I could tell by some of your post you have been leaning more in that direction. A chance to meet some people, get help dressing up & go out is not something I would pass up.
But I don't think being carefull is possible. Your wife will probably know sopmething is up.

A happy deviant.

You know this could very well cause a split that might not heal. Your wife seems very set in her opinion. I hope your ready for what ever happens. It sounds like your allready making your choise. I hope everything will work out the way you want.

Good Luck Honey xox!!

Mere honey,you have every right to be proud of who and what you are whatever anyone else says.you are who you are and if people can't handle that well....thats their problem.i can imagine it being hard for your wife to accept,but at the end of the day it's your happiness and peace of mind thats at stake here,i really do hope things go well for you whatever life chucks in your path.Love and xxxxx anna-marie

I'm freaky...but it has nothing to do with my being TG, any more than the fact that I wear glasses, am left handed and like cereal for bedtime snack but not breakfast.

Meredith,
It's damn hard not to hurt somebody when people demand restrictions of others. Eventually two other self-centered people set mutually exclusive boundaries for you (See: Venn diagrams). In trying to decide if/when/who/how I was coming out to this next year...I came to a realization. Unless I was to hide my two lives from one another, rather than become the one Me and live openly, I was going to reach a point where neighbors would know (as I went out and in en femme and had t girls over) and my non-aware friends would come to my house and eventually the "t-girl would be out of the bag" as someone called Him "Wendy" in front of one or worse, my t girls friends and non-aware friends would meet....but even if they didn't, denying my tg friends or hiding them, or even myself, from others is, in it's own way insulting, even demeaning, to them as well as to myself. I may not tell others, I may even duck questions, but I'm not going to lie to anyone...I hope. I'm not ashamed of who I am and, if they don't like it that much, the Hell with them. Cheap friends are cheap. They can be replaced. It's time to live my life that I never had and nobody, straight or tg, is going to tell me how I should do it. Meredith, you may have to live that way, and I don't judge you for it. We must all make decisions based on our own "game theory" formula of wins and losses.

What I'm trying to say is that you can't help hurting those who set themselves up to be hurt by limiting the lives of others. It is not your fault; it is their choice to be hurt. Do they care when they hurt us by what they say? Well, in some cases, yes, they do care and they do it intentionally.

Geez, Mere, even I thought I was freaky when I crossdressed until I realized I was TG. Tell your wife I used to be ignorant too, but I got better. J/K. Better not.

Hi Mere
That had to be hard. I'm having the same feelings about Karen. It's something I feel more & more I need to do. I realy want to know what it's like to be out as Karen. It's not easy feeling this strongly about something & not acting on it. My problem is fear. I'm not comparing our situations. I'm saying I understand the drive you feel. I feel it to. You are motivating me to do something. I don't have the same reasons to back out you do. If you do it will be understandable. Like I said it has to be hard.