January 28, 2009 3:08 PM GMT
Wow.......... my wife and I are divorcing too. I told her BEFORE we were married who I was . She thought she could "Fix" me . Yeah right , I own an ocean within the downtown business district of Phoenix Arizona. I also have a nine year old son who is now getting resentful of "Daddy's " strange way of dress and overall appearance . I can work through the separation with the wife . I don't really know how to work through things with my son. I don't want to lose them but I think in the end it s a probability. Ellen S.
January 26, 2009 3:25 AM GMT
Calida,
I hope you are feeling better right now. I know what you are going through, as do so many others here.
Please be well.
Mere
January 27, 2009 2:14 PM GMT
Calida, I am sorry that this has led to you being separated, but it was probably going to come out sooner or later, and sooner is usually less painful and easier for you both in the long run, although that's not to say it isn't difficult for you now of course. You don't mention whether or not there are children involved, as this can certainly be a very difficult, upsetting and confusing time for them too.
I wish you the best of luck in your transition, now you have the opportunity to progress.
Nikki
January 28, 2009 4:05 PM GMT
It's the worst situation when it involves children as well I think. But maybe that's because of my own situation. I believe that ultimately, if left alone and not 'brainwashed' a child will deal through the issues facing them but will still love their parent, you just have to show them that nothing regarding your relationship to them has altered. I have older children who know about me and are fine with it, my younger ones, well, they'll ask questions when they get older and I'll be honest with them.
I hope that everything works out for you both in the end, although it's difficult and painful times ahead.
Calida - if you want to change your persuasion, email Katie and she will do that for you, it can't be done by yourself.
Nikki