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Is this a question many of us ask in a world where the limits of the body are no longer confined. we can reach out to places and people that were for so long out of reach
the internet provides us with information. its a tool that can help us meet new people, communicate in a way that even 15 years ago seemed to be far fetched. we can become, in a virtual world, whoever we want to be. Being Trans on the internet is safe. You click a button and describe yourself and others that feel the same or at least want to talk to someone with some common ground can.
But in the real world coming out is scary. it can be hard and it can be cruel. we are thinking of our loved ones, friends, peers and people we have never even met. it is a world of fear and prejudice but also of understanding and acceptance. Hiding and speaking in the virtual world gives us a voice that is ordinarily kept quiet. To come out in the real world takes a courage that you have to find and thats the hard part. This is what you can call coming to terms with yourself. You just hope others can come to terms too and those are the reasons we hide because we fear the rejection.
But on the other hand coming out can be liberating, as you find that that people can surprise you and dispell the negative thoughts you have. They accept you and even help you move on. This is the ideal we strive for and is the most wonderful part of your new life.
By and large being Transgendered, gay or a crossdresser is still seen as the abnormal. the break in the safe reality society wants to portray. People kind of fear that because its not what they would do. Are we so different? Has the world changed since say the 70's?
Of course it has. technology has changed. Many laws have changed. the very fabric of social interaction has changed. So why is so hard to come out?
we have come to terms with ourselves but its our fear of others reactions to our decisions that hold us back.
The real world likes to think it is liberal in this 'I' this and 'I' that age but the real issues that hold us back are the same as those of the past. It is how we see ourselves and how others see us.
If we come to terms we have to expect others to as well. This is on some level, the most selfish aspect of our lives. life may not work this way. it is a sad fact of life. Others may never accept you but to focus on the negative aspects causes people to hide and wrap themselves of a blanket of defeat causing themselves untold pain. Once you find the way to unwrap that blanket the world opens up. Virtually and in reality. Once you find that centre, that part of you that cannot carry on as you do, you feel it. Many sadly never do and that is a crying shame.
To come out is to break the chains. To come out is to be free. And freedom is a fundamental right of all right minded and morally centred people.
On the internet, on sites like this, we find allies and friends and they are as real as if you could touch them. we laugh, cry and talk on subjects that others would find taboo and scary, but also we find common ground, we find out we aren't alone. we make friendships that are real. Relationships that can carry you through the bad times and give you strength to carry on.
The world has changed, sure. The acceptance of others is still vitally important for us to function. At home, at work, in the shops, on vacation, making friends basically normal life. there are issues that always cause us to doubt ourselves regardless.
Coming out is still as hard now as it ever was. Saying it opens the doors, Its how we move on through them that matters.
