hey guys i have a few issues that i need to get past here. im out but my family still wont accept me. they wont buy me any of the supplies i need to pass and i dont have that much money ive told them that i have been like this since i was five but they still think its just a pahse how can i mke them understand

Hi Lendzy welcome to Tranny web you will find a welth of information here and so far all the girls I have talk to have been very nice so plese feel fre to ask any of us any question you may have, or comment you have (with in the user aggrement tha is) if some one doesn't know the answer to your question don't get dicourged because some one in here just might have the answer or a sugestion for you. As for your problem I kind of have the same problem but I'm not to my family because of some statements that were said not thatlong ago so I understand how you feel. Money is an issue that faces many of not all of us here so all you need to do is go little bit by litle bit as you get some money to spend on your self use it wisley and only get the tyhings you need the worst and go form there. For clothing go to a used clothing shop they usualy have nice things there and some are use to us so don't be scared, for other stuff I'm not shure what to advise you but I hape thing do work out for you.

Lindsey.

Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays

http://www.pflag.org/Get_[...].0.html

Find your local chapter and they will help you with dealing with your family. Despite their name, they have expanded to support the TG/TS community.


Here are the chapters in NY state: http://www.pflag.org/map/[...]tate=NY

hi Lindsey, don't forget that this is a big shock to them. You may have been dealing with this since you were five, but your family haven't so you can't expect them to be completely accomodating overnight.

Give them the time they need, and be patient yourself, we are notorious for wanting everything right here right now but where loved ones are concerned, it is important to move at their pace, however frustrating that might be. Once they realise you are serious about this, things will usually improve.

Of course, they may never come around to seeing you as female and that is something you may have to deal with too, I hope it never comes to that.

Nikki

Hi Lindsey-

I just wanted to join the other girls in wishing you the best and in welcoming you to TW. You've come to a great place for advice, resources and just to be who you are. As Nikki said, you may have to face the possibility that your family may never be okay with the idea that you are TG and you may have to move on with your life without their support or understanding. For many, many people, the concept that someone may feel that they're a different gender than what society says they are and may want to openly express that difference is just too much to get their heads around. It's a common affliction, they may not be able to help it. And Wendy is absolutely right, as she usually is. If they are not completely closed off to the idea, getting them involved in PFLAG or a similar organization may help. There are lots of resources on the web, but for heaven's sake, please don't encourage them to just start googling things like transgendered or transsexual or crossdresser. They may get places like TW and other sites like it, but they may also get an eyeful of porn. Sorry, but that's how it is.

And now I'm going to ask a question that may upset you. Why do you feel that your family should supply you with the items you need to help you pass? If they don't agree with what you're doing, then they have every right not to help you. Sorry if that sounds harsh, Lindsey, I don't mean it to, it's just realistic and how life is. As far as getting things like clothes, makeup, hair, etc, most of the items aren't that expensive (though they can be, depending) and you can build up a kit slowly, one item at a time as your budget allows. TW is a great place and anyone here would be happy to share tips and tricks about getting more femme and how they've coped with issues like an empty pocketbook.

Best of luck, Lindsey. Please stay and be a part of the TW community.

Hugs...Joni Marie