December 26, 2002 9:49 PM GMT
Hi,
I only recently came out to my twin sister. Over the years I tormented myself with the prospect of telling her first but never managed until now.
At times I had got her to apply some eyeshadow but never went any further. Both sisters unfortunately weren't really into makeup which I of course couldn't wait to experiment with
My sister was taking a new job in Germany and while she was still at home I asked her for a makeover. At the time she was still half asleep so I left fairly embarassed and when she asked me later about it I denied everything - made her believe she dreamt it :'(
A year later I travelled to Australia on a working holiday visa and initially went to Dominatrixes where they offered Transformation sessions which were reasonably good and got a lot of photos (most didn't have the type of clothing I liked though). Near the end of my year I crossed the line I'd set myself - I bought some clothes ;D and loved it, tried on wedding dresses and other ball dresses (my favourite)
and had a brilliant time. Moving on to LA was just amazing. I bought a wig, makeup and clothes.
Back home I realised I couldn't deny that crossdressing is part of who I am, but I wanted to reveal my secret. I didn't want anything to happen to me and suddenly my family find clothes and makeup in my room with no explaination.
I decided I had to tell one or both of my sisters. On a weekend away with both with all my gear failed so when I went to Germany I brought my stuff again.
I tried to let my sister notice the wigs (unfortunately shes very very unobservant), I then placed her nail varnish on the chocolate pack we'd just eaten from. At first she thought I'd brought it as it belongs to her and my other sister.
She then suggested she varnish my nails which I agreed to. As she varnished my nails I just came out with it. She was surprised and I shook like a leaf. I had so much to tell her. I showed her the photos and then dressed for her. It took her some time to get used to it, over the few days I dressed most evenings I tried to explain about CDs/TGs and TVs.
Things have been brilliant since (she had to borrow my nail varnish remover before Christmas
)
She also gave me some makeup for christmas ;D
Sorry if this has been so long but hopefully this will help me and others come out!
July 20, 2002 5:51 PM BST
Hi. I thought a lot about this issue and I am not ready to tell my family. I have come to realize that it will take some time for me. I have been trying to find info that will help and I have. It gives me great hope to read about families/parents that are very supportive of their loved one who tells them that they are TG or TS. Someday I hope the I will be able to tell them, but I am not ready now. Thank you for giving me the forum to write what I want to write. You are all very nice and caring and honest. I still have have a lot to learn about transsexuals and about who I truely am and this is very helpful. I am very content with myself now.
I can reinforce that - Be sure you are ready to be OUT when you start - A friend of mine came out at work just over a week ago - a few days later a disgruntled employee spoke to a local stringer for the Daily Star who, short of news featured the story in last Saturdays paper - The problems this has caused for her are considerable - Now she has had to tell all the family and her wife although previously supportive is under a lot of pressure - Remember that coming out - also means that you family are outed at the same time and they have not had years of inner torment coming to terms with this -
That said - being who you are is so important - Dr Vernon Coleman (also a Cross dresser) believes that coming out helps men to live longer and more stress free - so there are good health reasons for coming out -