August 10, 2006 12:05 PM BST
It’s not for others to tell you whether you are TS or whether you should transition or not, it’s for you to work out over time. I’m sure some of us forget our own internal struggles once we have made that decision, it all seems so clear cut now. You are less than half my age, Jessica, there is no rush to “make a decision”. At your age I wouldn’t have dared to go out in public, and although I always wanted to be a girl I certainly wasn’t sure if I had the strength to transition, tell my family etc etc. None of this means that someone is not TS. I think you’re going the right way by tentatively taking the first steps. You do need to explore this side of yourself, work out what it all means to you. Once you start going out in public and interacting with other people you might be surprised by what is revealed. It’s quite possible you are TS, but points #4 thru 10 from Sarah Lynn are wisely repeated.
Personally speaking, or maybe it’s just because I’m English and we don’t have the same “therapist culture” here, I think going out and being yourself is the best therapy. It will tell you more about yourself than any therapist can. But I’ve never been to one so maybe he or she will be a great help…
In your profile you talk about being tv/ts; they are two different things, maybe two points in a gender spectrum, but whatever, you need to work out which best applies to you. If you just enjoy dressing and “being” female at times but are happy living as male in “real life” then you are probably TV, and maybe there is no need to come out to the world and upset your family’s apple-cart. If you are TS, you will probably reach a point in your life when you realise you can’t function properly as male, and transition becomes not so much a choice, but an inevitability.
Take your time, don’t feel pressured by anyone’s opinions, including mine, and above all, enjoy yourself wherever this journey may take you.
xx