hi every one after years of termoil i have finaly taken the 1st few major steps to being the real me, this week as seen me start the legal prosess of changing my name (no more things adressed to him hip hip horay) , talking to my boss and agreeing a time line for transition in the work place ( i still can not beleve how supportive my manager was), and today i told my mom and dad this was the hardest thing i have ever had to do , went down like a lead baloon. now to hope the doctor will get his finger out on my next visit. all thats left is to decide whats for oxfam or the tip ( yahoo more wardrobe space)

Best of luck girl .......................woo hoo for you
We are here for you always.
All the best
Sara

hi all after nearly 4 weeks i have just had a talk with my bank as to why no new card and chq book in my name to be told they can not issue them till the firm that does there credit checks as completed a check on my finances, as any one else had this problem its vey embarising having to use a chq book with mr on it. i look forwards to any comments on this. paula

Congratulations girl
the first step is the biggest
hopefully only good feelings from now on
and your parents come around
mine did not, but I am happy living without them
you have a good support network here, use it as much as you can and want to

doctors are slow every where,
some times you have to push them to do something or even to see you,
my friend in Wales has waited over year to see some gender Specialist and
sunk to giving up because of it,

i just think it is sad we have to be forced to wait, again, for treatment in some places when we have already waited a life time

good luck with the next step and all the best

Best of luck Paula, the first step is the hardest, I hope you are able to become everything you want to. It may be difficult at times but you'll always have us for support.

Nikki

This seems to vary from bank to bank Paula since some people have been issued a card in their femme name with no problems. I was advised that it isn't the name on the card that is important, but the health of the account. I am just about to apply for one myself so I'll let you know how that goes.

Nikki

Hi Paula-

I just wanted to join in with the others in wishing you the best of luck. Good for you, girl. As to your bank, they may have rules, as you mentioned, that they must run a credit check on your female name and since you probably don't have credit established in that name, they may use that as grounds not to set up an account One possible solution is to have checks printed with both your male and female names on them. That is what a t-girl I know did. Then once the account was established she had cards issued for each name and just uses her female one. I gather you really don't want your male name showing at all, but it is one possible, hopefully temporary, solution.

Best of luck, Paula.

Hugs...Joni Marie