then my girldfriend) years ago when we were students. She wanted to dress me up for a party, so naturally I agreed (who wouldn't). But I couldn't hide my delight at wearing a mini-skirt and stockings. At the end of the evening after she had un-dressed me, I put the bra back on, and joked that she'd lost it now ... she just said, you like that don't you? I just said Yes, the feeling of emotional release was huge. I think deep down playing with that bra was my way of telling her, for me perhaps easier than words.

I've only been to BS and other meetings these last few months, as my wife had previously liked 'our' secret to stay that way. But I've enjoyed been able to socialise as my true self, and have appreciated the mutual support. So I'd recomend that you do go.

Where do live Vicky ?

All year I'd unknowingly been building up to coming out to my wife.  Earlier in the year I'd bought her some stockings via the internet and some for me too of course.  She opened the package when she wasn't supposed to.  She made a few jokey comments about it but they stayed in the drawer.  She assumed I just had a fetish for stockings.  

Then earlier this month she mentioned seeing Eddie Izzard in drag and gave me a knowing look.  Before I knew it I had come out to her as a transvestite, which was a shock to her as her look hadn't been as knowing as I'd thought.  Still she's taken it pretty well.  What upset her (and quite naturally) was that I'd kept it a secret for 18 years.  However she's taken it pretty much in her stride and in some ways it has brought us closer together.  She wants to understand more but doesn't really want to know too much about the dressing.  Sexually she was off me for a while but we're back to normal now, although after two weeks my libido is still raging.  Before I came out crossdressing was an occasional thing but now it is all I think about.  I'm dying to build up a wardrobe without having to feel the guilt.  I'm studying women all the time trying to decide the look I want to go for.  What sort of wig should I get?  Are breast forms necessary?  What bra cup sghould I go for??  What sort of shoes?  How do you apply make up?  The decisions a girl has to make eh?  Up to now it has been a private thing, but I was thinking of going along to a Beaumont Society meeting.  I just have to pluck up the courage and more importantly the wardrobe!

Overall, Vicky, it sounds like everything went relatively smoothly, but do you think she'll reach a point where she's willing to talk about it more or even participate with you?

hi girls ,i told my wife last year around this time ,we are married going on 34 years and i had been dressing in secret for most of that time as most cds i started early with a pair of nylons and that is how i began,so after a long time trying to tell her i was in the hospital for a heart scare and i decided this was the time to let her know about my second self,it took a long walk to do it but i finally did and she took it pretty good ,and since then i came out and i havent looked back ,to me being a crossdresser is the most satisfying thing to do and i love it   love to all phylis2

Hi Chrystal

Welcome.

Sorry to hear about your problems. I hope it all comes well for you but I'm sure you will find some sympathy and advice here.

Hugs

Sarah